What constitutes the prayer? The thoughts, words, or behaviors? And over what time-frame should those be considered to be prayer?
To me prayer is all about putting God in the center of the universe, and not yourself. You can have the same words "God, please cure my cancer", but it can have at least a few different perspectives. I think that for some Christians such prayers *always* have the understanding that it be fulfilled if it's God's will. Meaning that would *go* without saying, that is the thought behind the prayer. Others may see it as a request with ramifications. If the cancer is not cured, then God doesn't care or God doesn't exist or God hates me. This perspective places the individual at the center, and would have God either respect that, or be uncaring/unloving/non-existant.
As for time-frame, this also follows. Are we on God's time, or is God on our time? If we expect healing when we want it, we are having God submit to our plan, and not the other way around.
We will all suffer. We will all die. These will happen *before* we are perfectly healed. So yes, I think keeping in perspective is the key. Would we settle for imperfect and temporary healings above total healing?
If a person who is praying would prefer a granted specific prayer (heal my leukemia) over an eternal life with God, or, would make the specific prayer greater than eternal life with God, the perspective is out of whack. From a Christian point of view.
-Elliot