I've seen two UFOs, one in 1985, and the other in 1998. Both at night with clear skies. One was probably a UH-60, which was a new aircraft at the time for Fort Ord replacing the Hueys. The other was a huge delta shape flying above commercial traffic, which where we were on the coast we could see aircraft on approach to San Jose Airport, and others coming in from the Pacific. My guess these days it was something like a lighter-than-air vehicle being tested in Nevada based on the direction change it made when it was directly over us.
I love airplanes, especially military aircraft of any kind. It's my experience that normal people (and I'm not normal, just weirdo) rarely look up, and if they know anything about fighters it's because they watched Top Gun. Some go to airshows, but understand that the aerobatics on display look 100% different at night with just running lights. Few people understand how far light can travel, and how light can distort over distance, and distort with atmospheric conditions. And most people have never seen modern jet fighters flying, and dogfighting at their combat speeds. They have no idea how fast fighters can move, and turn, and whip back and forth.
Here on the coast on most days you can still spot 747s coming in from Japan by counting the engines, and the wing shape. Harder to tell the newer jumbo jets these days without magnification. Some days the planes are crystal clear while others they're blurry. Their contrails come and go as they pass through air masses with varying temperatures,and moisture content, and altitude changes. From here it is impossible to tell if these jumbo jets are descending for airports in Las Vegas, or Denver due to the curvature of the earth. At night you can follow them from twenty miles out over the Pacific until they pop out of view over Nevada, maybe even further away.
So that light in the sky is probably ten miles away or more, moving slower, or faster than you think it is. Those 747s and other jumbo jets are cruising at over 550 mpk, but it's hard to tell this from just casually watching them from the ground. And those lights moving silently at great speed are probably far enough away to hide the sonic boom, and the engine noises.
Before I was kicked out of the local UFO discussion group for asking prickly questions a few of us brainstormed who the hell would even come to visit earth. We all agreed they would have to have ridiculous technology beyond anything within our understanding of physics, OR they're drones/ROVs similar to the ones we use to explore the solar system. These would be launched, and recovered from a mothership, also automated. Considering where we are in our galaxy, anyone coming here isn't A-list. We're probably getting the alien version of college undergrads. They don't interact with us for the same reason we don't interact with tadpoles.
And while our thought experiment was fun, it didn't answer important questions:
1. Why do they keep coming back? Are we really that interesting?
2. Why are the craft all different?
3.If we're getting visitors from different civilizations, why have none directly reached out to us? Where are the alien missionaries? Why not make contact us to gain favor over competing interests?
4. Why did the phenomenon change from the 1950s, 60s, & 70s where the UFO's "landed" leaving scorch marks, and landing gear impressions to the 80s onward where the UFOs/UAPs now hover silently. Why did the old craft have doors, and ramps, but the current model just "beam" people aboard?
The answer to all of these questions is simple: People think they're seeing something they're not, and then attach current science fiction tropes to the things they've seen. It's the difference between When the Earth Stood Still and Star Trek. This has been the situation since the end of WWII.