Hey, the man, relax a little.
What makes you think I'm not already relaxed quite a substantial amount?
I'm not frustrated, I said I was feeling friendly, not hostile or scornful.
"feeling friendly, not hostile or scornful" don't exclude being frustrated.
OK, so you're not frustrated, have you found the answer you were looking for yet?
My amusement is with the human condition, which we all share, myself included. I was also hypothesizing from the tone I perceive that some others might be slipping into (perhaps unnecessary) frustration, but I wasn't 'laughing in frustration' as you misread me.
Nope, I was simply pointing out that the frustration you perceive may simply be yours at not finding what you seek by looking in the wrong place.
You really haven't been reading very carefully; I don't mean that so much as a put-down, as to describe that if you tried a bit harder to understand in a friendly manner, you might not need to be so reactive to things I didn't actually say upon closer reading. Unless you prefer sniping at phantoms more than engaging with other thoughtful (even if horribly incorrect

viewpoints, I invite a bit closer reading before reacting.
Actually I have been reading quite carefully and trying to point you in the direction of the type of answers you're apparently seeking. Again if you don't find the scientific and mathematical answers satisfying then I once again invite you to look somewhere other than a science and math subsection of this forum.
Likewise, it seems that you really missed what I found ironic. There's no inconsistency there. Let's try it point by point:
I asserted (for discussion purposes) in effect that science seems able to explain only as much of the subjective phenomenon of "now" as DOES fits into an analogy with "here" and that any further characteristics of the concept of "now" which DO NOT fit into that analogy are weakly handled if at all. (Paraphrasing).
Some others responded to the effect that (in their scientific framing) "now" was just like "here", and discounted (from their scientific framing) that there was any scientifically meaningful characteristics of "now" beyond those which analogize with "here".
This was agreeing with my hypothesis, not disagreeing, yet they appear not to have read closely enough to realize that.
Pay careful attention to the adjective "scientific" and the adverb "scientifically" in my quoted and unquoted sentences. Those were carefully used as important qualifiers, the omission of which could have indeed made my sentence seem to contradict earlier assertions. I have agreed from the start that "scientifically" there is little distinction between "now" and "here" (at least in terms of our current understanding, unless there's something new I haven't yet encountered but can hope for).
So let's just be totally clear that the conception of "now" which is well handled in science is indeed very analogous to the concept of "here". It's just an arbitrary point in 4 space, made special if at all by some observer whose worldline passes through there and who thereby gives it undue weight. Everybody here gets that, and I've seen no serious disagreement. Really. And certainly not from me! That's exactly what I learned in science.
However, the concept of "now" as a moving point where the undetermined future becomes the determined past, is a primary experience of almost all highly conscious beings to the best that we can tell. It might be explained as an illusion someday, but it doesn't go away just because we don't have a mathematical or physical model of it yet. THAT concept of "now" is NOT closely analogous to "here" and is thus outside the realm and tools of science, so far. It's hard to even translate this concept into scientifically meaningful terms, so it appears to be "nonsense" with regard to the scientific method, again so far.
And yes, that broader (or more subjective) concept of "now" does have several fundamental differences from "here", which the more limited "scientific" concept of "now" does not.
So again you're not looking for a ""scientific" concept of "now"", which is probably why your search will continue to be frustrated on a scientific subsection of this forum.
Yet I find some of the quantum mechanical edges of science do seem to be grappling with phenomena not formerly within the realms of traditional science, and I find it worth asking from time to time whether theorists have made any progress in scientifically addressing the broader concept of now, past and future. That's why I ask here.
Fine then discuss those "quantum mechanical edges of science". In scientific and not philosophical terms (you'll please note the qualifiers).
"No, that's still outside the tools of science, check with the philosophy department" is one perfectly reasonable answer. No scorn or frustration needed. No harm, no foul, for asking.
Quantum mechanics is a tool of science, and a very effective one at that. Perhaps the most effective tools of science that we have in our "tool box".
On the other hand, Sol Invictus and others have suggested that the subjective "now" could be illusion. I too find that credible and would welcome a scientific description of the mechanisms behind such an illusion, as we have for many other subjective or local framework illusions. I easily concede that might a a fruitful approach; I just don't see that it has yet borne scientific fruit.
Again as I said before look to physiology and perhaps some psychology for that particular "scientific fruit".
Two further rough suggestions of mechanism have arisen here (and elsewhere). One is that in effect C is a pretty big number; in physical space we tend to interact mostly with things around the light-nanosecond to light-microsecond scale, but time in the seconds to hours scales, which are disparate. That is, the scales of the time axis and the spatial axes are very different in the "everyday life" that imbues our consciousness, and this disparity of scale explains the subjective illusion of "now". While intriguing, upon examination I do not find that sufficient "mechanism" to explain the putative illusion, tho further discussion would be welcome.
Again it is not just the scale of C it is the time scale of our own ability to perceive that makes one believe what they perceive is in fact "now" as opposed to just the past.
The other is that entropy increase at near infinite rates, such that our consciousness cannot project certainty even a femtosecond forward, but the correspondingly lower entropy of the past allows us to have a fixed and immutable past extending billions of years. I'm still weighing this one. I haven't so far encountered any mathematics supporting the concept that entropy is increasing at such near infinite rates, so I'm not sure but that this proposed explanation is more than hand waving. I also don't see any full picture of how this ties to the subjective experience of now as the junction of future and past, but I'm still considering it and plan to do more reading.
"entropy is increasing at such near infinite rates"? Guess that heat death of the universe is only a "femtosecond" away now?
Your consciousness is a conglomeration of neural impulses that occur over some period of time and space in your brain. Which puts it in the past as well as perhaps the future, at least in the sense of a mathematical point as "now" with no temporal extents. As well as putting it "there", over "there" and some a bit more over "there", with a mathematical point as "here" having no spatial extents.
I have always been a "curious character", temperamentally not unlike Feynman even if far less brilliant intellectually. I seek out others of like temperament. My hypothesis is that some of them will gravitate towards non-dogmatic skepticism. I'm coming to another hypothesis which is that they might tend to avoid online skeptical forae for some strange reason. (wry but not hostile grin).
"dogmatic skepticism"? Talk about irony and inconstancy (indeterminate facial expression).