May I summarize what you said, to make sure I have it right?
Your evidence is
1. Your personal experience
2. Other things that you've read
3. People you've talked to
4. Opinions of people like Hynek
If that's a fair summary, #2, 3, and 4 are pretty general. Can you be more specific? Like actual cases and descriptions of the type of evidence?
We've already been through #1, no consensus there, unfortunately.
On point 1. There is nothing anyone can say to make what I experienced not have happened or convince me that what I saw wasn't some kind of alien craft, so your consensus on that point isn't relevant to me.
On the rest, you'll have to walk your own path. I can't do it for you. I'm not going to start posting hundreds of cases here. Also, don't presume, ( if you bother to take my advice ), that I automatically believe every case I read in every book.
A good book to start with is
Beyond Top Secret by Timothy Good. When talking to people, just start asking them in casual conversation if they have ever seen a UFO, or know somebody who has. After over 20 years of doing this, I've heard ( informally ) enough stories from people who in my opinion are genuine and sincere to believe they all can't have been lying or misidentifying some mundane object.
Also, take the time to look up more often. It's surprising what you'll see over time even if it's not a UFO. I've seen two fireballs ( meteors ) in the daytime. One of them was huge and some people even got it on film. One day I saw a really cool black unmarked nearly silent B2 jet fly in really low ... I mean
really low over the city past our house ( also in the daytime ). I saw the space station going over in the daytime, an airliner get hit by lightning, so-called black helicopters, a twin turboprop with a bad engine, some cool birds ( hawks, eagles, owls ) and all the usual aircraft, meteor showers and such. I'm still amazed at passenger jets even though I know how they work. I can see them for many miles from my living room window on approach to the city and sometimes they fly right over my house, so I get out my 15 X 70 binoculars and go outside to check them out.
Lastly, most people who see UFOs don't plan for it. I certainly didn't. Out of all the observing I've done since my sighting in 1975, I've never seen another UFO, and I've done a lot of looking up.