It's measured with respect to a reference frame, not an object. We often use objects to identify reference frames. For example, if we want to track an inertial reference frame, we just observe an object which has no forces applied to it. But a given reference frame still exist irregardless of whether or not there's a specific object associated with it.
Correct, but incomplete in this context; 69dodge's question rests upon the mathematical definition of acceleration in classical physics.
He asked:
Ok, gravity is acceleration.
That doesn't help anyone who doesn't know what "acceleration" means.
So, what does "acceleration" mean?
It means different things in different systems of mechanics. One is:
If it doesn't mean "derivative of velocity", what word does mean that?
You've forgotten some important things; it's the
first order derivative of velocity
with respect to time. But it's also the
second order derivative of
distance with respect to time. But that's in Newtonian, or Galilean, aka
classical mechanics.
In relativity, acceleration is absolute; an object that is the origin of an accelerated frame of reference can always feel that acceleration, in other words, local experiments can be performed that will tell the vector and magnitude of that acceleration with respect to
any inertial frame. This is the corollary of the fact that local experiments can be performed in an inertial frame that show it to be inertial. There is no absolute motion, no absolute velocity, but there
is absolute acceleration, and it can be determined by local experiments.
Thus, in relativity, unlike classical mechanics, distance, position, and velocity are not absolute; it's
acceleration that's absolute. The conceptual mistake you, 69dodge, are making, is to assume that the fact that in one system of mechanics (classical mechanics) acceleration is defined as the second order derivative of distance with respect to time, means that distance or time must be absolute. That is the underlying assumption of that system; but the underlying assumption of relativity is different. The fact that it is approximately the same for small velocities leads to the fact that use of this derivative still works; but it is no longer the
definition of acceleration. The definition of acceleration is now based upon whether geodesics (i.e., the paths of inertial objects) are straight lines or not. If they are straight, then you are in an inertial frame; if they are not, then you are in an accelerated frame.
To put this another way, which is the way that Zig was speaking, the definition of acceleration in classical mechanics is dependent upon absolute space; but in relativity, it is dependent upon absolute spacetime.
Newton and Galileo missed it by one degree of the derivative, or by the failure to see that instead of being some "different kind of stuff" from space, time is actually "the same kind of stuff." It's why all the stuff about absolute motion and so forth never worked. They (or at least Newton) could
feel it wasn't quite right; Newton's Bucket showed it. But it was a conundrum, because Newton never saw that the key was not motion, it was the frame in which motion occurred.
An object's velocity is measured always with respect to some other object. So is the derivative of its velocity, therefore.
Is acceleration the sort of thing that is measured with respect to another object, or isn't it?
In classical mechanics, acceleration is the sort of thing that is measured with respect to another object; but in relativity, it is not. Acceleration is measured by the curvature of spacetime in relativity. No external reference is needed; a local experiment can always show whether a frame is accelerated or inertial, but no local experiment can show whether a frame is moving in an inertial fashion or not.
Sorry to keep bugging you. We both know what happens when objects are dropped, etc. That's not the problem. The problem is, what's the best way to talk about it. It's good to pick a definition for a word and then stick to it. Otherwise, people just get confused.
That's what I've been doing, as you'll see if you go back over what I've said previously. Do not be sorry; I don't blame you at all. It took Einstein years to understand this, years after he'd already invented SR. The Equivalence Principle is, as I have said, the key to understanding the worldview of relativity.