It is again curious that everyone (except Darat) is focussing on the responsibility of the victim for her behaviour while her judgement is impaired: and not on the responsibility of the other.
We're debating whether there is a victim or not.
To come back to the drunk driving example which gumboot finds so difficult: people are not allowed to drive when they have a certain (fairly low) level of alcohol in their blood. This is because their judgement is known to be impaired and thus they are more likely to be involved in a crash. They are not given the right to use their own judgement about their capacity to drive because their judgement is not to be trusted.
The reason behind drunk driving isn't so much impaired judgement as impaired physical functioning. Judgement plays a part in that, but ultimately the reasoning is that a person driving a car poorly is dangerous.
The reason there's a set limit is because it makes enforcement easier. Same reason there's a legal age of consent. You have to draw a line somewhere.
The fact that people are prosecuted for drunk driving shows they are given the right to make their own decisions - because they have to face the consequences if they make the decision to break the law. If what you're claiming is true, you could not prosecute someone for drunk driving because it could not possibly be argued it was their fault they chose to drink drive.
What you seem to be missing in my analogy is that the accused is not the prospective driver: he is the prospective passenger. For me the responsible adult will attempt to dissuade someone who had been drinking from driving: at the very least he or she should refuse to get in the car as a passenger. If he or she does get in the car and the worst happens I would consider them at least as culpable as the driver.
You think the passenger in a car should be
at least equally at fault (that implies they can potentially be
more at fault than the driver) if the driver crashes the car and is drunk?
As I said, you are very happy to demand perfect behaviour from the victim and you have " no sympathy" for someone raped while incapable of consent.
Don't put words in my mouth that I have never said. I have no expectation that the victim's behaviour is "perfect". I am saying if the victim's behaviour is imperfect it's their fault, not anyone else's.
As for the second point, you couldn't be more wrong. I do not have the least hesitation giving my sympathy to someone who is raped while incapable of consent. I am in disagreement about when a person becomes incapable of consent.
It puzzles me why you have a different attitude towards the accused. On your rather high expectations of behaviour he is no more prepared to take responsibility for himself than the other. I do not understand this double standard and I have been asking you about it for quite a while. You have said he is an "idiot": perhaps you meant to convey that you have no sympathy for him either and that your hope is that his experience of a rape trial will teach him not to do that again? If so then I think your position is unrealistic and harsh, but at least it is consistent. It just hasn't come across very clearly to me
Sex is not something that one person does to another person. It is something that two people mutually take part in. Stop qualifying sex as something that the "accused" does to the "victim". It's nonsense.
There are two parts to a rape trial. The first is proving a rape actually occurred. People forget that. The second is proving the accused knew it was rape. This argument has focused on the first part. Because rape is defined as a lack of consent, any debate about whether rape occurred will
of course focus entirely on the complainant. The "responsibility" of the accused simply does not enter into it.
Only once you can establish that rape
has occured, do you get into the subject of the accused's responsibility - because at that point their actions constitute an illegal act, and they are responsible for that. If, as a reasonable person, they are aware their action is rape, they have a responsibility to stop/not proceed with their action. That goes without saying. If I felt the accused had no responsibility, I would be arguing that rape is not a crime. I'm clearly not saying that.
Perhaps this could be cleared up with some hypothetical scenarios?
Why doesn't someone present a series of hypothetical scenarios involving sex, consent, and alcohol, ranging from obviously not rape (perfectly sober people, agreeing to have sex and having sex, thoroughly enjoying it, breakfast in the morning, long term relationship, marriage, three kids, white picket fence, the whole works) right up to quite obviously rape (guy puts alcohol into woman's non-alcoholic drink, waits till she's hammered, drags her into alley, woman fights back, guy hammers her, rapes her, leaves her lying in alley).
Then each of us can go through each scenario and present why they would say this was or was not rape, and why. Then we could stop these frustrating discussions at cross purposes where we're clearly not understanding each other.
