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"Not Ever" - A Campaign Against Blaming Rape Victims

Hard to say.
The surface story- He did what she reported, she was talked into changing her mind- then, realising she was now in trouble of a different kind, she reverted to the true story, strikes me as plausible. But how can anyone be sure?
 
It's not about not being accountable for their decisions, it's about someone advantaging themselves when it should be known that they are not capable of truly consenting. The same scenario would apply for a contract, if it you are asked to sign and not competent to do so for some reason then you could rightly say that full consent wasn't given and rescind it.

So why don't women need to be charged with rape when they have sex with drunk guys as well?

The point is that she made a decision to consent. And in so many other crime related events we hold people to the decisions they make when drunk.
What the problem is to me is that the victim's behaviour is used to excuse the subsequent events, with the implication they brought it on themselves. It's like alcohol is the new miniskirt and if a woman goes to a bar and drink, then the blame can be deflected off the male that rapes and the blame placed on the victim. It's her behaviour that must modified, not the male that rapes her.

In the cases being discussed in this post she did, she consented to sex when drunk. She did bring it on herself by consenting.
That's pretty much the crux of the whole campaign, it's not meant to be directed at women and telling them how to keep safe. It's about (just for a change) men modifying their behaviour.

So the goal is to destroy the idea that bars are acceptable places to meet sexual partners?
 
I think he meant that your paragraph:
If the ad campaign gets the idea into mens' heads that rape is always the man's fault- no matter what the circumstances, no matter the behaviour of the woman (and the campaign clearly is about male on female assault) then it will probably have some positive effect on modifying the behaviour of some men.
Would have been better if the bolded word was 'rapist's' . Not all rapes involve a male agressor and female victim.
Ah. Maybe. That is why I put the bit in brackets. The campaign appears to be about male on female rape only and that was the main subject of the thread.
 
Hard to say.
The surface story- He did what she reported, she was talked into changing her mind- then, realising she was now in trouble of a different kind, she reverted to the true story, strikes me as plausible. But how can anyone be sure?

Or she was trying to screw with him and made it up and then realized how serious the accusation was. That strikes me as about as plausible.
 
The point about alcohol and rape is about victims who are incapacitated and unable to give consent. Not about people who have been wearing beer goggles and regret it after they sober up. Being too drunk to consent pretty much rules out active participation. I have never heard of a case being prosecuted where the complainant says she actively participated at the time but then claimed it was not true consent because she was too drunk to know what she was doing.
 
The point about alcohol and rape is about victims who are incapacitated and unable to give consent. Not about people who have been wearing beer goggles and regret it after they sober up.

Depends on who is making the point. Some people in this thread don't see a difference

See big boss's link

If a victim was under the influence, courts of law usually consider that individual incapable of giving sexual consent.
 
Does that mean that when my girlfriend and I went out, got utterly, utterly blasted and then came home and had drunken monkey sex that neither of us remember particularly clearly, we raped each other?
 
Does that mean that when my girlfriend and I went out, got utterly, utterly blasted and then came home and had drunken monkey sex that neither of us remember particularly clearly, we raped each other?

Depends, in some peoples definition you raped her. In others it depends on how you felt about it in the morning.
 
Depends on who is making the point. Some people in this thread don't see a difference

See big boss's link

If that were true, getting a rape conviction would be a heck of a lot easier, since all the complainant would have to prove would be that she had had sex and that she had drunk alcohol. It's certainly not true in the UK. I remember a case in wales not long ago where the victim was very drunk and couldn't remember giving consent or refusing (or even remember having sex), but only stated that she "would not have agreed" to having sex with the guy where it happened. The jury was instructed to bring a not guilty verdict.

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/wales/4465622.stm

And another case:

A chef accused of raping a solicitor who claimed she was too drunk to give consent has been cleared.
Peter Bacon, 26, from Canterbury, was accused of attacking the woman at her house in Kent in February last year. But he was cleared by a jury at Winchester Crown Court who acquitted him after just 45 minutes of deliberation.
The prosecution claimed the woman was so drunk she was incapable of giving consent and that Mr Bacon took advantage of her.
But he told the court that the woman, in her forties, had consented. He said the pair had kissed and had then gone to her bedroom. In her bed he helped her out of her clothes and the pair performed oral sex on each other and had then had intercourse, the court heard. In the morning, after being woken by a kiss from the defendant, the woman said the law had changed and, because she was too drunk to consent, it was rape. Mr Bacon went to a police station to find out if he had committed an offence. He was arrested and later charged. After being acquitted yesterday he smiled and said "thank you" to the jury. Judge Patrick Hooton said the woman's claim that she could not give consent because she was drunk was "completely wrong".
http://www.independent.co.uk/news/u...t-on-chef-who-assaulted-71-women-1655359.html
 
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This is the most atrocious thing I've seen in here for multiple reasons. First of all, it's pop evolutionary psychology garbage that tries to ascribe evolutionary selective pressures to a modern, abhorrent social behavior, which you have absolutely no scientific justification for and chances are, you aren't going to get a peer-reviewed source to back it up either. I mean, I'm not a fan of pop evolutionary psychology in general, but to ask for "factual evidence" in this thread for something and than go into misguided conjecture is just the most astonishing piece of hypocrisy I've ever seen.

Rape's a known behaviour in our close animal relatives, along with murder and genocide. I think the idea that chimpanzees evolved to rape because of "power" as opposed to because that behaviour was more successful than competing behaviours at passing on the relevant genes is pretty silly.

The possibility exists, of course, that rape behaviour is a byproduct of one or more other qualities that are selected for, but Ockham's Razor says go for the simpler explanation and in any case it makes no difference at all to the point.

I suggest you go find something you understand to go get offended about, since that seems to be your goal here.

You say feminism is a big tent, but I know I've ever seen this in the tent... like ever. It's not only an attempt to rationalize violent misogyny in our society, it's pseudoscience, which I thought was supposed to be bad here.

If you understood what I wrote, you wouldn't be saying stupid things like this. Did you miss the bit where I said "The fact that it's natural and tied up with sexual desire doesn't take anything away from the fact that it's a morally revolting crime", or did you just decide to ignore it completely because it would be more fun to get offended?

I'm not rationalising anything. In fact you're making exactly the same mistake that I was making fun of earlier - you don't seem to understand that there is a difference between an explanation and an excuse, so when you see an explanation of rape you jump on your high horse because you think someone is trying to excuse it.

I provided it: an excerpt from an NCPC article and a reference to a book by DiCanio. I'd LMGTFY them, but I can't link yet.

Meanwhile, I have not seen from others, nor do I see from you, any semblance of academic research to support your explanations.

You just quoted someone asserting this piece of dogma. You didn't link to or cite any actual evidence that it was true. People can and do publish all sorts of rot, particularly in the humanities, which have nothing to do with empirical fact and are entirely driven by their political views. If you cite some scientific research as opposed to some academic "researcher" airing their opinions I'll look at it, but I don't expect to see any because this issue has been discussed before and never yet has anyone found a skerrick of hard evidence for this "rape is about power not sex" dogma.

For crying out loud, rape involves sexual contact. You're denying that sexual contact has anything to do with sex. The very idea is bizarre.

A) Sociobiological rape is hardly a theory at all. Burden of proof is on you, in this case.

B) I don't understand what place this has in this discussion.

I'm just criticising the people (like yourself) quoting the "rape is about power not sex" dogma as if it was scientific fact. As far as I'm aware, and as I said this is not the first time we've had this discussion, that's an article of political faith. It is not and never has been a scientific claim backed up by evidence.

If you want to talk about how we should deal with the fact that some men rape sometimes, political faith-claims with no basis in reality are an active impediment to a sensible discussion. We can't deal with a social problem if we're encumbered by non-evidence-based ideas about it.

As far as I can see the Scottish campaign is probably a good idea, because last time I checked the idea that some women want to be raped, deserve to be raped or can legitimately be raped still has come currency with some men and the sooner and more thoroughly those memes are stamped out the better.

However the bottom line is that while rape is never morally tolerable, some men will do it anyway. Regardless of whether women should have to bear this in mind in an ideal world, we don't live in an ideal world yet and around strange or dangerous men I think women should still bear this in mind.

There's no contradiction at all in saying "Ted got mugged walking home through the bad side of town in an expensive suit. Morally this should not have happened and the people who did it suck, but simultaneously he took a stupid risk and this outcome could have been avoided had Ted behaved more sensibly". You can call it blaming the victim or not as you like, but it can still be true as a matter of fact whether or not you call it blaming the victim.

I would fully support all measures taken to educate people that mugging (and rape) are not okay, and in my ideal world of course nobody would ever get raped or mugged, and a victim looking rich or sexy does not constitute extenuating circumstances for muggers or rapists that decrease their moral culpability. Nonetheless, bad people exist and acting as if they didn't exist because you think they shouldn't exist doesn't seem very clever to me.
 
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If that were true, getting a rape conviction would be a heck of a lot easier, since all the complainant would have to prove would be that she had had sex and that she had drunk alcohol. It's certainly not true in the UK. I remember a case in wales not long ago where the victim was very drunk and couldn't remember giving consent or refusing (or even remember having sex), but only stated that she "would not have agreed" to having sex with the guy where it happened. The jury was instructed to bring a not guilty verdict.

Seems reasonable to me. But that is the point, people have a very definite idea of rape as violent stranger rape, but there are murky areas around the edges where people can entirely agree on the events but disagree on if they are rape.
 
As an aside to the main theme- The role of alcohol should not be underestimated. I've been to various extents inebriated on a number of occasions . I don't actually recall this in any way increasing my libido or raising my belief that any woman present might want to go to bed with me. If it had an affect , it was definitely in the opposite direction. Is this the norm in the experience of men here?

The increase in heavy (binge) drinking among young women in Scotland in the last fifteen years or so is something that may not be appreciated abroad. In my youth I had female friends who drank (mostly shorts of some kind; or wine; occasionally, but rarely the odd pint of beer)- and yes, some got tipsy, but I don't ever recall seeing near- naked girls so drunk they literally could not stand up, lying in the street at midnight, unconscious. This is a recent phenomenon and an increasingly common one. (I don't want to paint a falsely rosy picture of my youth and how nice everybody was, but seriously, things have changed for the worse in this area.)

I know I'll sound like a right old fogey, but seriously, these lassies need to get a grip.

Setting aside for a minute the whole issue of assault or rape, the negative effects on health alone are horrific.
 
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As an aside to the main theme- The role of alcohol should not be underestimated. I've been to various extents inebriated on a number of occasions . I don't actually recall this in any way increasing my libido or raising my belief that any woman present might want to go to bed with me. If it had an affect , it was definitely in the opposite direction. Is this the norm in the experience of men here?

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I think this might be an individual thing on your part. When I'm drunk then I love the world (only so far as I'm allowed to, of course) but I have encountered men who, when drunk, have an absolute conviction that they are god's gift to women and that any woman not immidiately simitten by their slurry charms is clearly a lesbian.
 
I don't think calling the facts of life "cognitive bias" changes them much.
Gravity is not cognitive bias. Jump off a cliff, you go down.

I don't think it's fair to compare physical models to assumptions about what people deserve when bad things in the world happen. Apples and oranges, mate. Also, the way you quoted "cognitive bias" seems to connote that you don't think it's a legitimate term (if I'm wrong, correct me), when this is actually a term used a lot by psychologists and sociologists. The just-world phenomenon is one of many cognitive biases reported by researchers.

So if for basic assault if we point out that someone made some poor choices leading up to being beaten we would blaming them?

Um, yes. I don't get why this is logically hard to understand; if you point out to a rape victim that "you shouldn't have engaged in behavior X", you're assigning culpability to the behavior and thus blame. Same thing with assaults.

Cut the false diacotomy BS. Power is sexy and power dynamics and such run through sex all the time.

dichotomy* And while sex is the medium through which power issues are channeled, it still is about exerting power over another individual.

Ah fun blatant sexism. What about women raping guys because they were drunk? I what to see more cases where both parties get locked up for raping each other when drunk. It is only fair after all

Well, I'm sorry (and by that, I mean not really), but most American courts and university guides to sexual assault disagree with you. And most perpetrators in date rape situations are males, though that's not to say women can't be sexual aggressors.

So women should never be convinced of DUI then? Because women can not be held accountable for their decisions when drunk.

Weak comparison is weak. A woman who drinks and gets raped is not accountable for the man who thinks that hearing "Yes" while drunk means consent. Furthermore, a woman who gets behind the wheel of a car while intoxicated presents a threat to the public safety, whereas a woman who is drunk at a college party does not. Rapists present the threat.

So women shouldn't drink responsibly?

Drinking responsibly is a separate issue. If you want to start a campaign against alcohol, be my guest. But when a woman is raped after getting really drunk, it isn't about the alcohol. It's about the men who raped her.

And would tell male rape victims that their being raped is their own fault.

Absolutely baseless claim made out of genderized apprehension. Male rape victims are never to blame for being raped. You can't even cite the part of the website that lends credence to your claim because, like God, it simply doesn't exist.

Unfportunately, what these campaigns end up being is "don't blame women who claim to have been raped." Which, in turn, ends up meaning "don't question rape allegations - turn of skepticism." That is far, far different.

I've had this discussion in a class about feminist epistemology and there was a time where I agreed with this. It's intuitive to think "her claim may not be true" and thus, you'd be inclined to demand proof. On the other hand, this is precisely why other rape victims may be afraid to come forward; proving a rape is harder than proving a murder and when people—especially friends—question whether or not the victim is telling the truth, this makes it more difficult for other victims to come forward.

So our class has a solution: accept the rape victim's claim that she was raped as true until proven otherwise and acknowledge that the alleged rapist is innocent until proven guilty. At the end of the day, there is only one truth, but while pursuing the truth, you can avoid unjustifiably stigmatizing both sides. No one should have to go to jail based on an accusation alone and no one who was raped should be afraid to address it in a court of law.
 
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The possibility exists, of course, that rape behaviour is a byproduct of one or more other qualities that are selected for, but Ockham's Razor says go for the simpler explanation and in any case it makes no difference at all to the point.

I suggest you go find something you understand to go get offended about, since that seems to be your goal here.

See, this is the problem; when scientists investigate claims regarding what things have been with us since evolution, they don't use Ockham's Razor. They actually investigate it. There have been attempts to investigate whether certain behaviors are the result of evolutionary selective pressures, but there have also been plenty of people who lazily conflate a social norm with the product of selective pressure, which is what you have done.

It is pop evolutionary psychology and your reasoning is pseudoscientific. Read the link, because you're in the wrong, mate.

Hell, read this excellent article on the fallacies of psychology:

We are unlikely ever to learn much about our evolutionary past by slicing our Pleistocene history into discrete adaptive problems, supposing the mind to be partitioned into discrete solutions to those problems, and then supporting those suppositions with pencil-and-paper data. The field of evolutionary psychology will have to do better. Even its very best, however, may never provide us knowledge of why all our complex human psychological characteristics evolved.

You said "rape is an evolved behavior", which means you're ascribing selective pressures to rape. You have no basis for this claim beyond your lazy reasoning. And it wasn't hard to predict you'd fail to come back with a single accredited source to justify your claim.

And I'm actually not the one conflating explanations with excuses at all. The explanation is that men choose to rape women. The ones who ultimately make the bad choices are the rapists. And there is no excuse for it.
 
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Murder has been with our species for quite a while and animals killing fellow animals of their species certainly is not exclusive to us.

But funnily enough, I never hear any garbage pop evo psych rationizaltions* for murder when there's one on the news. Pretty telling of the people who always invoke this hogwash in the context of rape. Evo pop psych is use to rationalize or justify a social behaviour as an evolutionary adaption or byproduct—sometimes by misconstruing data or sometimes through sloppy reasoning without any real evidence.
 
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Murder has been with our species for quite a while and animals killing fellow animals of their species certainly is not exclusive to us.

But funnily enough, I never hear any garbage pop evo psych justifications for murder when there's one on the news. Pretty telling of the people who always invoke this hogwash in the context of rape. Evo pop psych is use to rationalize or justify a social behaviour as an evolutionary adaption or byproduct—sometimes by misconstruing data or sometimes through sloppy reasoning.

re: bolding. I'm afraid you're going to have to show where anyone in this thread was justifying rape in this day and age in any context.
 

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