I don't really like the term "non-religious" because it can too easily be taken to mean that you just aren't terribly religious. Like you don't go to church or read the bible, but you're still "normal" and believe in God like everyone else. You could say, "I'm non-religious" to someone and have them say, "Yeah, me too. I hardly ever go to church. God's going to smack me down one day. Ha ha."
I don't think that there's any term that can't be subject to mis-interpretation. And if it's important, I will specify that I don't believe in god(s), not just that I don't go to church. But as it is, many people, even those who should know better, assign all sorts of characteristics to 'atheist' that are unnecessary, in order to advance their own agenda. I'd just rather not have to deal with this in real life, when all I usually want to convey is that I don't do or believe in the same things that you do.
I prefer that my belief (or lack of) be in no uncertain terms. I'm an atheist.
But now that your lack of belief is conveyed in no uncertain terms, you have also conveyed that you are arrogant, certain that our knowledge of the universe is complete, intolerant of anyone who is religious, and unwilling to entertain the slightest bit of speculation.
I don't mind challenging what I see as mis-perceptions in an appropriate forum, such as the JREF forum. But the opportunity isn't really there in most every day situations, so I'd rather try to keep it simple. I don't know if I'm a coward or prudent, though.
Linda
