Point taken about perception, though with the caveat that said perception was created and fostered by FtBers so I don't see why it should be taken seriously.
And where are these "posts about how people were turned off joining atheist/skeptic organizations"? Were they on Skepchick/FtB? If so, I again wouldn't take them seriously since they're eminating from an echo chamber.
No. I've seen such comments far before FtB ever got off the ground, going back years. Mostly on the lines of "I looked into joining an atheist group, but it was so unpleasantly sexist that I went away". I could dig for them, but frankly I have better things to do at this time.
And even if they're posted on FtB, so what? If someone is perceiving the atheist societies as a hostile environment, aren't they far more likely to post in a blog that's sympathetic to such experiences than, say, here? Not everyone has a thick enough hide to raise such concerns in a place where they would be doubted from the start.
I think, and I'm sure I'm not alone in this, is the identity of the haters is still in question. Those actual critical thinkers who disagree with some or all of the premises of the group-think personality cult "leaders" of Atheism+, Skepchick and FtB are hardly haters nor spewing "bile".
And who is this "we" you speak of? I'm not seeing it, much less largely.
Well, who then? I direct you to the latest post by Rebecca Watson, which lists specific examples of flames received by her. Would you argue that these represent people with legitimate disagreements, or people who merely want her to STFU?
http://skepchick.org/2012/09/misandry-a-how-to/
I'm also not sure what legitimate disagreements exist at this time - I'm seeing a lot of accusations of groupthink, a lot of quibbling about the label. What else?
As for sweeping under the carpet, this is mostly an issue for conventions. I haven't kept track of developments in local groups enough to comment (it's been months since I even had time to go to Sceptics in the pub). Most con organisers seem to be on the ball, but if you want a specific example, the comments by JD Groethe of late have all the hallmarks of someone trying to pretend the problem doesn't exist. Hopefully this whole kerfuffle will serve to put attention to the problem, put policies in place and indeed make cons more welcoming to a larger population once everyone calms down.
I'm not saying every single issue raised is necessarily relevant, but there are enough of them to indicate a problem that needs to be dealt with. Basically, once it becomes clear that the people in charge will back those who raise concerns about someone's conduct, we can all go back to heckling psychics or whatever your pet amusement is.