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How many friends do you have?

How many friends do you have?

  • None

    Votes: 11 9.3%

  • 1

    Votes: 10 8.5%

  • 2 - 5

    Votes: 48 40.7%

  • 6 -10

    Votes: 30 25.4%

  • 10 - 20

    Votes: 12 10.2%

  • 20 - 50

    Votes: 3 2.5%

  • More than 50

    Votes: 4 3.4%
  • Total voters
    118
  • Poll closed .
I don't have "friends" as such. I consider people who matter to me as an extended family. People who I can rely on for anything, and they can rely on me for anything. The rest are just people I interact with through neccesity.
 
I put three to five because there are a limited amount of people that I speak with or spend time with, that I feel secure calling friends. In the outer circle, there is my atheist group. I look forward to our meetings, I look forward to the discussions, and generally care about their welfare. I hesitate to call them friends because A) we never make plans outside group events and B) it feels so slanted. I always feel like I take away far more than I can possibly give, intellectually.
 
JeanFromBNA said:
Yes. As much as we might love our animals, it's not really a two-way relationship.

If you have another species to discuss, let's hear it.
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Not a species, actually: I prefer the company of my computer. Always has such great gossip to tell...
 
JeanFromBNA said:
I'm just curious. How many friends do you think that you have? I'm referring to people that you see outside of work or offical duties; people that you would willingly spend time with for pleasure.
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Those would be acquaintance. Friends imply a lot more than just spending pleasant time together.

There's a saying I like : "A friendship that costs nothing is worth nothing". It comes from a rather funny book, and is said by an adult who sacrifies some of his vacation time to help two kids he has befriended to get their family house back ("Des Tuiles et des Hommes", by Randal Lemoine).

I'm lucky to have a few friends dating from elementary school who would, and on occasion did, sacrify their time to help me, and for whom I would do, and have done, the same in a heartbeat.
 
Your "best friend"(same sex as you), is by far the most likely person to be having an affair with your spouse. Your spouse is by far the most likely person to kill you, usually with the help of your "best friend"... So, how much is that life insurance policy worth?:)
 
I only have three friends I consider close. At the moment two of them want to sleep with me and the third owes me a ton of money. This is creating certain tensions.
 
Trantor said:
Your "best friend"(same sex as you), is by far the most likely person to be having an affair with your spouse. Your spouse is by far the most likely person to kill you, usually with the help of your "best friend"... So, how much is that life insurance policy worth?:)
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So I shouldn't have same sex freinds or a spouse at all? I have a few freinds that I trust completely. I can honestly say my wife would rather have me around than my life insurance money. You must lead an awefully lonely life.
 
RenaissanceBiker said:
So I shouldn't have same sex freinds or a spouse at all? I have a few freinds that I trust completely. I can honestly say my wife would rather have me around than my life insurance money. You must lead an awefully lonely life.
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Actually no. I have a happy marriage and have good relationships with my friends. I just don't trust anyone completely. Anyone, even those who you trust the most, can and will turn on you under the right conditions. Anyone who thinks that their trusted friend is going to help you bury a body, and keep your little secrect, is in for a rude awakening. Also, if your spouse happens to be attractive, I would be leary about leaving your good and trusted friends alone with them. We are all animals. I never forget that.
 
Trantor said:
Your "best friend"(same sex as you), is by far the most likely person to be having an affair with your spouse. Your spouse is by far the most likely person to kill you, usually with the help of your "best friend"... So, how much is that life insurance policy worth?:)
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Ain't trust a bitch? I trust my best friend to such a degree that if I were to walk in the room and find her naked, standing next to my partner, and she said, "It's not how it looks..." I would hear her out and believe her. Grant it, it took 30 years to build that kind of trust. My partner, well I haven't quite known him that long but so far, I've not seen one scrap of evidence that he is anything short of trustworthy. It's a gamble, of course but the potential payoff makes the risk worth it.
 
TragicMonkey said:
I only have three friends I consider close. At the moment two of them want to sleep with me and the third owes me a ton of money. This is creating certain tensions.
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Do a deal. Get the dude who owes you money to screw the other two senseless.

win win win win
 
JeanFromBNA said:
I'm just curious. How many friends do you think that you have? I'm referring to people that you see outside of work or offical duties; people that you would willingly spend time with for pleasure.
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on that qualification, hundreds,
are they close friends if the pleasure was intimate?
if so,
then hundreds
:p
 
JeanFromBNA said:
I'm just curious. How many friends do you think that you have? I'm referring to people that you see outside of work or offical duties; people that you would willingly spend time with for pleasure.
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I wouldn't care to associate with anyone who would have someone like me for a friend. :D
 
Flo said:
Those would be acquaintance. Friends imply a lot more than just spending pleasant time together.

There's a saying I like : "A friendship that costs nothing is worth nothing". It comes from a rather funny book, and is said by an adult who sacrifies some of his vacation time to help two kids he has befriended to get their family house back ("Des Tuiles et des Hommes", by Randal Lemoine).

I'm lucky to have a few friends dating from elementary school who would, and on occasion did, sacrify their time to help me, and for whom I would do, and have done, the same in a heartbeat.
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The only criteria are that the relationship be 1) voluntary and 2) meaningful. Define friendship however you choose.
 
Because I've been reading about Lee Harvey Oswald all day, I'm anxious to distinguish myself from grandiose loner-sociopaths like him.

There's my wife and kid.

There are two composers and another musician smoking-buddy. All of them are at least as self-absorbed as I am, maybe more.

There's Blobru.

That's six, count 'em six!

But day-to-day buddies? Zilch. Nada. Bupkis.
 
I have dozens of friends because I am very active in my hobbies. Admittedly I don't see many of them as often as I should, but yes, I would hang out with them in a nonofficial capacity for pleasure.
 
I've never really understood the definition of a friend. Sure, I have a wide range of acquaintances, but I don't know if I would go as far as to acknowledge any of them as my friends.
 
I voted 2-5 but it's probably closer to none. I don't trust too many people with my private life, and I tend to have more acquaintances than friends. I sometimes wish it weren't so, but I don't meet many people who share my opinions, or at least respect them enough to not preach to me about them.
 
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