Are adopted children slaves?

[PitPat]

I was adopted when I was about 3 months old. I have no recollection of my birth parents and despite my adoptive parents giving me the requisite information in a sealed envelope on my 18th birthday almost 30 years ago, I have never wanted to seek out my birth parents. I have never felt any of the sense of loss or not belonging that some adoptees express (and as often portrayed in film and TV). Whether this is just part of the way I'm wired, the relationship I have had with my (adoptive) parents or because I'm an only child so had no-one else to feel different from, something else or some combination of factors - I don't know.

IMO describing adoption as slavery indicates that the writer either doesn't understand adoption or has had a horrible experience of it. It's not something I recognise.

QFT. I was adopted 10 days after birth through an unregulated Catholic agency (which was the norm at the time). Apparently my biological parents were students at the University of Washington at the time, and abortion wasn't legal. Had it been, or with fairly easy and safe underground access to it, I wouldn't be typing this right now. Nor would I know it; needless to say I'm ardently pro-choice.

Blood lineage is fine, but so is non blood-lineage. There's too much emphasis on genetic background. The only time it really comes up now is when my doctor, always forgetting about the last conversation, asks if there's any history of X disease in my family.

Like you, I never felt strongly about finding out who my biological parents were. I was lucky enough to grow up in a stable, loving family relationship, and that's really all one could ask for.

My sister, however, who was also adopted (unrelated to me), did meet her biological mother in early adulthood and it was a disaster...substance abuse, domestic abuse and everything you would not want to hear about your DNA.

It's a crappy right-wing article with little to back up their facts, more clickbait than anything else.

 

[Travis]

Oh, this.

One loony right-wing person does not represent "the right wing" any more than another loony left-wing person represents "the left wing".

But you know this already, so why ask?

Once upon a time the idea that being prevented from being an bigot towards homosexuals with your business was an infringement of "religious freedom" was just an idea espoused by a few lone wackos. Now it has metastasized into multiple laws in several states.

 

[yodaluver28]

Once upon a time the idea that being prevented from being an bigot towards homosexuals with your business was an infringement of "religious freedom" was just an idea espoused by a few lone wackos. Now it has metastasized into multiple laws in several states.

Yup, just like adamant opposition to abortion under almost all circumstances was a radical fringe idea, even amongst Southern Baptists, 40 years ago. Now it's practically a requirement to be a conservative. Same thing for contraception. Only hard core religious wackos where opposed to contraception being discussed in schools or provided by health insurance just 25 years ago, now it's becoming a prominent meme in the GOP. For some reason, less radical conservatives refuse to admit or accept the fact that the GOP has gone down the rabbit hole and instead try to deflect by pointing to radicals on the left. The difference is the radicals on the left are far less numerous than those on the right and they have zero influence or power in the Democratic Party whereas the religious radicals on the right not only have power and influence in the GOP, they are running the show to the complete exclusion of moderates.

 

[Giordano]

I always thought that Fundamentalists believed all children, adopted or birthed, were slaves to their parents, and had to do and believe exactly what was told to them. In fact, I thought that Fundamentalists believed that Child Protection laws were evil governmental violations of the natural right of parents to punish children as they saw fit, including physical torment. Has this changed?

 

[Alareth]

I always thought that Fundamentalists believed all children, adopted or birthed, were slaves to their parents, and had to do and believe exactly what was told to them. In fact, I thought that Fundamentalists believed that Child Protection laws were evil governmental violations of the natural right of parents to punish children as they saw fit, including physical torment. Has this changed?

Hypocrisy is a core tenet of fundamentalist logic.

 

[Morrigan]

My mother was a slave? Who knew?

 

[Babbylonian]

I was adopted by the man who married my mother. Does that make me half slave?

 

[ravdin]

Plenty of gay parents have children who aren't adopted. Are those children enslaved as well because they didn't have a say as to the orientation of a biological parent?

 

[supercorgi]

hmmm...I'm the youngest of 4. My 2 brothers and my sister were all adopted because my parents were told they couldn't have children. Then at age 40 they were surprised with me. The fact of their adoption was never hidden from my brothers and sister. In fact when I was young, they used to tease me with "Mom and Dad wanted us. They got stuck with you!" So no I don't think they were slaves and I don't think they resented their status as adopted.

 

[Monketi Ghost]

Problem starts: "I believe that..."

 

[fitzgibbon]

I was adopted when I was about 3 months old.

Week old for me.

I have no recollection of my birth parents and despite my adoptive parents giving me the requisite information in a sealed envelope on my 18th birthday almost 30 years ago

Never got that though when I was 30, I asked out of the blue and it was acknowledged straight away.

I have never wanted to seek out my birth parents.

Likewise. Mum & Dad were my parents. Registered for adoption disclosure at 30. Once I knew for sure, I inquired more out of curiousity than pressing necessity.

I have never felt any of the sense of loss or not belonging that some adoptees express (and as often portrayed in film and TV).

Likewise. I wonder whether this is more important to women than men

Whether this is just part of the way I'm wired, the relationship I have had with my (adoptive) parents or because I'm an only child so had no-one else to feel different from, something else or some combination of factors - I don't know.

As children, I think we're hard-wired to accept that with which we were raised as being normal and those that raised us as 'parents' (whether or not we're biologically related)

IMO describing adoption as slavery indicates that the writer either doesn't understand adoption or has had a horrible experience of it. It's not something I recognise.

In retrospect, I see myself (in addition to my older, adopted sister) as having allowed a couple who nature didn't allow to have children to willingly take on that responsibility from an unwed mother. This opinionated mook, Robert Oscar Lopez, has some growing up to do. If only life were as straightforward as hi worldview would seem to expect it to be.

Fitz

 

[Arcade22]

I believe every child has a natural born right to his mother and father

Then how come nature regularly takes away the mothers and fathers of said children?

 

[Craig4]

With what my foster kids would get up to, they certainly weren't very good slaves.