I don't think you can look at it that way, that would mean that no matter what forces are applied to car A it will never move implying that it has an infinite mass and that the ground would be accelerated as a result of a collision between two cars.
Once again you have brought the ground into it. Why not the moon? A jet flying overhead? There is no preferred reference frame. We can describe the relative velocities from any number of different reference frames, and all of those descriptions will be accurate. We don't need the Earth to describe this collision.
As I go through this, I am going to ask you if you agree or not. This not me being condescending. Consider me a student, which I am when it comes to this stuff. I want to find out where one of us is wrong or where there is a misunderstanding or semantics issue. I figure it's best to do this after each step.
If we have two equal masses (A and B) moving at a relative velocity of X and colliding in a perfectly elastic collision, the individual velocities of those two masses will change equal amounts so that they end up with a relative velocity of -X.
Do we agree on that?
That description accurately describes any number of scenarios. From the reference frame of the ground, that describes A and B each going 50mph and colliding - they each reverse direction and go 50mph the other way. That describes A being stationary and B hitting it at 100mph - B stops and A shoots off in the direction B was going at 100mph. It also describes A going 250mph and hitting B, which is going 150mph. A slows down by 100mph to 150mph and B speeds up by 100mph to 250mph.
Do we agree on that?
Suppose A fires a laser at B and the readout says X. What happens when B fires a laser at A? It will also read X. In our case X is a 100mph closing speed. Now pick any other point in the universe (the ground, for example). Fire your laser at A. You get a readout of Y. Now fire your laser at B. You will always measure a speed that when combined with Y results in a closing speed of X.
Note: For this paragraph positive velocities mean they are going east to west and negative velocities mean west to east. If A is going 200mph, then B must be going 100mph in the same direction. If A is going 50mph, then B must be going -50mph. If A is stationary (0mph) then B is going -100mph.
Do we agree on that?
As described earlier, from the reference frame of A, we measure B at X or 100mph. Do we know if B is moving towards us or if we are moving towards B? No. We only know the relative velocity is 100mph. Using the ground as the reference frame, it could be any one of the pairs I described above as well as an infinite number of other combinations.
Do we agree on that?
Still in the reference frame of A, B collides with us. We fire our laser again. What speed does it read? -100mph, right? It's the opposite of what we measured before the collision.
Do we agree on that?
That description of the event is the same as what I described in the post you're disagreeing with. I wrote, "I will measure car B as approaching me up until the point where it hits me. Then I will measure it moving away from me." I can also say that I measured myself as moving towards B and then away from B. Truth is, the only thing I did was measure two different relative velocities, one before the collision and one afterwards.
I stand by that description.
I think what you are saying is that if I say that B is moving towards a stationary A before the collision, then I
must say that B then becomes stationary and A moves away from B. If I say B is stationary before the collision, then I must say that A stops and B zooms away.
Is that correct?
I say that I can describe it in any of the four ways above and still be correct. There's nothing that compels me to say that any one of those descriptions is more accurate than another based solely on what I measure from the reference frame of A, and the only thing I am measuring is relative velocities.
As far as I can tell, the only way I would be "allowed" to pick a description would be if I actually knew the relative masses of A and B. If I know their masses are equal, then I agree with your contention that if B hits a stationary A, then A will accelerate at X and B will accelerate at -X.
From the reference frame of the ground, I will actually measure how much acceleration (positive and negative) A and B each experience. In all of the descriptions above except from the reference frames of A or B, I can deduce that A and B have equal masses.
But from the reference frame of A or B, how can I deduce the relative masses just by measuring the relative velocity of one to another?
If I say A remains stationary before and after, I am by definition saying that A is massive and B tiny by comparison. I don't actually
know that based on just my velocity measurements. That's just one possibility. If I say that A is stationary before and that B is stationary afterwards, then I am by definition saying that they have equal masses.
You presumed to know the masses, so you declared the first description above to be invalid. Thing is, I was only describing a set of velocity measurements without any consideration of mass.
Are we on the same page?
If so, then we can get back your claim that I am changing reference frames. I contend that I am not. If we're in agreement up to this point, then the only way for you to "know" I am changing reference frames is if you know the relative masses in advance. Since we cannot know the relative masses from the reference frame of just A or just B, how do you justify declaring that I am changing reference frames?
I'll tell you how.
You change reference frames and jump to a point on the ground. You then calculate the relative masses, find them equal, and then jump back into my reference frame to tell me I must have jumped reference frames. Unless, of course, it turns out that you measure A as being incredibly massive compared to B. In that case you come back to tell me that I didn't jump reference frames.