Gayak you've hit the nail on the head - AAAlfie's statement is just the kind of
How very condescending of you. Perhaps you are not an alcoholic just an attention whore whose claimed alcoholism needs to be worse than anyone elses.
So there really is only one way to sobriety and it is your way. You've got the deity, you've got the blind faith and you've got the one true path. How is this not a religion?
AAAlfie's statement is just the thing I'd expect from a dedicated cult member, things like "It's not the AA programs fault it's not working, it's because you don't have
enough faith in your Higher Power", or because the member isn't capable of rigorous honesty, or as AA dogma puts it "Rarely have we seen a person fail if they have thoroughly followed our path" (that is, get Bill W's particular kind of religion, develop a personal relationship with your Creator, reinforce this relationship with inventory taking, prayer, and meditation - then go out and get more cult recruits) - this is what the AA program 'suggests' the alcoholic do; a "suggestion" they call it, of course, right before they state that if you use your own thinking, your own willpower (or try to learn how to effectively deploy these personal resources) and don't follow their
suggestions you'll end up worse then before in either an insane asylum, jail - or dead.
Rather effective 'suggestion' eh ? to give to someone who's on their last mental and physical legs, beaten down to an emotional pulp and made ready to accept and do whatever the book, the program, the group, or their sponsor tells them to do. All throughout the AA writings one is constantly asked if they are willing to do whatever is necessary - George Valiant spoke about this in one of his studies, about the 'value' (his phrasing) of fully enabling
the placebo effect through group (read 'cult') persuasion.
And I'll say this again (and
again, until either AAAlfie hears it & it finally registers, or my fingers fall off) -
if the groups you've been to have all
demoted the god of bill's understanding to the point where it's rarely if ever mentioned -
if the groups he's attending do not have many members who feel the be all and end all of
solutions to every human problem (not just drinking) is contained in the first 164 pages -
if the groups he attends do
not claim 'rarely have we seen a person fail etc etc' - then the groups AAAlfie is attending are
AA groups only in name - in essence,
they are not AA at all.. When mentioning of god and higher power, dependence on faith in this power, turning one's life and will completely -
without reservation - over to the care of this power - when these things are removed from AA you basically have a SMART or SOS (save our selves) self help group recovery meeting.
That is -
you no longer have AA once you remove the religious content - you have a secular meeting (SOS meetings are short for Secular Organizations for Sobriety, as well as Save Our Selves).
This means the groups AAAlfie is talking about have gotten rid of AA's insistent ceaseless claim that the only way to sobriety is through faith in a Higher Power - a Power the newcomer will soon call God.
This is a
good thing, what with
AA's dismal failure rate (95%+ failure in getting people sober and keeping them that way for a year)
Concluding this short post, let me add I am
very pleased AAAlfie is sober
without falling for the AA dogma of needing god to solve his alcoholism,
without turning his life &
will completely over to a non-existent spiritually based Higher Power . AAAlfie appears to have not used AA much -if any - at all! and seems like he's sober. Not only that - it seems like he's found an SOS group, has been attending, and didn't even know it!
Lastly, I'll answer again whoever is asking (am repeating myself alot, as the AA supporters seem to be mostly ignoring my posts and links to data) why I keep repeating the 'old' AA literature (like, doh, the Big Book and 12x12)since he says "the program has evolved, and AA has evolved, etc.."
My answer? Well sir,
the AA program has not evolved - hardly a word or sentence has altered since Bill W composed it back in the 30's. That's one of the main problems I've been trying to get across!! Sure, some
groups have evolved - they evolved
away from AA!! Not only that, but (according to AAAlfie in any case) these non-AA groups are at least just as effective as AA (5% cure/95% failure rate - who knows , maybe even higher) - and both are
just as effective as doing minimal treatment.
So, with that in mind -
why spend the massive $$ on treatment centers all over the globe,
why bankrupt families with tremendous medical bills for non-medical treatment modalities,
why bother reading the big book god nonsense - when
doing nothing or short doctor-based intervention/minimal treatment is just as effective in getting & maintaining soberiety - and the AA way has been shown (in studies at the links I previously posted in this thread) to actually cause an increased level of dangerous binge drinking??
My suggestion : find an SoS, or SMART, or WFS (all secular non-12 step alternatives with a proven track record) and give
any of those a shot, if you're an alcoholic who is ready to quit but isn't sure how.
Why bother with AA at all?