Gay by choice?

[crimresearch]

I find the claim that gay people choose to be attracted to members of the same sex to be extremely bizarre. Speaking personally, I could never choose to be sexually and romantically attracted to another man. This makes Cynthia Nixon's claim puzzling. Did she wake-up one day and say "ya know, I am going to be attracted to women"?

'Suddenly' isn't the only way choice works. Over a period of days or years, revisiting thoughts (even denial) of being attracted to the same sex can lead to decisions, and for some people action.

 

[Antiquehunter]

@Tony - it is not believed that is what she is getting at. She states later that she identifies as a bisexual woman, and she CHOOSES at this time, to be in a relationship with another woman. It was a poor choice of words at the time, which got misused.

I don't disagree that I find bisexuality difficult to parse, because it is not my own experience. But I appreciate that everyone is wired a bit differently.

 

[Weird Science]

I don't see what the big deal is. Surely the point this woman is making is that "bi" people sometimes choose to have sex with one sex and sometimes with the other? Isn't that more or less the DEFINITION of being "bisexual"? (Puzzled look).

 

[KatieG]

I don't see how sexual orientation is a choice. My humble belief? People are born what they are. Gay, lesbian, transexual, what have you.

I almost literally dropped my jaw when my 90 yo mother expressed the same sentiments. She can still surprise me, that one.

 

[Alan]

I don't see what the big deal is. Surely the point this woman is making is that "bi" people sometimes choose to have sex with one sex and sometimes with the other? Isn't that more or less the DEFINITION of being "bisexual"? (Puzzled look).

It's not choosing to be gay or straight.

But if an individual looks at it that way for themselves then that's fine.