Garrette,
- I still claim that "friendly" debate tends to be much more constructive than does "unfriendly" debate. A lot of the time, you (in particular) do seem to be friendly when addressing my arguments. Above however, when you say, "No. There are two glaring errors, both of which have been pointed out more than once:" you don't sound very friendly.
- In trying to be friendly, I would have said, "I think that there are actually two errors, and that both have been claimed previously." -- or, something like that. I would add "I think," drop "glaring" and change "pointed out" to "claimed." I think that would have given your respondent (me) more (at least subconscious) incentive to be open-minded about your claim...
- Using Bayesian terminology, the probability of an event occurring based upon the existing model (here, one finite life) -- before the event occurs -- is called the "likelihood." I'm claiming that the likelihood -- before I occur -- of me actually occurring -- based upon the existing model -- either "approaches zero," or is just unimaginably small.
- That's a lot to say in one gulp. Hopefully, it doesn't just further confuse the issue.
Hmmmm.... I am going to attempt to write this in a way that comes across as friendly, because that is how I mean it, but I am simultaneously not going to try to worry too much about the trappings as opposed to the substance.
I think that your analysis of my tone demonstrates two things, even if they are not what is intended in your communication.
First, in discussion of friendly vs non-friendly debate, it indicates that you are more concerned with form than with substance and will not engage if a form offends even though the substance sticks. I think I have said in the Shroud threads that I prefer the opposite. I can handle even blatant incivility if the substance is there beneath it. No one, of course, is obligated to put up with incivility, but if your goal is actually seeking a valid conclusion as opposed to dictating decorum, then my own opinion is that effectiveness of debate can and should be divorced from tone.
Second, while I agree that I did not wrap my post in niceties, I really do not see any rudeness in it, though there is directness. Your criticisms, therefore, seem a bit nitpicky to me. I can try to tone the bluntness down a bit because I would like to continue discussion, but I will not promise to do it always or to the level of your preference and certainly not when my limited eloquence would suffer if I aimed for softness over clarity.
That's the general stuff. About the particulars of my posting style, I think I may have shared this before on the forum, too, but perhaps not. In both real life and in person I am quite civil, calm, and decorous when one of three things is true:
1. The formal situation calls for it
2. I do not yet have a good feel for my interlocutor
3. I do not have the greatest respect for the relevant skills or knowledge of my interlocutor
In real life, when I have had my most boisterous, noisome, and to-an-outside-observer downright rude exchanges, it has been when my opponent and I have shared a very high level of mutual respect. We knew each other could take it.
Take for instance this thread's exchanges with Toontown. I think that any outside observer would categorize a large portion of Toontown's posts as some form of boorish, obnoxious, rude, and/or insulting, yet I continued to engage him, sometimes giving back a bit of what I got. The point being that the substance of his posts is separate from their tone, and he certainly does not come across as someone who can't handle some verbal rough-housing.
And so my exchanges with you. I don't think it is appropriate on this forum to get as boisterous as my real life exchanges have done, but I also do not feel that you need to be molly coddled. Am I wrong?