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Dating Disabled

Would you date a disabled person?

  • Yes (and I am able bodied)

    Votes: 23 54.8%

  • Yes (and I am disabled)

    Votes: 5 11.9%

  • No (and I am able bodied)

    Votes: 12 28.6%

  • No (and I am disabled)

    Votes: 2 4.8%
  • Total voters
    42
I'm on disability due to nutritionally related peripheral nuropathy, chronic nerve pain, muscular atrophy mainly in my legs, greatly reduced stamina and a few other things like PTSD. None of this is particularly visible or immediately noticeable so I'm very grateful I appear essentially normal -- no insult intended for those whose disabilities are more visible, but it just makes it easier for me to disclose things when I think may be more appropriate rather than always having to explain things up front. I've never really dated much in my life, so it's all kinda new for me anyway. I dunno.

Anyway, my now ex-wife was diagnosed with MS the day after I formally proposed and she had told me it would have been okay if I had changed my mind. I didn't but it turned out to be an abusive and miserable marriage. I lasted about a year and a half before I filed for divorce. She had felt like her MS was a death-sentence and had basically emotionally given up trying to make a good life (or decent life) for herself and by extension, me and her kids.

My last gf had organic brain damage from a coma she had more than fifteen years ago but I truly often forgot she was disabled. She'd get frustrated with me because of it, but over our four year relationship, we only fought a little at the beginning and I think we really had a great relationship after that until her brain damage caught up to me; she was convinced I had harmed her in some way and there was nothing I could do to show otherwise, with evidence or talking her out of it. So that was that.

I think it kinda depends on the level of disability any new gf would have in the future though the answer for me is not an automatic 'no'.
 
Responded 'No, and I am able bodied'.

I have not had much experience with those with disabilities. As such, I think it would take me time and effort and a lot of understanding to date such a person. I am not sure I want to take that effort. But if we were friends first and interacted on a regular basis, I could see it as being possible.
 
Ended up responding "No, and I am disabled". It's not a strict "no", of course, it's just something that would give and has given me major pause for thought.
 
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