Are you going to be at TAM??
Georg... I know I sometimes attack the arguer and not the argument... that's why I put people on ignore. I can't help it. I can't even figure out what Claus' "argument" is half the time. He asks leading questions he doesn't want the answer to and he's all over the place... and I think the people who have these sort of communication problems are incapable of recognizing that they are the problem... much less fixing it. I put them on ignore so as not to further the problem. The striking think about mental or personality aberrancies is that part of the symptomology is denial of "symptoms". You can't fix other people... and they cannot fix themselves if they don't know the problem is them. So the kindest thing, as you noted, is to not exacerbate them Ignore them. Especially, if like me, you tend to end up giving fuel to their fire.
I know my mouth gets me in trouble. And by extension my blurting on a forum. I'm surprised such genes lasted long enough through the generations to get passed on to me. For me this is extra true, because in real life, I have learned to shut up or suffer the consequences. But on line I am free to say what I think, and I've developed a thick enough skin where the things that people say about me that are negative just make me think less of that person--not of me.
I know it's wrong to attack the arguer... I know I do it and have wicked good fun doing it... I especially like to do it slyly... so it flies over the arguers head. In my mind, I never start it, and I never say anything worse than the person I'm responding to-- but I've received warnings on occasion
So I use the ignore button to keep myself from being "bad". It's my way of giving myself a "time out". It's not really a slam to the other person though I know they can perceive it as such. Frankly, I encourage other people to put me on ignore, too, if what I say needles them.
It's not a crime not to like people or to think they are blowhards--it's an opinion. It's not a crime to put ignore them. I think we can all accept that there are people who don't like us and those are usually the people we don't like either--and, also, that feelings, like beliefs and opinions change.
Facts don't. They accumulate.
What people think, feel, and believe is not necessarily logical (this is my attempt to get this thread back on track). But we can determine whether people are stating opinions or facts and use evidence to judge the veracity of those claims accordingly. I think that most skeptics have determined that beliefs regarding gods are not things anyone can conclude from factual evidence-- and thus most are agnostic atheists--they know that NOBODY can know about invisible undetectable immaterial entities (by definition)... and so they don't have any such entities they believe in... and they have no reason to presume that those claiming such knowledge actually have knowledge on the subject. It
can only be a "subjective feeling". There is no evidence for any real immaterial forms of consciousness of any description.