It looks like I will again end up neither understanding nor believing that the chronological order of remote events would be relative, while the chronological order of local events is not.
It looks to me as though you're either unfamiliar or uncomfortable with the mathematical notion of a
partial order.
In what follows, I'm going to assume the special theory of relativity is applicable.
If events within 0.9 light cones distance from each other are "local" and "chronologically ordered",
Light cones often overlap without coinciding, so it's hard to make sense of "0.9 light cones distance" between two events.
Let's call your events e1 and e2. There are four possibilities:
- e1 and e2 are exactly the same event.
- e1 lies within the past light cone of e2.
- e1 lies within the future light cone of e2.
- e1 lies outside the light cones of e2, and e2 lies outside the light cones of e1.
With possibilities 1, 2, or 3, all observers will agree on the chronological relationship between e1 and e2. With possibility 1, e1 and e2 happen at the same time and place. With possibility 2, e1 happens before e2. With possibility 3, e2 happens before e1.
With possibility 4, different observers may disagree about whether e1 happened before or after e2 or at the same time.
I cannot see why events within 1.5 light cones from each other do not become chronologically ordered with each other, by a witness at half-way between them for whom they both are "local" and "chronologically ordered".
If e1 and e2 lie outside each others' light cones, then any witness W to those events will see them at events w1 and w2, where w1 lies within the future light cone of e1 and w2 lies within the future light cone of e2. Furthermore the world line of W connects w1 and w2, so events w1 and w2 must be ordered in time, and all observers who see both events w1 and w2 will agree on the order of events w1 and w2.
Suppose, without loss of generality, that w1 precedes w2. That tells you nothing about the chronological relationship between e1 and e2. Witness W may be able to calculate that e1 happened before e2 in W's coordinate system, but some other witness may be able to calculate that e2 happened before e1 in that other witness's coordinate system. When e1 and e2 lie outside each others' light cones, the results of any such calculation are coordinate-dependent.
When e1 and e2 lie outside each others' light cones, there is no absolute sense in which they are ordered in time. The ordering you get by combining causality with local chronologies is not a total order; it's a partial order.
That's a mathematical fact with implications for computer science as well as relativity. See, for example, chapter 2 of