ETA: I posted this before I noticed sol's reply, so apologies if parts of it kinda repeat what he's already written.
Thanks for all the responses above and thanks, Tim Thompson, for those links. Perhaps they will help clarify things
OK, let's look at Newton's two rocks in empty space attached by a rope. If the system rotates the rope is taut if the system does not rotate the rope is slack.
You mean, if it rotates
in an inertial frame.
Suppose the rope is slack. Can we make the rope taut by choosing a coordinate system that rotates around the center of gravity of the two rocks?
Or, alternatively, if the rope is taut can we make it slacken by choosing a coordinate system that does not rotate with respect to the rocks?
Of course not.
I don't think we can change reality by the act of choosing a coordinate system.
If by reality you mean measurable quantities, then you're of course right.
Either the rope/rock system is rotating or not, because either the rope is slack or not.
The correct conclusion should have been: Either the rope is slack or not, and whether the rope/rock system is rotating or not is a different issue.
Again, rotation simply means moving in circles. When the rope is taut and you choose a rope-centered, rope-fixed coordinate system, then no part of your system is moving in circles; it's trivial to verify. The rocks are provably stationary in that coordinate system, so any insistence that they
are going in circles in that coordinate system, because the rope is taut, does not make sense.
Perhaps you want to say that - say, when the rope is slack - that any system in which the rocks are rotating is "inferior" to the one in which they aren't. Well, this is another way of saying that there is a special class of frames - the inertial frames - in which the laws of physics are particularly convenient for some purposes. That's what special relativity tells us.
But look what you've done: you've chosen a scenario in flat spacetime and without gravity. Yes, it could be argued that when you restrict yourself to that, general relativity is an overkill, because special relativity handles those cases just as well and is simpler.
But general relativity is not restricted to flat spacetime, it's a theory of gravity and it's meant to deal with much more complicated setups than the one you propose. In more general situations, your equivalence rotation=taut just breaks down. For example, when the two rocks orbit each other, then the rope will be slack, and yet the rocks will rotate with respect to distant stars. Or, if the rocks are falling towards a massive body, the rope may be taut (due to tidal forces), even if the rocks don't rotate with respect to distant stars.
These were just simple examples; the point is that when you've got sufficiently curved spacetime, inertial frames go out the window, so one way or another, any coordinate system you may choose will be "inferior" according to your standard. Thus the choice of coordinate system ultimately becomes a matter of convenience.