If you want to go with a less than lethal approach, you should go with something else entirely, like mace/pepper spray/stun gun.
Yep! KISS principle.
Sometimes even a bullet or two won't stop someone.
Yep, often bullets are "less than lethal", dont get me wrong I think the stats are something like 80% of poeple shot in the chest who dont get immediate medical attention die, but that leaves a lot who dont.
In almost any situation where someone could bring lethal force against you within seconds,
you would be a fool to pull punches.
If you really do not think the situation is such that the person can bring lethal force against you within seconds, then you should use a much less than lethal option, like pepper spray, or a tazer, if you do not have them, then try to gain as much distance as possible while remaining at the ready to draw your defensive firearm.
From my own training: most of the emphasis is on deescalation, gaining distance, and either avoiding or removing myself from the situation WITHOUT the need to draw.
However once you have assessed that lethal force is seconds or less away from being met out against you, you must stop the attacker with maximum force as quickly as possible.
I think rubber bullets are a terrible idea for self defense for a couple of reasons. One is this idea that all options have been exhausted before lethal force is employed, and as was said earlier rubber bullets are going to be seen as lethal force regardless of your intentions. So legally this grants you no advantage.
If you determine that lethal force is needed, he reaches for a gun, he draws a knife and starts moving toward you after making threats, ect ect, if you fail to drop him with the rubber bullets, all you have done is escalate the situation. Also, being shot with a rubber bullet hurts like hell, but just like being shot with a real bullet often the person will know they have been hit, but it does not stop them, or via adrenaline they dont feel most of the pain right away, if you shoot me with a rubber bullet chances are I am going to think I have been shot with a real bullet, and if desperate enough may just do something even more crazy. This means that both legally, and practically rubber bullets are a bad idea.
Now if you are a squad of police officers, its a different story. You have backup, you have a team, you are not a single person in a dangerous situation, you have backup and more options. Rubber bullets are really only viable in a small subset of situations, and limiting yourself in that way is not a smart choice.
This is why I’m dead set against Conceal and Carry.
If I’m in a place where I am in danger I want to BEAR MY ARMS, as in let the bad guys know I got um and have the training to use them, and I only get them if I have training.
When I lived in North Carolina I carried openly every day for almost 2 years. I really wish every state had the same basic arrangement. I think if GZ would have been OC'ing his firearm the altercation would have never occurred, but that is pure speculation on my part.
Skeptical is fine. Arguing that there is no scenario where it ever makes sense or ever can be justified is what I find unusual. The battered wife is I think, a pretty decent example I think. A drunken idiot who thinks "you won't ever do it" and continues to head towards her as she has a gun might think twice if she fires a warning shot. Again, that's NOT to say it's wise. That warning shot could kill someone else. But I can imagine a scenario where it could be justified and not a bad decision (no one else in the home, fires warning shot upwards where the chance of injury to someone else is infinitesimally small).
I dont know is really my only answer. I am feeling this one out.
I would like to think I am a reasonable person, if someone pointed a gun at me, I would immediately want to find cover or get out of the line of sight of the gun, especially if I am not armed with a gun. So putting myself in the place of the drunk guy who is aggressively walking toward a frightened person of less stature (ie a women in your description). If she drew and pointed the gun with a command to stop that would be enough for me. I think firing a warning shot is a reasonable person hoping the attacker is also reasonable, and I think its a deadly assumption. Just my .02
I think if there is some kind of mistake in intention when a person such as your hypothetical situation find themselves in such a situation, giving vocal commands and trying to find a way out would be enough. The drunk guy would probably realize he is freaking this person the F out, and stop . . . unless his intentions are really malicious.
Ive actually been in such a situation and was able to deescalate by making my unease known to the drunk dude, and explaining in a commanding tone to DO NOT GET ANY CLOSER. It was a stressful situation, I do not think I moved my hand to my weapon, but I def backed up squared to target and started looking at his hands while issuing my commands and basically letting it be known he was freaking me out. Upon reflection I think he was pretty harmless, but I did not stick around to find out.