Really? You and I have been on different forums, then. Ever go to Xbox Live? Sure, women recieve more than their fair share, but men aren't exactly immune to it, nor is it rare by any means (I'd go so far as to say that it's the major form of communication, in fact). It's just that in our culture what counts as a rape threat when directed towards a woman counts as nothing more than harmless banter when thrown at men.
You know, I've been on the Internet since it was called the Arpanet, and before that, on bulletin board systems extending all the way back to CBBS Chicago. In that time, I've received countless death threats (including one that had a photograph of me attached to my street address, sent by a spammer named Art Schwartz), threats to burn down my house, and even, once, a threat against my cat.
But I've never been threatened with rape.
On the other hand, one of my girlfriends is a vocal atheist who receives rape threats almost on a daily basis.All she has to do is...well, is open her email inbox, really.
Now, I can't speak to the Xbox Live forums; I've never been there. Maybe the Xbox community simply breeds an exceptional strain of ********, I don't know. But if you're maintaining that men and women both receive such threats in roughly equal amounts, that absolutely isn't my experience.
And again, if we lived in a world where 17% or so of all the men who ever received death threats were murdered, well, we might be inclined to take them a bit more seriously, don't you think?
If you examine what's said, rather than the reaction to it, you'll find that jackasses are jackasses no matter their audience. It's our culture, not the speaker, that treats genders differently.
Like I said, that hasn't been my experience.
Maybe. In this context, so what? I don't mean that we shouldn't fight for more gender equality--rather, I mean that this is utterly beside the point. The point is that Atheism+ (or at least spokespeaple of the group) is arguing that all non-members are guilty of discrimination and sexism, merely by virtue of being non-members.
That certainly would be a strange claim to make. If someone made such a claim in front of me, I'd disagree with it quite strongly...that is, if I didn't simply laugh and walk away.
I haven't seen much about the Atheism + community, so I don't know if that is actually the claim they make or a straw man representation of it. If it is the claim they make, then it's ridiculous on the face of it--so ridiculous, in fact, that it's barely even worthy of a response.
Dinwar said:
That's really the heart of my view on gender and race equality. To make the races and genders equal you IGNORE THEM.
That works, except when it doesn't. If you live in a society whose structures and institutions provide an advantage to some groups and disadvantages other groups, ignoring it does not make it go away.
The problem with privilege is that it is invisible to the folks who have it.
Myriad said:
So, re privilege, I'm left where I started. Sure, there is such a thing and it has real effects. And if I make an argument that is invalid because of my privilege, I would expect and invite a refutation that includes an explanation of what my privilege has caused me to get wrong. (Go ahead and talk about the privilege if you wish, but the actual reason I'm wrong will be of more interest to me.) On the other hand, saying I'm wrong because of my privilege, without such an argument, is fallacious.
Agreed without reservation.
The conversation about privilege and social advantage is necessary only as a starting point to a conversation, because of its tendency to be invisible to those who have it; "this affects me more than it affects you because you are blessed to belong to a group that doesn't have to deal with these particular issues" is often part of the 'actual reason that you're wrong' bit.
On the other hand, using it as a silencing tactic--"You are privileged and therefore what you say is invalid"--is beyond silly; it's actually detrimental.
Last of the Fraggles said:
Can we just clarify what you are saying:
1. Almost all (not a few, not some, not even many but almost all) women internet users who use an internet forum receive rape threats online?
2. A significant percentage of those women who receive online rape threats actually go on to be raped by their threatener? You are not clear on what number goes here as you quote an unrelated statistic - do you have a figure in mind, did you mean to imply 17%?
Ah, no that's not actually what I'm saying, though I see how you arrived there. Let me try to clarify:
1. Almost all women Internet users who regularly blog or write about emotionally charged, controversial topics--religion, abortion, atheism, and so on--are quite likely to receive rape threats at some point in their writing. The more prominent they are and the more controversial the topics they write about, the more often this happens.
2. A significant percentage of women will be sexually assaulted in their lifetimes. Not as a result of what they say online, or (necessarily) by the folks who threaten them online; it's simply a sad matter of course that women are sexually assaulted in numbers that, if it were any other crime, would be quite jaw-dropping.
The connection between the two is that many men seem to trivialize or dismiss the idea of posting rape threats online; if men had to deal with murder on at the rate that women had to deal with rape, it might be possible that men might deal with death threats as seriously as women take rape threats.
ocelot said:
I happen to think that your description of privilege makes a certain amount of sense however when trying to educate myself on the issues I have discovered that there is no such thing as female privilege in any context. What you're discussing there is actually benevolent sexism
http://finallyfeminism101.wordpress....ale-privilege/
I think, if I squint hard enough, I can kind of get where the author of that piece is trying to go with the notion of 'benevolent sexism,' but it also seems to me that the argument runs off the rails pretty quickly. It might be possible to argue that exemption from the draft is sexism rather than privilege, in that it is actually a constraint on women's freedom of action (women who WANT to serve in combat units aren't permitted to), but it's really, really, really hard to make a case that the legal system does not, in fact, privilege women.
Humes fork said:
The atheist=liberal moniker is false. Libertarians are if I'm not mistaken one of the least religious political demographics. It would be absurd not to cooperate with them on issues like secularism.
Well, kind of. In the US at least, social conservatives do tend overwhelmingly to be highly religious, and to claim a religious justification for their beliefs. Some of these people--including, it must be said, some people in political office--even go so far as to advocate for a theocratic government in the US. So it's tough to be atheist and also see eye-to-eye with those folks; particularly given that atheists are often used as generic 'evil people we are against' monsters in their rhetoric. See, for example, George H.R. Bush's famous comment on the notion that atheists should not be citizens.
There's more than one kind of 'liberal' and more than one kind of 'conservative.' In my experience, Libertarians don't fit neatly into the liberal OR conservative camps in US politics, as they tend to be fiscally conservative but socially liberal.