Doron,
You seem to be struggling trying to reconcile an intuitive notion of non-local with the rigors of formal logic. Have you explored 3-value logic as an alternate? E.g. True, False, and cannot be determined.
You will still be constrained by the Law of Non-contradiction (~(X and ~X)), but the Law of the Excluded Middle doesn't have to be a theorem (X or ~X) in a three value system.
The path you have been on trying to define non-local seems doomed to contradiction. On the other hand, (non-local <==> cannot be determined) may fit your intuitive model.
I'll do it informal.
We have, let's say, at least two (there can be infinitely many) poles (as Apathia suggested) .
Now I say to myself:"How it is possible to define in the first place, that there is a thing that is a pole of another thing?
My informal research:
1) No pole is the cause of the other, otherwise there is a hierarchy of cause\result and no polarity can be found.
2) These poles cannot be considered as poles if not both of them are simultaneously considered.
3) There must be a point of view that enables this simultaneous consideration, and it is not any one of the poles, otherwise we do not have a simultaneous consideration of the poles.
4) If one of the poles is the point of view of the other, then a non-simultaneous consideration of the poles is used.
5) A non-simultaneous consideration is a serial consideration of the poles.
6) Let Serial be non-simultaneous consideration.
7) Let Parallel be simultaneous consideration.
8) The parallel point of view is not polar. In that case it is considered as the middle between the poles.
9) The middle is not any of the poles, but without it there cannot be a parallel point of view, and no pole can be found.
10) The middle is not "a one of many" thing (I call it non-local, symmetry, invariant).
11) Each pole is "a one of many" thing (I call it local, asymmetry, variant).
13) I call the middle Relator, function, mapping, connective.
14) I call a pole Related, object.
15) Complementation is the result of Relator\Related relation.
16) The organic paradigm is Relator\Related relation.
17) I try to address asymmetry in terms of XOR.
18) I try to address symmetry in terms of NXOR.
19) I try to define Logic in terms of Non-locality\Locality relations.
20) Organic Natural Numbers (ONN) are Non-locality\Locality relations.
21) By ONN both parallel\serial point of views are used.
22) From a parallel point of view, each ONN's object is in superposition of identities of the rest of the objects.
23) From a serial point of view, each ONN's object has a unique identity.
24) Given any cardinal, an ONN is any possible Non-local\Local relations of this cardinal.
25) No collection of identities (whether there are in a superposition or not) is logically the Relator (which is not "a one of many" thing).
26) As a result no collection is logically complete, where complete is: not "a one of many" thing.
Let us stop here, check it and try to formalize it, before we continue.