It's worked for me, so far. I'm free from sexual disease, I don't have any children I don't know about, and I don't need to justify my actions to myself.
That you
know of - there is no HPV test for men. Anyway, good for you - I've successfully avoided any motorcycle accidents and helicopter crashes.
Without some standards, unfaithfulness goes under "anything goes" along with anything else that goes. Since you at least have that standard, it logically follows you don't go by "anything goes" because there is at least one thing that doesn't go. What else doesn't?
"As long as no one is hurt" is the standard the excludes things from "anything goes" - I don't know why you have such a problem accepting that. The existence of one or two unknowing significant others adds a victim to the whole affair that makes it more than just sex between two consenting adults. It's not the sex that is the issue in the way it would be in the case of a rape or a child molestation case.
The only reasonable way that adults can consent is if they know, understand, and trust each other. You can't do that with perfect strangers, or at least I wouldn't.
Bully for you - but who are you to judge if two other consenting adults (the definition expands beyond your narrowly rewritten definition)?
So you equate Pakistan to a land where people hold themselves to higher standards, stop trying to excuse their behavior, and realize that actions have consequences? Really?
I equate
western Pakistan with the result - in the real world, not in Mayberry - of equating sex and morality.
That's some bullet proof logic there! We should get right on repelling laws that protect people from sexual abuse and rape before we become the next Somalia!
You do realize that repealing all the laws would lead
to Somalia, right? They have no central government.
That whole statement makes no sense, in fact. If you equate sex and morality, the end result is that certain acts and orientations (between consenting adults) are considered moral and some immoral. And that leads to everything from shame to mutilation to murder to prevent those sexual acts/orientations.
No, it's a serious question. All that falls under "anything goes" and "some of us have a sex drive", so I'll repeat the question.
Do you have any self-control or will you just have sex with any man, woman, child, family pet, and house plant?
Not men, because my orientation is strictly hetero. Not children because that's both de facto and legally rape, and has a victim. Not animals and plants because I am not attracted sexually to either and in the case of animals that would qualify as cruelty in many cases. As far as women, yes - provided she's attractive and willing, I'll have sex with her, absolutely, without needing a relationship. I don't even have to know her name (but I would wear absolutely a condom - that
I purchased - in that case). I wouldn't judge anybody else who did the same, with either consenting adult women or men. Frankly I wouldn't judge anybody who got it on with a plant, or an animal that would not be harmed in the process. Maybe I'd think they were a little...odd, but I would figure that's their business.
If the answer is no then you can exhibit some self-control such as having safe sex, not having sex with more than one partner, and not having anonymous sex... As recommended by people who have a better idea about sexually transmitted disease and sexual health than you or I.
Nothing wrong with having sex with more than one person, or having it anonymously. Not practicing safe sex, of course, isn't very smart.
And there you go again with inserting your own definitions - preference has nothing to do with self-control.
