Hi Geoff, long time no argue!
What is real? What is "true"? Those questions are in essence the same because to resolve a statement such as "x is real" you are trying to resolve whether the statement is true or false.
Let's look at a hypothetical situation. A child on the ground releases a helium ballon which floats up in to the air. Approximately 30 seconds after releasing the ballon, the child looks up and observes the ballon floating in the air above him - he concludes that "the ballon is up". Which is self evidently true. However, simultaneously, another observer who is passing over the ballon in a high flying aircraft observes the ballon floating below him and concluses that "the ballon is down". Which is also self evidently true. The statements are contradictory but they are both true. How is this possible?
Simple - "truth" is relative. What is "true" depends on the relation of the observer to the observed, what is true about some objective fact may be true for one observer but false for another. Neither observer is at fault, nor is their basic logic flawed. Similarly the definition of "real" depends explicitly upon what is "true". To the child on the ground, the "reality" of the balloon is that it is "up". But to the observer on the plane, the reality is that the balloon is "down". Ergo "reality" is a function of the observer.
Now, the question is, can we directly relate the observers? If we can encompass both observers in some "universe", we can resolve contradictions between truth and falsity within that "universe" by reference to other possible observers within it. We can work out some all-inclusive logical relation that includes both observers and their observations without contradiction and without sacrificing their relative "truths".
But, if we can't place those observers in some gestalt for the purposes of analysis then their "truths" are not resolvable, we simply have to live with the contradiction and the impossibility of resolving it.
Let's imagine that you place a brain in a vat, you set up the computer and feed it the signals that convince it that it is experiencing "reality". Fine. It seems clear to you that "reality" is that you are real and that what the BIV experiences is "illusion". However, from the point of view of the BIV you don't even exist therefore what is "true" for you cannot be true for the BIV. In other words, the BIV exists within your "universe" - but you don't necessarily exist within the "universe" of the BIV. Therefore the issue of "truth" is unresolvable because there is no common "universe" that you both agree upon.
Taking it one step further, you
assume that your experience is "real" and that you have put another brain in a vat. But how do you know that
you are not the brain in the vat? Maybe somebody put
your brain in a vat and programmed it to believe that it was putting someone else's brain in a vat! The "reality" of the situation may be the exact opposite of what you believe from the POV of the encompassing "universe". The argument can be extended indefinitely. You can add independent observers but they cannot prove they are not BIV's either, and so on. Therefore the
only "truths" that exist are the relative truths of the various observers, BIV's etc., and their "truths" are true to them but not necessarily to anyone else.
The most important thing to realise is that because there is no encompassing, absolute frame of reference, there is no absolute value of "truth", and by extension, no absolute value of "reality". Arguments about what is the absolute value of "reality" are completely pointless and meaningless.
You appear to be arguing from an assumption of some absolute frame of reference, which is absurd.
PixyMisa pointed out to you that the experience of the BIV is "real". Your experience is also "real". The experience of all observers is "real".
Unless you can show inconsistency
within a frame of reference that valid for and common to all. In the absence of such a frame, everybody's experience is "real". But the word "real" doesn't have the same definition in each of the different frames or "universes".