If gay was a choice, you'd think some of the anti-gay bigots would choose it, just to 'take one for the team' and prove the point. I know Dan Savage has publicly made the challenge, and so far no takers.
Has a week gone by during which no anti-gay bigot has been caught playing dingle-dangle-dongle wit the requipment of his own gender? (from Frank Zappa)
Anyway, a lot about this choice stuff is silly. Gay or straight, offended at having is called a choice or not a choice, I've seen all four combinations. So saying "I'm offended!" loses its punch when people eventually come to see it as part of the background noise.
Also, it seems to me that a lot of the "choice" rhetoric popped up about 30 years ago when people started using the term "sexual preference." Except that term came from classical behaviorism, which specifically discounted choice and indeed all internal states. They used "preference" as jargon for what most people would call "tendency."
@Ian Osborne has mentioned a common assumption, that homosexuals are less likely to reproduce (and therefore it probably isn't genetic). Others have suggested a kind of "selfish gene" approach, where individual genes in close relatives can get expressed, or a "caretaker" approach based on something a bit more like group selection.
I question the basic assumption, that homosexuals don't reproduce as much. Gay people seem to be popping out kids right and left, and not necessarily with the aid of turkey basters, either. One of my mother's late friends was a guy who was 1) gay, 2) a priest, and 3) had a daughter. That's a pretty varied life right there. I've also met lots and lots of gay men who don't even identify as bi who say "of course in high school I had sex with all the girls." (I didn't get a chance to, and I'm heterosexual.)
A smaller inclination to have heterosexual sex and therefore reproduce may not be as significant as an increase in access, especially for gay men. Heterosexual men have to learn to do this balancing act; volumes have been written on the subject. Too safe, and you don't ever get to touch, and you get told Let's Just Be Friends. Too dangerous, and the Star Trek shields go up and phasers set to kill. This has resulted in ridiculous courtship rituals, almost like mating scorpions, who have to immobilize each other's stingers lest they get killed.
Gay men, on the other hand, can get away with murder when it comes to heterosexual women. Plus, there's the "I can fix him" appeal.
And if gay men don't want to stick around and give all their money to women, who cares? There are a lot of heterosexual men who will step right up, and evolution doesn't really care much, as long as the baby makes it to reproductive age, where the cycle begins again.
This doesn't seem to work so well for lesbians, but then again, female sexuality seems a lot more labile than male sexuality.
I don't glory in these rather nasty aspects of humanity, and just relating them makes me want to take a shower. However, I cannot discount the possibility that it may work like a charm.