This is absolutely true and highlights a further tragedy. The value in relationships is called social capital. Amway knows there is a monetary value here and will encourage you to generate a "hot list" of prospects to get at this money. Losing your social capital in the service of a false dream is very sad.
I entirely agree. So don't do it. Never lost a friend because of my involvement with Amway, made plenty.
Seriously though, this is a legitimate issue. Ironically I've noticed that when people are thinking of their friends/family with $$$ signs floating over their heads, it's virtually a guarantee that they won't build a successful Amway business. I don't think that's limited to MLM though. As I mentioned earlier I happen to be a Microsoft reseller. If I bugged all of my friends to by software off me that would lose social capital. Same when I had a web hosting company. Same with some preschools I'm in the process of setting up, same with any business.
Just like with my Amway business, I let people know what I have available, but I don't bug them. Still, I admit it is irritating when someone goes and buys something off a competitor when they could have got it off you, which I've had often several times in non-Amway businesses.
That's life though, no big deal.
What really bothers me is that I do believe in a version of the "work hard and work for yourself" dream. I'm an independent business owner myself. It's wonderful. Guess what? Real independence means you don't need an upline. Any tools you buy you seek out and buy with your own dollars-- we call those profits.
I'm not sure I understand the distinction? Plenty of people build Amway businesses without using their upline. And plenty of people, myself included, seek out and buy tools with their own dollars, including profit, from non-upline sources.
It is quite possible (and practical) to start your own business in the US and make a living at it. No selling to my family and friends either. I'm happy to give my services to them for free -- after all, they are my loved ones.
Services perhaps yes, but I'd suggest that giving away consumable products in high demand that have cost you money to any friend or family that wants them, free, is going to cost a lot of money.
I'm all for the American dream. I'm not for Amway. I believe they corrupt what is good about the impulse to freedom and independence.
I believe your beliefs about Amway have been corrupted by (a) myths about Amway and (b) truths about the way some unprofessional idiots operate Amway businesses.
Just remember, when you look at those making big money in Amway, you are looking at the tip of a very large iceberg of misery and failure.
Where are all these people? As already noted, there's been
millions who have been involved in Amway over the years in North America alone. Yet there's very, very few complaints about the company. And when you do look at the complaints, they're virtually all involving the same group within Amway, a minority of Amway.
Heck, there's few complaints about the entire MLM industry! The FTC did a large investigation into the industry a couple of years ago. They were developing new rules regarding Business Opportunities. They ended up excluding MLM and one of the reasons they gave was because there were so few complaints about the legitimate players, and the illegitimate players were mostly scams already covered, and being prosecuted, under existing laws