I always felt a few spectacular reactions performed at home (or in a garage or basement) were an important adjunct to learning the concepts behind chemistry. Chemistry kits (especially today with an enormous (and often illusionary) emphasis on avoiding potential litigation)) just don't do it for me. At least one in 5 reactions should produce a flame or a small explosion to keep the kid's interest.
When I was growing up I had a friend able to obtain sodium metal, magnesium powder, thermite, etc. I am not recommending this type of thing in general -I know of people maimed, even blinded by these types of careless experiments! But if you know what you are doing, take the correct precautions, employ proper supervision and keep the reactions very small one can produce some exciting results with only small risks. For example- igniting a very small strip of magnesium ribbon (don't stare at the flame) or a fraction of a gram of potassium nitrate plus sugar. Do at your own risk- don't come bleeding back to me!! And remember- if you must lose a finger or two, try to avoid losing a thumb- you will miss the other fingers less.
If you want to see what kind of dangers were considered acceptable for kids in the past, look at this:
https://sciencenotes.org/the-golden-book-of-chemistry-experiments-free-download-of-a-banned-book/
I definitely do not recommend most of the experiments in this book!!
If you want to read about reactions and chemicals even experienced adult chemists do not want to employ, see this blog:
http://blogs.sciencemag.org/pipeline/archives/2010/02/23/things_i_wont_work_with_dioxygen_difluoride