I posted a link above to an award winning documentary to illustrate the point, and since lionking threatened to report me for posting off topic I have to be careful.
There are two issues, one is exaggerating the offending and then there is actually prosecuting an innocent man, as in the link.
In this case I have made it clear, I believe the murder charge is an egregious wrong. His offending speaks for itself, a tinder date that went awol with liquor, and he behaved disgracefully, but the murder rap is one from a decision she made under the influence.
He is not a murderer, he is an arrogant man, a danger to society. There are plenty of those who grow up.
I believe the facts of the case should drive the charge, not the worst construction the state thinks it can shovel on him. The same for Pistorius of course.
In terms of the victim, her family also should consider the facts. Was she blameless? Maybe in the context of liquor she is, if he plied her excessively.
Also with a running pr deficit, I can't imagine why Tostee would continue on social media, but I don't know the details.