People have mentioned the pushing of breastfeeding as being counterproductive. I think the main problem is the policy of telling everyone it is better whilst simultaneously having very few people on hand who have a clue what they are talking about. Most midwives and health visitors have only a tiny amount of training wrt breastfeeding, and really have no clue how to help when things aren't working.
Yeah, I definitely agree with this. The problem is exacerbated by the fact that in the UK there's apparently a shortage of midwives, so quite a few have been tempted out of retirement by good money - whether they have to undergo any training before restarting work I don't know, but I suspect not - the amount of contradictory information we were given was staggering, and intensely irritating.
I'd also have to say that many of the older midwives I dealt with were extremely opinionated, and did not like being questioned. This applied principally to breast feeding, but also many other topics - as far as many of them were concerned, it was a case of Listen To Me, This Is How It's Done, Now Shutup And Do It.
Generally they get away with it, because there's a natural deference to people in uniform in that environment. However, my entire family works within the NHS in one capacity or another - as have I -so I've been around those environments my whole life. They simply don't hold any mystique for me. I'm a scrupulously mannered person, but the simple act of politely questioning something (for example on the grounds we'd been told the exact opposite by the person on the previous shift) was enough to really, really put some of their noses out of joint.
The amount of information we were given as Immutable Fact, which transpired to be nothing of the sort when I researched it later was staggering. I think this ties into what Linda said:
That was the way I felt about the LaLeche League. But I felt comfortable pretty much ignoring them and doing all the stuff they said I wasn't supposed to do anyway.
I was also comfortable ignoring the information that was inappropriate or just plain wrong - but that's probably something that comes from familiarity with medical situations (I think I'm right in saying you're medical?). When you don't have that, it's a lot easier to think they're infallible, I reckon.
I don't wish for one second to impugn the majority of staff - they were overwhelmingly incredible; if I believed in angels I'd tell you that they watched over my son for 4 weeks straight. But there was a hardcore of older midwives who were extremely opinionated and yet had no real basis for those opinions other than "I've been doing this for years".
Ooops, sorry, that turned into a bit of a vent!
Thanks for the congratulations folks, I'm still coming to terms with it all, but it's awesome and I'm loving it. And I should have wished Joobz congrats too of course
