Oh, come on. You're not proud of anything you don't have control over?
This was a major discussion in a recent thread about gay pride. My answer, when Darat pinned me down, essentially amounted to, I try not to be proud of things I have no control over, with limited success.
Not even things like your hairline (when those of your peers are receding, yours is still at full tide)
Disregarding the fact that my hair is rather thin, the answer is no. If someone should be proud that he has a full head of hair, should a bald person be ashamed?
or your grandpa's war record (two Purple Hearts!),
Why should
I be proud?
I didn't earn the Purple Hearts. If my grandfather had been a draft dodger, or Julius Rosenberg, should I be ashamed? I have a cousin who is a pile of garbage wrapped up in a layer of skin; should
I be ashamed because he treats his mother horribly?
your commanding aquiline nose (I've been told it intimidates people at meetings),
Did I spend time at the gym to build up my impressive nose? Or was is simply an accident of birth?
There's nothing wrong with taking pleasure in one's gifts, even if you don't deserve them, and they aren't really all that much to other people.
Emphasis mine. I agree. But taking pleasure in something is not the same thing as taking pride in it.
If we should take pride in certain accidents of birth, should we not therefore be ashamed of other accidents of birth? If being black is something one should be proud of, then doesn't it stand to reason that
not being black is something to be ashamed of? If being gay is something to be proud of, then doesn't it stand to reason that
not being gay is something to be ashamed of?
To push this a little farther: If being black is something to be proud of, one must ask a number of additional questions:
- What is it in particular that makes having black skin praiseworthy?
- Do white people have that praiseworthy trait also? Or is it confined only to black people?
- If white people do not have that praiseworthy trait, should they be ashamed of being white? Should they do something to mend their shameful color (e.g. have some kind of reverse Michael Jackson surgery)?
- If white people do have that praiseworthy trait, should they, also, be proud of their skin color?
- If white people do have that praiseworthy trait, are there any colors of man that do not have it? Should people of those colors be ashamed?
- If all people of all colors have that praiseworthy trait, then doesn't being proud of it make as little sense as being proud that you have a mouth or a liver?