Please Paul, how does one measure the force of gravity?
Not the relationship of objects to one another, the force of gravity.
Ah , Jerome, why do you insist on this? How do you measure the force of your arm? By it effects on other objects, mainly weights and springs. How do you measure tidal force? By its effects on sea ocean level. How do you measure centripetal force? By its effects on satellites. Force cannot be sensed without noting its effects on objects; it makes no other intrusion upon our environment. We can roughly sense forces acting upon our skin's pressure sensors, but that's as close as we can get o the true essence of any force, and even then it is our skin that is the object. In the same way, we cannot measure temperature except by the expansion it causes in materials, or in our skin. We use our gauge of gravity every time we plot the arc of an artillery shell, or the orbit of a comet. No, we know of no way to control it, to channel it or deflect or absent it from where ever it might be.
What does it mean, "is it really a force"? Since we can only tell a force is operating by how it affects objects, and if it duly affects objects - no matter how - them how might it not be a force? Even if it is theoretically space-time curvature, how is it not a force, and why the angst about it's "true" nature, as if it were trying to deceive us? You are certainly free to limit your personal knowledge to some philosophically bare space, but pardon us if we disagree to live there with you.
We think we may have a theory of how gravitation works, in a manner similar to how we know how electromagnetism works. But we haven't verified it; we haven't yet unequivocally met a real, identifiable graviton. When we do, if we do, we will have a deeper understanding by studying this graviton, but can we then say "we know how it works"? I think not in any absolute sense. Perhaps that will never be possible.
So what?