So all in all, I just think things are not going to be rosy anytime soon ... and trying to put a point in time when this particular recession does indeed end won't be so easy. Is that being one of doom and gloom?
Yes.
You seem to believe that a recession ending means that things are/will be rosy. Therefore, if things aren't rosy, we're not out of the recession yet.
That's not how economists think, and not what the word "recession" means. In the same sense that Chrysler is now out of bankruptcy, but is still not yet a healthy and profitable company. But to claim that Chrysler is still in bankruptcy is either ill-informed or outright dishonest.
No one (or at least, no one with any sense) has been saying that things will be rosy as soon as the economy enters recovery. The phrase "jobless recovery" has traditionally been applied to the rather anemic recovery of 1990-1, and has been applied to the expected recovery from this one for at least a year now, for precisely the reasons you mention.
But that doesn't mean that you can't identify when the recession ends. The recession ends when things stop getting worse. It really is that simple.