No, light from the far side will simply reach you later (and be more redshifted).
No, sol, it won't. There will be a point in time when light emitted simultaneously from the far side and the near side cannot both reach you. The only way that could
not happen is if the event horizons didn't connect in the middle, but rather repulsed each other. But that doesn't make any sense.
Why? It sounds like you think there's a moment when the horizon has moved past the object or part of the object
In the right frame of reference, that's exactly what happens, isn't it? When we're in, say Kruskal coordinates, the front end of the object passes the event horizon first, the back end later. So if in the falling frame we simultaneously emit light from the front and the back when the event horizon bisects out probe, then only the light from the back will leave.
So too here: the middle will get swallowed first, in the right frame. And in that frame, light from the sides can still escape. But that
doesn't mean that it can escape in any direction. It cannot escape through the middle, even though it can still escape. So some signals will only be visible from one side.
and therefore we will stop receiving light from it. That's not how it works. Instead, you keep receiving light from it indefinitely (ignoring QM), it just keeps getting fainter and more red.
That does not suffice. I'm not saying that light isn't received indefinitely, but that doesn't mean it must be received indefinitely in any direction. That's plainly true even in the simple infalling case.
I still have no idea what you think the "contradiction" is. Can you please be very specific?
Classically, an object cannot disappear from view unless it's inside the event horizon. So either we see the object forever, or we see it pass the event horizon. If we cannot see it pass the event horizon, then we will see it forever. But I can find no possible answer for what it will look like when the two black holes merge except for it appearing to expand into a ring. So what am I wrong about? Am I wrong that classically we can see it forever? Or is there some solution other than appearing to turn into a ring which will let us see it forever?
What exactly do you think is contradictory about always seeing the object as (say) a sphere, that simply gets dimmer and dimmer?
How can we see it as a sphere? The solution must be azimuthally symmetric, because the setup of the problem is azimuthally symmetric. Unless this sphere appears to be wrapped around the entire merged black hole (which really makes no sense), I don't see how you can get a spherical probe to be azimuthally symmetric after the black holes merge.
We're not communicating. By "fade out", I mean it gets dimmer and dimmer with time. That's all. If you want to ignore QM and pretend it emits continuous radiation, that's fine.
Yes, that's exactly the setup I want to consider.