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As sure as one can be without mind-reading.



Are you talking about an encounter that really happened now, or one that she made up for nefarious feminist purposes? If it really happened, I'd ask whether she was really drunk.

As to the humble-bragging, I've seen RW surrounded by a knot of slavering fanboys on more than one occasion. I don't personally understand it, but there it is.

I think that is the source of the problem the same personality that generates fanboys also generates hate boys. IOW she just rubs some people, mostly male, in exactly the wrong way.
 
I think that is the source of the problem the same personality that generates fanboys also generates hate boys. IOW she just rubs some people, mostly male, in exactly the wrong way.

And the women who don't like her are just jealous, amirite? :rolleyes:
 
Is 4am not the morning, where you live? :boggled:

Uh, no, 4am is not "the morning". 4am is the time when I am asleep now, or when I would be stumbling home to sleep when I was a teen or in my early 20's. The last thing you want at 4am is coffee, unless you are just getting up, but that is not the situation here. She didn't meet this guy right after they both woke up, and he is asking her to grab some coffee with him. They had been up all night, drinking, and the logical next step for most people is to go to bed.

The only possible situation where I could see assuming the request wasn't for sex would be reasonable, would be if there was a 6am panel she was known by him to be attending, so it was obvious she couldn't possibly be going to sleep. Much more likely though, it was what it seemed to be to her, a veiled invitation for sex.

Now, I disagree with RW's assessment of the acceptability of this guy's behavior (although it is a little weird, and not something I would ever do myself). However, I can do that without pretending this wasn't the sexual come-on it obviously was. Of course this discussion is pointless, I seem to recall all these same points being argued back and forth years ago. I can't believe the conversation has basically come full circle.
 
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There's a lot of extremely loose interpretations being thrown around in here, almost as if they were matters of fact. RW's elevatorgate stance getting interpreted as "never approach a female you are interested in", ....
It might be hyperbole but E-guy's approach was about as benign as it gets.
 
I think that is the source of the problem the same personality that generates fanboys also generates hate boys. IOW she just rubs some people, mostly male, in exactly the wrong way.

And the women who don't like her are just jealous, amirite? : rolleyes :
Sylvia Browne rubbed me the wrong way. Because I'm a hater.
 
If you cited to it, then prove it. If not, stop banging on about how I missed the citation you posted.

I hadn't.

Not quite as lazy as accusing someone that they missed a citation and then refusing to show where you linked it.
Should we take a vote?

This is one of two gazillion-page threads. It's a discussion that's been going on for several years now and you ask for evidence of one of the key premises in the discussion which has been gone over in detail ad nauseum. The details can be found saturating the Internet.

Just what is it you think didn't happen here? Are you just embarrassed for missing a key issue? Are you just attacking me personally for telling you that you missed a key aspect of the discussion? Or are you still doubting the basis of this controversy?

Because if it's anything but the latter, you should move on.
 
Uh, no, 4am is not "the morning". 4am is the time when I am asleep now, or when I would be stumbling home to sleep when I was a teen or in my early 20's. The last thing you want at 4am is coffee, unless you are just getting up, but that is not the situation here. She didn't meet this guy right after they both woke up, and he is asking her to grab some coffee with him. They had been up all night, drinking, and the logical next step for most people is to go to bed.

Maybe I'm just a party animal, but I have gone out for coffee/and or breakfast more than once after the bar closes. I don't think it's that unusual.

eta: and before someone claims that going out for coffee makes it different, I remind them that this was an unfamiliar city, and it's unreasonable to expect that a visitor would know where the local coffeehouse/breakfast place is.


The only possible situation where I could see assuming the request wasn't for sex would be reasonable, would be if there was a 6am panel she was known by him to be attending, so it was obvious she couldn't possibly be going to sleep. Much more likely though, it was what it seemed to be to her, a veiled invitation for sex.

Now, I disagree with RW's assessment of the acceptability of this guy's behavior (although it is a little weird, and not something I would ever do myself). However, I can do that without pretending this wasn't the sexual come-on it obviously was. Of course this discussion is pointless, I seem to recall all these same points being argued back and forth years ago. I can't believe the conversation has basically come full circle.

Yes, the discussion is pointless. As are most on here.
 
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As if to prove my point? I'm pretty sure no one said that getting asked for coffee always means sex. Just that it did under the circumstances of the EG anecdote. Though, personally, I've argued that coffee shouldn't be assumed to mean sex even under those circumstances.
Care to explain the cues? Does RW claim now to have mind reading capabilities?

Here's the problem, how do we know RW and the rest of the crowd that sees sexual harassment under every chair aren't just perceiving that guys are being harassing when maybe they're not. If a benign, 'hi, wanna get together', is stereotyped as a come on for sex, that's exactly what woo believers do. They interpret the world to fit their beliefs, they don't address the actual evidence.
 
I've seen at least two competing mythologies about how this went from awkward pass to epic internet **** storm.
So you think the Phawrongula account is a lie?

In the Pit version of the myth, it all kicked off because Rebecca went after Stef at the CFI con. This makes perfect sense from their perspective, since that was how the Pit first emerged.

In the SJW version of the myth, it's basically all Dawkins' fault for posting the Dear Muslima missive. This makes perfect sense from their perspective, because all that is wrong with society must be laid at the feet of the most privileged.

Dawkins' missive had a significant repercussions, as did Watson's infamous on-stage callout, but I do cannot subscribe to either of these mythologies. I view the conflict between identitarian callout culture warriors and cultural libertarians as nigh inevitable in any space peopled mostly with liberals and progressives. The potential for explosive combustion exists in two sets of competing values, any given controversy can light the blue touch paper.
Seriously? You are citing an opinion piece on Breitbart? :rolleyes:

Well, finally the problem you are having emerges.

First you didn't get it that the vlog wasn't the problem.
Then you didn't believe it.
I posted a link.
Then you dismissed it as RW just calling someone out, ignoring the content of the callout.
Then you tried to make it about a straw man that I owed it to you to find the earlier links. (This is all in addition to the fact the evidence of what happened is easily found all over the Net even all these years later.)

And now you can't seem to assess the facts for yourself:

1) The sexual harassment is everywhere debate begins with many people in the JREF community taking sides. Some say the incidents were few and far between, some said the incidents were rampant. No evidence of more than a few occurrences and a couple repeat offenders is produced.
2) The vlog is posted. RW perceives herself the victim of "objectification".
3) McGraw and StClair comment they didn't see what the issue was on the elevator.
4) RW attacks McGraw at the student atheist event.
5) A blog back and forth ensues between RW and McGraw.
6) PZ Myers posts a blog accusing people of not being empathetic enough about the sexual harassment going on at skeptic and atheist events, and not being empathetic with RW's experience, apparently missing the significance of the attack on McGraw at the student atheist event.
7) Dawkins writes his Dear Muslima reply in PZ's blog post.
8) (I'm not sure if this happened before or after the Dear Muslima reply) Myers becomes an activist atheist creating the A+ movement, he moves his Pharyngula blog to the Freethought Blog site where they promptly decide to ban anyone who doesn't agree with them.

I think that about sums it up. If anyone thinks I have the order of something wrong, let me know.


So, make up your own mind, Damion. The RW side see themselves as persecuted victims. No doubt that is what they believe. Their confirmation bias has given them selective memory issues about the events.

Myself and others don't believe sexual harassment is under every chair at skeptic and atheist events. We think they are exaggerating by claiming benign and minor interactions are harassment.

It detracts from the real issues like the real rape culture where high school girls are raped when they are unconscious and whole groups of people think it's just kids partying.

Yes, there aren't enough women in STEM fields and there is some lingering sexism that needs to be addressed. Sometimes offensive casual sexual conversation, mildly sexist shirt prints, and a stupid comment that girls make bad lab partners because they cry when criticized occur. But can't we just point this stuff out without crucifying the men who lack awareness or don't know any better? Are those offenses really deserving of being so thoroughly demonized?


Exaggeration and fanaticism are not helping the feminist cause.
 
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When I met up with Rebecca Vitsmun at Starbucks in the middle of the day, that was nothing but coffee and conversation. No one had ulterior motives. Of course, the invitation wasn't made at 4am, and it wasn't an offer made in private to spend time one-on-one in an even more private place with a fancy bed close to hand. Context matters.
Maybe in you're mind, clearly in RW's mind, but frankly, it's not a universal conclusion.

But let me put a different slant on it. So what? Guy wants to know if you want to hook up, for whatever reason. He asks politely. He takes no for an answer.

Where is the problem there?
 
Oh come on, while I am generally anti-RW, the circumstances are not simply "one person asking another for coffee". To quote the great George Costanza:

https://youtu.be/-skZx5liyaM?t=1m45s
To repeat what I just said:

So what? Guy wants to know if you want to hook up, for whatever reason. He asks politely. He takes no for an answer.

Where is the problem there?


Since when did it become harassment to politely come on to a gal?
 
To repeat what I just said:

So what? Guy wants to know if you want to hook up, for whatever reason. He asks politely. He takes no for an answer.

Where is the problem there?


Since when did it become harassment to politely come on to a gal?

I agree with you. However, I was responding to the idea that it was actually a request for coffee. It was more probably a proposition for sex, and there isn't anything inherently wrong with that. There is no need to defend the Elevator Guy by appealing to the possibility that it wasn't about sex.
 
Maybe in you're mind, clearly in RW's mind, but frankly, it's not a universal conclusion.

I agree with you. However, I was responding to the idea that it was actually a request for coffee. It was more probably a proposition for sex, and there isn't anything inherently wrong with that. There is no need to defend the Elevator Guy by appealing to the possibility that it wasn't about sex.

First, who is defending Elevator Guy? We haven't even established that he exists as anything more than a made up example to remind us how desirable Watson considers herself to be, or a drunken recollection of a shared 10 second elevator ride with an attempt at pleasantries.

Second, we seem to be in agreement that, even if the incident occurred exactly as claimed in Watson's vlog, it is not universally accepted that being asked for coffee in that situation is a proposition for sex. Even if it is likely that it was a proposition, outside of mind reading we have no way of knowing that it was in that instance.
 
As if to prove my point? I'm pretty sure no one said that getting asked for coffee always means sex. Just that it did under the circumstances of the EG anecdote. Though, personally, I've argued that coffee shouldn't be assumed to mean sex even under those circumstances.

Being asked for coffee may imply that that sex is a possibility, and saying yes to the coffee might be taken as a sign of interest, but some people seem to be exaggerating this a lot. For example:
I don’t think it's too much to ask men and women not to have the first sentence they utter to someone be a cold proposition for sex, however clumsily veiled.

(Then again, I'm not usually invited to those sort of parties.)
 

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