Uncle Jimmy (I don't know why but I think your name as that) you appear to me a difficult man to please. Four years after losing that 25 pounds I put back on 12 pounds. I'm not looking for a magic pill, even though I might joke about it. I asked this group for suggestions - mainly because many are up on reading all the scientific studies, etc. on weight loss and what works and doesn't work.
What would you suggest I do to modify my behaviour?
I want to clear up a few things. First, I stand behind my contention that losing 25 pounds in 8 to 12 weeks is too fast. That you were able to keep half of it off for a few years is a good thing. In the future, though, I would still recommend losing the weight about half as fast.
Second, just looking at pounds lost is not a good approach. The best thing to look at is body fat percentage because ultimately that's really what counts for health. Any weight loss program that doesn't look at body fat is not a very good program unless, of course, you're dealing with the morbidly obese where those measurements become highly impractical.
So, when you talk about "pleasing me" in regards to your weight loss, let me tell you what runs through my mind (nothing personal). If you say you lost 25 pounds, I want to know what your body fat was before and after. I don't know your age, but I'm going to say that 20% to 30% body fat is where you should be. So, if you weigh 150 pounds you should have about 30 to 45 pounds of body fat. Let's say you were at 30% body fat. If you lost 25 pounds of fat and only fat (unlikely it was only fat given that speedy loss), then I would say you lost too much weight. If you were at 40% body fat, then losing 25 pounds would put in you into a healthy range.
As you can see, it's just not possible with so little information to judge your accomplishment from a health standpoint. You could have taken yourself from healthy to unhealthy, unhealthy to healthy, very unhealthy to unhealthy or morbidly unhealthy to morbidly unhealthy (25 pounds might be a drop in the bucket).
If you're interested in my opinions about modifying your behavior, I'd say the first thing to do is to figure out your body fat percentage. Do what it takes to keep it in the healthy range, preferably through increased exercise since more than anything else that's what we humans tend to lack. Track this number and you can pretty much ignore your absolute weight.
When it comes to your concerns about your physical appearance, I suggest that you keep your health a priority. Beyond that, understand that body fat
distribution is a genetic issue. If you have a healthy amount of body fat, it may end up being distributed in places you don't like. Ideally, most women would prefer it in their boobs and ass, but not everyone is born that way. It's going to go where your body's genes tell it to go, and short of entering into unhealthy
low levels of body fat, you may not be get the figure you want. Accept that. Also accept that cellulite is really just the
appearance of fat, and like distribution, there doesn't seem to be anything you can do about that either.
I don't mean to say that women are cars, but when evaluating how good the paint job looks on a car (dings, scratches, luster), it's a good idea to take one step away per year the paint/car has been around. For women up until around age 16, contrary to what Sol Invictus and other physics geeks might argue, gravity and photons have no effect on the tissue in the breasts and buttocks. It's not so much that breasts begin to "sag" it's really that as time goes on, more and more particles transform and become susceptible to gravity. It's an overlooked field in physics.
My point is that as you get older, it's just not a good idea to look at your legs or ass too closely or in too harsh of a light. Take a few steps back when you look in the mirror. Tight bodies with smooth skin belong to the young and genetically gifted. Be realistic about what your genetics and age will allow and keep your health first and foremost.
On a side note, this advice tracks with my stance on weight problems in children and young adults. We
should look more closely at them when it comes to body fat because the older you get, the harder all of this stuff is to deal with. Being a "little chubby" at young age and into the teens is a very bad thing. It's like a rocket being a "little off" at launch. It may not seem much at first, but after a while the rocket will be way off target. Likewise, if you're having problems being overweight at a time when the only weight issue should be being too
skinny, your future health is in jeopardy.