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2, Very briefly on the limerick and that other word. The words in the limerick were gendered, the other word (That gets used a lot) isn't. That is a meaningful distinction. After that those in the thread made a far better case for the sexism, identified as subconscious and unintentional by consensus of the thread) than I can, I was learning while reading. Glob got the banhammer for the contentious way xie conducted themself afterword, see the capricious thread. Which also fielded several comments on use of the aforementioned pejorative.
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I don’t want to pile on here, but there’s something I just don’t understand about the claim that ‘wanker’ (or any of several other terms) is sexist. Others have (rightly) noted how ‘wanker’ isn’t a gendered insult, however even if we allow for the purposes of discussion that it is, I don’t see how it makes the leap from ‘gendered’ to ‘sexist’. Unless we water down the definition of ‘sexist’ to where it covers
anything which merely recognizes (without judging or ranking) application to one sex only, simply using a term (with no other context) does not make that leap. If the term is not being used in such a way as to imply all members of that sex have some negative quality, or that simply being that sex is itself negative, it’s not a sexist term.
Take, for example, the gendered insults ‘dick’ and [c-word]. When you call a person one of those two, the insult isn’t that they
have the named body part. You’re not saying “when posting on this message board, try not to post as if you are inherently a bad person because you have a penis”. You’re saying “when posting on this message board, try not to be a dick”. Simply
having a penis doesn’t make you a dick.
Acting in an offensive manner is what makes you a dick.
For reasons that belong in their own thread, society has hung all sorts of negative connotations on certain body parts, or at least the waste elimination part of what they do. That, and their excessive use has moved things to where the words have taken on new meanings as simply insults in themselves, no other connotations needed. So even if we allow that ‘wanker’ is always and unarguably a masculine insult (which I don’t, but again just for discussion), that still does not rise to the level of sexism, as it in no way implies that ‘wankery’ is a trait both universally undesirable and present in each and every male on the planet. All wood burns (all wankers are male), but not everything that burns is wood (not all males are wankers). Calling someone a wanker implies something negative about them,
beyond and independent of the fact that they must also be male.
If anything they’d have had a better case for saying ‘you shouldn’t use “wanker” like that because that’s sex-shaming. Masturbation is a healthy expression of sexuality, so don’t turn it into an insult’. That’d still have been seriously overboard language policing in my opinion, but at least the foundation of the argument would have had some sense to it.