Hi,
I hope I have not kept you waiting too long. Would you believe I am still trying to recover from the flu?
I made a few posts yesterday and then felt really sick and had to rest. I printed out your post and laid in bed last night....while hubby took care of kiddos, and tried to formulate a response. I think it's going to take at least two posts to respond....mainly due to how much I need to say.
I really appreciate your softened tone with me. That certainly makes me more willing to open up.
I hope I can make sense. You don't have to believe a word I say. I cannot prove everything I tell you. I can only say that I will be honest......according to my experience, knowledge, and opinions.
Such as...."For the record, I don't think Homosexuals, on the whole, are crazy. I also don't think, on the whole, that they are immoral. Speaking in general terms, I think that at least 1/3 of Homosexuals are legalistic. Some are abusive. I think that some Homosexuals are trapped by fear. I think some Homosexuals are harsh and condemning. I think some are backstabbers and gossips.[/quote]
Although I still disagree on your viewpoint on this issue. I am curious, since you believe in this "test to see if a statement shows prejudice....", if you would include homosexuals on your list?
Thank you for saying you don't think I am a bigot. Goodness knows, I am not anything of the sort. Admittedly, I would have a problem with the above statements if I came across them..........unless they were written by someone Mexican or Jewish who was speaking from their hurtful experience within that ethnic group. I could not question them since I am not Mexican or Jewish and have not been hurt by either group.
But yes, I could understand another Mexican or someone Jewish being upset and asking them questions. So, I do, to some extent, understand you questioning me....challenging me..........although, the reason I said, "For the record, I don't think Christians, on the whole, are crazy. I also don't think, on the whole, that they are immoral. Speaking in general terms, I think that at least 1/3 of Christians are legalistic. Some are abusive. I think that some Christians are trapped by fear. I think some Christians are harsh and condemning. I think some are backstabbers and gossips. is because that 1/3 was a rough estimate of the size of the Charismatics within Christianity who are legalistic. My estimate might be way off.
In a way, because of my experience, I view Christianity in the following way. We have devout Catholic Christians. We have liberal Catholic Christians. We have liberal Christians from denominations like Methodist, Episcopalian, or who may not even attend church, but believe in God, Jesus, and the bible, although probably don't view the bible as infallable, and might not believe in hell, or salvation only for Christians. We have fundamental Protestants who believe adamantly that the bible is infallable, and that hell is for real and waiting for all who reject the "gospel" message...who also might be Methodist and Episcopalian, but more likely to be Church of Christ, Church of Nazarene, Baptist, and Presbytarian. I can't think of other denominations, but I know there are others.
Then we have ultra legalistic Oneness Pentecostals (who reject the Trinity) and have strict "holiness standards", and put a lot of emphasis on speaking in tongues. We have Oneness Pentecostals who do not have strict "holiness standards", but still reject the Trinity, and put emphasis on tongues. We have legalistic nondenominational Charismatic Christians who put a lot of stress on tongues and other "gifts of the spirit". Finally, we have a very small group of non-denominational Charismatics who aren't legalistic.
I realize that, in actual fact , there are two major groups in Christianity; Catholics and Protestants. It's just that there are so many subgroups within the Protestant group....and many of them are so diverse. It's hard, sometimes, to see them all as one big group................especially when they don't all agree.
I don't believe that Christianity as a whole causes people to be legalistic, abusive, condemning, etc.....although, one could argue that even the salvation message is open to abuse. However, I'm not making that argument.
I just know that if a church has a legalisitc mindset handed to it from it's leaders, then people within that church are going to be effected......which translates into them being drawn in to that mindset, and becoming legalistic and potentially abusive....and certainly abused by the church leaders and even members. I can't say how much of this goes in regular fundamental churches........as I was only in a regular fundamental church a short time. However, I've had some exposure to legalistic thinking amongst regular Fundamentals due to online debates with them.
Anyhow, I can say with certainty that this abuse happens a lot in Charismatic churches and Oneness Pentecostal churches because I lived it so long....I know the doctrines.....i know the manipulations...I know the mindsets.
Making claims to see God is a far cry from someone speaking of their own hurt and/or anger from emotional abuse due to a certain "religious" group within Christianity. But, yes, without proof, my testimony is suspect.
Ok, I must stop here. I am feeling pretty sick again with this stupid flu. I will get back to the rest asap.
I hope I have not kept you waiting too long. Would you believe I am still trying to recover from the flu?
I really appreciate your softened tone with me. That certainly makes me more willing to open up.
I hope I can make sense. You don't have to believe a word I say. I cannot prove everything I tell you. I can only say that I will be honest......according to my experience, knowledge, and opinions.
Christian said:Ruby wrote:
No, I don't. Coming from a Christian, it might sound like they are trying to be careful not to say all Atheists act in negative ways. Personally, even though I am not Atheist, I would appreciate the way the Christian had stated that............especially if they said that on the whole that Atheists are not immoral.
Maybe I should have used a more evident example. I don't know if you are aware of the test to see if a statement shows prejudice (intolerance, bigotry). The test is very simple. If you stick any group in the statement made and the statement keeps its meaning in tact, then it is bigoted statement.
Such as...."For the record, I don't think Homosexuals, on the whole, are crazy. I also don't think, on the whole, that they are immoral. Speaking in general terms, I think that at least 1/3 of Homosexuals are legalistic. Some are abusive. I think that some Homosexuals are trapped by fear. I think some Homosexuals are harsh and condemning. I think some are backstabbers and gossips.[/quote]
Although I still disagree on your viewpoint on this issue. I am curious, since you believe in this "test to see if a statement shows prejudice....", if you would include homosexuals on your list?
Let me show you.
For the record, I don't think Mexicans, on the whole, are crazy. I also don't think, on the whole, that they are immoral. Speaking in general terms, I think that at least 1/3 of Mexicans are legalistic. Some are abusive. I think that some Mexicans are trapped by fear. I think some Mexicans are harsh and condemning. I think some are backstabbers and gossips.
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For the record, I don't think Jews, on the whole, are crazy. I also don't think, on the whole, that they are immoral. Speaking in general terms, I think that at least 1/3 of Jewish are legalistic. Some are abusive. I think that some Jews are trapped by fear. I think some Jews are harsh and condemning. I think some are backstabbers and gossips.
I promise you, I don't want to offend you. I'm not implying or suggesting you are a bigot or any similar. I don't think you are. But the statement is, that is a fact.
Thank you for saying you don't think I am a bigot. Goodness knows, I am not anything of the sort. Admittedly, I would have a problem with the above statements if I came across them..........unless they were written by someone Mexican or Jewish who was speaking from their hurtful experience within that ethnic group. I could not question them since I am not Mexican or Jewish and have not been hurt by either group.
But yes, I could understand another Mexican or someone Jewish being upset and asking them questions. So, I do, to some extent, understand you questioning me....challenging me..........although, the reason I said, "For the record, I don't think Christians, on the whole, are crazy. I also don't think, on the whole, that they are immoral. Speaking in general terms, I think that at least 1/3 of Christians are legalistic. Some are abusive. I think that some Christians are trapped by fear. I think some Christians are harsh and condemning. I think some are backstabbers and gossips. is because that 1/3 was a rough estimate of the size of the Charismatics within Christianity who are legalistic. My estimate might be way off.
In a way, because of my experience, I view Christianity in the following way. We have devout Catholic Christians. We have liberal Catholic Christians. We have liberal Christians from denominations like Methodist, Episcopalian, or who may not even attend church, but believe in God, Jesus, and the bible, although probably don't view the bible as infallable, and might not believe in hell, or salvation only for Christians. We have fundamental Protestants who believe adamantly that the bible is infallable, and that hell is for real and waiting for all who reject the "gospel" message...who also might be Methodist and Episcopalian, but more likely to be Church of Christ, Church of Nazarene, Baptist, and Presbytarian. I can't think of other denominations, but I know there are others.
Then we have ultra legalistic Oneness Pentecostals (who reject the Trinity) and have strict "holiness standards", and put a lot of emphasis on speaking in tongues. We have Oneness Pentecostals who do not have strict "holiness standards", but still reject the Trinity, and put emphasis on tongues. We have legalistic nondenominational Charismatic Christians who put a lot of stress on tongues and other "gifts of the spirit". Finally, we have a very small group of non-denominational Charismatics who aren't legalistic.
I realize that, in actual fact , there are two major groups in Christianity; Catholics and Protestants. It's just that there are so many subgroups within the Protestant group....and many of them are so diverse. It's hard, sometimes, to see them all as one big group................especially when they don't all agree.
I will explain where I think the problem is Ruby. If you let me explain, I will come from rational place, free from negative emotions.
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My opinion is that they were not legalistic, abusive, condemning and so on because they were Christians. If they were it was because they as persons were.
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You do not know any of these people. You did not live my life!!
Good. This is exactly what this thread is about (should be about).
You are talking about causation. You are saying that Christianity causes people to be legalistic, abusive, condemning, etc. and you are offering anecdotal evidence to support your claim.
I don't believe that Christianity as a whole causes people to be legalistic, abusive, condemning, etc.....although, one could argue that even the salvation message is open to abuse. However, I'm not making that argument.
I just know that if a church has a legalisitc mindset handed to it from it's leaders, then people within that church are going to be effected......which translates into them being drawn in to that mindset, and becoming legalistic and potentially abusive....and certainly abused by the church leaders and even members. I can't say how much of this goes in regular fundamental churches........as I was only in a regular fundamental church a short time. However, I've had some exposure to legalistic thinking amongst regular Fundamentals due to online debates with them.
Anyhow, I can say with certainty that this abuse happens a lot in Charismatic churches and Oneness Pentecostal churches because I lived it so long....I know the doctrines.....i know the manipulations...I know the mindsets.
As you are well aware, anecdotal evidence is suspect at best. If I told you, you should believe in God because I have seen Him, (or if millions of people gave sworn testimony that they have seen Him) would you believe in God simply because of my or their testimony? Of course not.
Making claims to see God is a far cry from someone speaking of their own hurt and/or anger from emotional abuse due to a certain "religious" group within Christianity. But, yes, without proof, my testimony is suspect.
Ok, I must stop here. I am feeling pretty sick again with this stupid flu. I will get back to the rest asap.