At the risk of feeding into your therapy session AND of sounding like I am trying to be your dad, your new approach lacks something.
It sounds to me as if your parents were simply trying too hard to find something for you, and to live up to the expectations of our society (I am assuming you are American--or at least living in America). Yes, lots of parents are messing their kids up with all these extracurricular activities. Some kids take to it like a fish to water, others like a fish to a concrete sidewalk on a hot day.
Parents, by the way, are not perfect. Yours at least, appear to have had your best interests at heart.
Very lucky for you. You picked your parents fairly wisely.
Call it wisdom, if you will (though that will get me in trouble because I doubt very much my own wisdom and have already been told in here that I don't have any...not a surprise to me, that I don't, by the way).
Here is the reality of living and working (they go hand-in-hand, unless you are independently wealthy) in the real world: you will always be judged. Pre-work, judging by our peers matters not in the least. At college you are judged by your profs. on your ability to, often, regurgitate data, but in some cases, your ability to actually demonstrate understanding of the information.
Then you enter the work world (presumably). If you do so with the attitude you are expressing above (if not modified), you are in for a very, very tough time of it. Young people often enter the work world certain that the "fogeys" about them "just don't get it" and that they just need to "move aside" for the younger generations.
Maybe that's true. But the reality is (again, in general, mayhaps your dad or mom will get you on as a sr. VP where he works right out of college, I don't know) that those who've come before you in your chosen field, whether that's night stocking at Wal-Mart or brain surgery know things you do not, including how to get along in the business world.
I suggest that rather than rejecting wholesale what "they" (not your peers, keep in mind...for the most part your are safe in rejecting their criticisms) offer as criticism of just about everything you do for the first oh, 10 years or so, that you pay attention to it. As you mature and learn a profession you will of course learn what you CAN reject out of hand as petty, or jealousy or just stupidity. That's not saying you should let some "fogey" on the job at the print shop send you looking for the "striped ink," but I hope you take my meaning.
I think, if you adopt what you outline above, it's going to be many, many years before you'll find any sort of professional success (if ever) and will be very unhappy in your professional life, something that will spill over into your personal life.
Now, if you are in Old Europe (excluding GB) you can just laugh at this. If you are Asian...I have no idea how things work there, so you can dismiss it entirely. This is only "fatherly" advice if you are in America.
You are very much mistaken to take on the attitude that it only matters how YOU feel about YOU. Not in the work world, anyway. Probably not in your personal life, either. While it's a good idea to, as quickly as possible shed the High School Musical attitudes so many of us are saddled with (who is a geek, a nerd, a jock, a ______and where that puts them in the pecking order in that least important of places in all our life: high school), and while you read/hear/see much that says you should ignore others' criticisms of you you do so at your own peril. If a colleague on your first job suggests that wearing a t-shirt with Che on it to your job at an investment company is something of a policy no-no...you can reject that criticism based upon your "I do it MY way!" new attitude...and either get fired or never advance, certainly, or you can give that some thought and try to understand WHY that might not be welcome there.
In the end, you are gonna do what you are gonna do. But I'd take a very hard look at your above "new approach" to life before instituting it.
Your goal-setting approach, I like. Seems very rational and "doable." At 22, you should be setting some goal for "after school" too. Not "a billianaire by 40!" goals, but thngs more down to earth, like your grade improvement goal.
There would be something seriously wrong with you if, at 22, you were not frequently confused. Please stop paying attention to all the media you are bombarded with that tells you that at your age, you should be living in a mansion, driving a Ferarri, dating 6 supermodels and already retired to your own private island in the Caribean.
Um...for most of us, it does not work out that way, regardless of what all thes images in the media tell us. Funny, that. Just as for most of us we don't have the kinds of parents our media tells us all we should have: either horrific monsters or people who are our mentors and friends. Mostly, parents fall somewhere in the middle...muddling through the best they can, dealing with their own doubts about raising (you) on top of the same professional issues you will soon be facing.
Perhaps you should go to them with some of these questions, but if they are not the kind of people you can do that with (mine certainly weren't) then you might look to some other sources for such mentoring. Indeed, there are many actual Mentoring organizations out there.
And of course, now would be a good time to begin picking and choosing that advice you find most useful.
Tokie