Wouldn't it be pretty much what you'd expect, though?
No, it isn't what I expected. That's why I found it puzzling.
Under what circumstances do you get the opportunity to consider people hostile?
Anytime I interact with them.
You need disagreement and the closer the area of disagreement comes to your core beliefs, the greater your reaction will be to it.
You need a situation where people will actually let you know that they disagree; overcoming our social training designed to avoid confrontation.
No, people can be hostile without disagreement and I have, in fact, perceived that many times.
You need a set-up where you see 'them' as a specific group so that interaction with one of them is seem as an interaction with all.
That wouldn't be this forum then!
And you need lots of individual interactions to increase the absolute number seen as hostile. If you were going to design a place where you were most likely to see the members as hostile, an online forum dedicated to challenging and denying some of your core beliefs,
What core beliefs do you feel I have had challenged and denied here? Belief in god? I'm an agnostic. Belief in psi? I'm an agnostic. Despite the common assumption here that someone who is not an absolute disbeliever is a 'believer', it isn't true. Further, I generally participate in discussions about things I'm not entirely convinced of one way or the other. Once I've made up my mind, I don't find the subject as interesting to discuss.
where members are encouraged to speak out and defend their position, composed of a group that you do not identify with,
Actually, prior to joining this forum, I did consider myself a skeptic. Before I started posting here, I hadn't realized that skeptics weren't allowed to consider anything vaguely paranormal to have a non-negliable probability.
that is one of the busiest forums around and which you actively participate in, is going to be just that. You should have been surprised and puzzled if you did not consider the people here hostile.
You make a lot of assumptions. More than even me I think. I'm not saying the males, atheists or nerds are hostile. I'm saying that the confluence of their general proclivities could lead people to perceive hostility. Perhaps it's not a correct analysis, but it's one I at least find reasonable. More so that than the 'everyone who makes this observation shares the same biases and is determined to perceive things in that way' which seems to be your favored explanation.
That you are still here suggests that you actually encountered less hostility than expected - that males, atheists and nerds actually turned out to be a less hostile group than the converse.
I enjoy and seek out controversy and challenge. Here and elsewhere. A bit of hostility doesn't deter me as long as it isn't personal. I'm also notably lacking in social skills myself.
Some of this seems to be simply substituting stereotypes for data.
Some of it probably is, as is much of what you've written. OTOH, some of the 'stereotypes' can be backed up with studies such as showing that skeptics are more likely to be male.
Luckily, you are female, not atheist and no longer a nerd, so no one will perceive that comment as hostile.
Linda
I've never managed to gain the social skills that would lift me out of nerddom. People have often percieved me as hostile or insulting when I didn't mean to be.
I heard a new statistician joke the other day. Do you know how to tell the difference between an introverted statistician and an extroverted statistician? The extroverted statistician looks at the other person's shoes when conversing. Actually, the guy I heard it from told it better.