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I haven't read all the threads and posts on the death of Anna Nicole, nor do I care to. Until this week, she really wasn't on my radar. However, being home, ill, and with a temporarily very short attention span, I've had time to think about this and there is something that strikes me as a little odd. As I say, this might have been noted elsewhere, and I'm making no claim to originality or profundity.
There seem to have been two reactions on this forum. One is that the world is better off without a woman who exposes her body for a living, even though some expressing that reaction seem to readily admit that they were happy to, um, vicariously participate in that activity. The other is an agressive "why should I care" attitude, oft repeated, which makes the person expressing that attitude appear to protest too much.
I am horrified by Anna Nicole on an entirely different basis. I speak here as a surrogate parent only; I have no biological children. However, it seems to me that a parent, from the time he or she becomes a parent, has a basic obligation to provide for the safety and welfare of that child. Anna Nicole has left a child whose paternity is in doubt (except that Keith Olberman vehemently denies being the father). The putative father with money and power (the lawyer) is denying the grandmother the right to see the baby. I don't know anything about the grandmother, but supervised visitation would probably be safe enough even if she is some sort of monster. All of the reports talk about the huge amount of money that might or might not come to this poor little ping pong ball, but no one seems to speak to the idea of loving, cherishing, and protecting her.
What if the lawsuit is unsuccessful and this little pumpkin turns out to be a pauper. Will there still be a line of putative fathers?
Anna Nicole's first move should have been paternity tests all around and written provisions for the baby's protection. Yes, Anna didn't know she was going to die. My nieces and nephew are parents of extremely cute babies (including Typhoid Bennie--partially responsible for my present weakened state), and I know for a fact that every eventuality short of nuclear disaster is provided for. In one case, I've seen the paperwork. These are young, strong, healthy people who do not abuse their health, yet they have foresight enough.
So I want to make it plain that I am not an Anna Nicole fan. I think she was a lousy mother in this infant's case. I don't know anything about her recently deceased son. I have a natural sympathy for a mother who has lost a child, having been through this in my own family, but I don't know the extent of her responsibility there and have no opinion on it.
But to abuse her because of her career path and to find humor in the death of a new mother--sorry. Don't see it.
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