I believe that most moderate Muslims just want to live peacefully bettering their family's life. They will acknowledge their religion and submit to it. They will choose to ignore the violent side as best they can. An astonishing number have never read the Quran and Hadiths relying on Scholars to do it for them.
That is the case for Christianity also. Especially for the RCC which until recently more or less forbade the reading by lay adherents of the Scriptures. They relied entirely on "Scholars".
Unfortunately they are not controlling the narrative. So we have address those who are and what is the foundation of their claims.
That is the Quran and Hadiths which are incompatible with a modern secular society.
It is pronounced as perfect and provides religious belief, social behavior rules, political strictures, economic disciplines it even intrudes into sexual behavior and dietary needs.
Is this a joke? You have told us,
Islam, amongst all the major religions, is unique.
But what you have just related is in no way unique. Dietary needs? Islam unique!? What can you possibly mean? Sexual behaviour? Islam unique!? What can you possibly mean? I have cited the words is a Muslim member of the city council here, in post 277:
... certain elements of sex education in schools, are motivating young, innocent children to indulge in premature sex that is resulting in teenage pregnancies. As if that were not enough, gay sex education is being added to the sex curriculum in schools. This will encourage experiments with homosexuality among young children and add to the growing creed of homosexuality.
Is this sort of sexual preoccupation unique to Islam? You astound me! A Roman Catholic, or minister in the Free Church of Scotland could in good conscience say exactly these words.
Here are extracts from the response of the Free Church to the Scottish Government's request for its opinion on proposed Civil Partnership legislation.
We regard the Scottish Government’s stated wish to go forward to legislating on this subject extremely dangerous and subversive of Christian morality and harmful to the foundations of our society which are so intimately bound up with the divinely ordained institution of marriage ... We are under oath to preach and declare the whole counsel of God which specifically condemns homosexuality which this consultation process pretends to legitimise. Our authority in such matters is only the Word of God and we refer the Scottish Government to its plain statements condemning homosexuality. (Genesis 13:13; 18:20, 21; 19:4 – 7, 24, 25; Leviticus 18:22; 20:13; Isaiah 3:9; Romans 1:24 – 27; 1 Corinthians 6:9, 10; 2 Peter 2:6 – 10; Jude 7, 8)
"Central texts"!
We reject utterly the legal right of any government to redefine marriage as it pleases or even as it may please the democratic majority of the people. <snip further diatribe> We exhort all concerned in this process to beware of inviting the deserved judgement of God on our nation by such actions and decisions as would pretend to validate what God has condemned as abomination and wickedness.
"Abomination" is a favourite Free Church term.
It is clear that in spite of the contents of their holy texts, Catholics and Jews (and Free Church members) can adapt themselves to modern democratic society, and when Muslims find themselves in one, they can do likewise, as I have striven to show, and to relate from my own experiences. So, what adherents of one religion can do, so can those of another, texts or no texts. And it is this we must try to achieve. Or better, place no obstacle in the way of Muslims who are trying to achieve it. We should not be telling them, if you were a true Muslim you should be calling for all non-Muslims to be tortured to death. If they say no, then fine; all to the good. No it is.
To ignore its central texts is to ignore its reason for existence.
No. Just about everyone ignores the specific content of the Torah, and they continue to have reason to exist as Jews and Christians.