To the bit about handcuffing children... I have no idea what that refers to. Personally, handcuffs are an offensive idea. But there is no 'Wiccan policy' on anything at all.
As for Larsen, the fact is, he is overly pedantic in many respects. That is certainly his right. I wonder, though, if he gets so vigilant and focused looking at secular laws, philosophical concepts, etc.
The Rede is NOT a law, Claus. Very specifically, the Rede is listed in many books on the subjects as something not quite a law, stronger than a suggestion; an ideal, a goal, perhaps, but not a law. There's no Wiccan Gestapo out there arresting Wiccans for stepping on bugs or eating deer. It is very much in the same class as every other moral code and ideal available to mankind through religion and/or philosophy - strive to fit it as best you can, but don't beat yourself up over it.
That being said, it is also rarely honestly followed, even in the loosest sense, by many Wiccans. They spout off the Rede like it's a golden shield, but then cast dark spells at each other, make disparaging comments behind each other's backs, beat their kids, kick their dogs, etc. Why? Because Wiccans are human, too.
This doesn't mean ALL Wiccans act this way, or even that most do, or even that it's common. It just means that this is the way people tend to be. The most devout Christians still violate the Golden Rule when it suits them. The most devoted Buddhists still fail to live up to their own moral codes sometimes. And no moral code is ever complete; exceptions and conditions apply anytime, anywhere, to any code of conduct.
It's like being in a large corporation, and having a big poster on the wall that says something like, "Low cost, high quality." Obviously, these two things contradict each other on a regular basis; the individual worker or boss has to make the decisions about whether to spend more buying quality parts, or keep costs low somehow. The ideal is to reach an overall state of lower cost and higher quality, but is often difficult or impossible to achieve. And, at times, you have to draw lines even within such a code.
As I said before, many Wiccans interpret 'None' to mean 'No Human'; many others will define broad interpretations that include humans, mammals, fish, etc. but exclude harmful insects, microscopic life, and so forth.
One thing to remember is that there is no 'Wiccan Church' that is inclusively in charge of all Wiccans. Unlike most other religions, Wicca is a disorganized religion. It is a mish-mash of many ideas from many sources, most notably from the Ceremonial Magician concepts of Alistair Crowley, blended heavily with bits and pieces of pantheistic culturalism, environmentalism, fantasy, and feminism. No two Wiccans ever seem to be much alike. And no governing body exists to tell them all what to do.
There are even some Wiccan groups who have rejected the classic Rede and created their own guidelines for good behavior; these are probably much more palatable to your way of thinking, since they are more specific about when harm is necessary and when it is to be avoided. Overall, it could be generalized still as "Do what you like, but don't hurt yourself or others more than necessary."
Consider the Golden Rule, for a moment. There are some freaky folks out there who like pain, who enjoy domination, who like suffering. The Golden Rule suggests, if taken literally, that they should be out there inflicting pain, dominating others, and causing suffering, yes? But even these strange people can recognize something that you are choosing not to: that there is an intent behind these moral codes to be strived for, which is not necessarily contained within the letter of the code.
No, it's not perfect. It's not precise. It's not all-encompassing. Folks violate the letter of it all the time - even very good folks. How is that different from any law, rule, guideline, code, etc. anywhere in the world?
... Odd thought - I just pictured Larsen in my mind driving his auto precisely at the speed limit, never attempting to beat the red, always signalling; always heating his food precisely by the instructions; and mailing checks to artists every time he hums a popular tune in the presence of others. Made me giggle - sorry.
