Hmmm, in your first post I wasn't able to tell if you were sarcastically agreeing with my point, or if you had missed it entirely, however looking at your edit I believe the second is the more likely, so allow me to spell out what I said in really clear language so you get it.
Sometimes there are good side effects from bad actions, and some people might have a reason to say that they are better off, or exist, because of that bad action, but those side effects in no way decrease, lessen, or make better the original bad action nor diminish the repugnance one should feel towards the actors responsible for that bad action, even if something good came from it for you personally. And it certainly doesn't mean that you should treat the bad actors as heroes because you got a benefit from a terrible circumstance.
As another example, my father dying helped to pay for my wedding, but that doesn't lessen the tragedy of my father dying even though I was grateful for him leaving me the money.