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A world without marriage

Okay, some recent news:

I joined Second Life about two months ago (wanted to see what all the fuss was about), and through a variety of circumstances was invited to give a virtual presentation about the Mosuo culture, and our organization's work, at a SL event.

Although it was advertised only one day before, I still had over 60 people attend; my half hour presentation was followed by more than 2 hours of Q&A. There were a number of anthropologists and linguists present who are very interested in what we are doing, and who may get involved. And I've been invited to give the same lecture at five more SL events.

Out of a total of 15 different presentations during this SL event, on a wide variety of topics, mine was by far the most popular, and received overwhelmingly great reviews from the participants. Quite a nice start :-)

If anyone here is interested to attend one of my future SL presentations about the Mosuo, let me know, and I'll inform you of date/time/place for the next one.
 
Here are some pics of me doing the presentation. It's a younger, more handsome version of me :D
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Congratulations on your success with the presentation, Wolfie. It sounds like you've found a good way to reach some experts that your project needs. I hope that is the case.

I find the contrast between Mosuo life and Second Life striking.

But am I patronising them, and do some of the Mosuo have the internet?
 
Within the main tourist area of Lugu Lake, there are internet bars and fairly good internet access. But for most Mosuo, no, they would not have access. And I doubt many of them at all would be on Second Life.

It turns out that there is quite an extensive academic presence in SL, it is proving to be an excellent way of meeting and networking with professionals from all over the world.
 
Dear Wolfman,

Congratulations on this extraordinary work! I had to read the whole thread in one sitting. Fascinating!

I have two comments.

First, you expressed your dismay at seeing Mosuo adults treat children as if they had "no soul." I can relate to that. I experienced the same cultural shock in West Africa. I think a key to finding a broader context in which to understand that attitude is in investigating what initiation is. Originally, in so-called primitive societies, initiation was the beginning of personhood, not just adulthood or membership in a defined group. "Childhood," as just an aspect of being human, is a rather recent concept. Starting from induction into the human, a.k.a. adult, community, initiation evolved by specializing in priest/healer training, then preparation for other specialties. Today, in our "developed" societies, initiation is fragmented into myriads of school rituals, sports rituals, military rituals, diplomas, licenses, ranks, clubs, orders, fellowships and professional associations. I think it is fair to say that the closer a culture is to the "one time only, major transition into full personhood" model, the more you will observe adults treating children in ways that are "appalling" from our "children are persons too" perspective.

The lack of consideration given to non-initiated children would seem to agree with other "archaic" traits like matriarchy to make this a very ancient culture.

I recommend looking at Mircea Eliade's book on initiation. It is old, but he does a good job of digging up this "core beliefs" dimension of initiation.

Do you have any additional information on initiation in the Mosuo culture?


Second comment. You wrote about the traditional priest:

"Thus, his actual understanding of "medicine" is rather comical (from our perspective)...his view on it is that medicine is basically just another religious means of doing what he does: that is, defeat evil spirits with the judicious application of the appropriate ceremonies."

Actually, at the scale of global human history, his view is correct. The separation of the roles of priest and healer of the body started in recent times and in relatively small geocultural areas. To be specific, it is largely an effect of the roman catholic church's ruthless effort to wipe out traditional healing in Europe and concentrate the authority over all things spiritual in its own hands. The scientifically trained doctor may have become the standard of the healing profession, but he is still a descendant of the priests and shamans of our animist ancestors.

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Hi wolfman,
very cool thread, and best of luck with the complexities you face. Some of the cultural questions and issues seem very similar to those faced by some of the tribes in the US Southwest. The Arizona village of Supai is only accessible by a 10 mile trail of foot/horse/mule -- and helicopter. The impact on business, culture and the people is fascinating to observe.

There is an anxiety about wanting to help, and knowing that they must largely work things out themselves if they are to survive as a unique people. You seem to feel that for these people and I wish you luck.

One of my favorite books is a book of poetry from Chinese women ('The Orchid boat')- who were mostly concubines or otherwise matriarchal society. I am curious if the Mosuo have a similar tradition of stories or poetry that has been documented?
 
First, you expressed your dismay at seeing Mosuo adults treat children as if they had "no soul." I can relate to that. I experienced the same cultural shock in West Africa. I think a key to finding a broader context in which to understand that attitude is in investigating what initiation is. Originally, in so-called primitive societies, initiation was the beginning of personhood, not just adulthood or membership in a defined group. "Childhood," as just an aspect of being human, is a rather recent concept. Starting from induction into the human, a.k.a. adult, community, initiation evolved by specializing in priest/healer training, then preparation for other specialties. Today, in our "developed" societies, initiation is fragmented into myriads of school rituals, sports rituals, military rituals, diplomas, licenses, ranks, clubs, orders, fellowships and professional associations. I think it is fair to say that the closer a culture is to the "one time only, major transition into full personhood" model, the more you will observe adults treating children in ways that are "appalling" from our "children are persons too" perspective.
I don't dispute at all that different environments, circumstances, and cultures will cause vastly different perspectives; and although this seemed rather strange/shocking to me at first, I also see benefits from it. As I explained earlier, the Mosuo tended to have high infant mortality rates in the past, and this could serve as a valuable coping tool to deal with that. In addition, Mosuo families will sometimes "trade" children if one family has too many males, and another too many females. Again, this idea that the child is not a full "human" makes such exchanges easier, and helps maintain a relatively equal gender balance within a family. Keep in mind, with the Mosuo system, if a particular generation of children were all male, there would be no further offspring within that family.
Do you have any additional information on initiation in the Mosuo culture?
This is not an area I have a great deal of expertise in, and am hesitant to say much because I know it may be wrong; I try to only cover those topics I've discussed with the Mosuo in detail, and where I feel I'm representing them accurately. However, it is certainly an area that I plan to explore more in future; at that time, will provide more information here.
Second comment. You wrote about the traditional priest:

"Thus, his actual understanding of "medicine" is rather comical (from our perspective)...his view on it is that medicine is basically just another religious means of doing what he does: that is, defeat evil spirits with the judicious application of the appropriate ceremonies."

Actually, at the scale of global human history, his view is correct. The separation of the roles of priest and healer of the body started in recent times and in relatively small geocultural areas. To be specific, it is largely an effect of the roman catholic church's ruthless effort to wipe out traditional healing in Europe and concentrate the authority over all things spiritual in its own hands. The scientifically trained doctor may have become the standard of the healing profession, but he is still a descendant of the priests and shamans of our animist ancestors.
While I see your point, I would tend to disagree with you somewhat. It is arguable, certainly, that our 'modern' practice of medicine grew out of older religious roots; but equally arguable that much of the modern medical development came about in an entirely secular environment, with "medicine" growing as an offshoot of "science" rather than as an offshoot of any religious roles.

But this is a debate that would have reasonable points on either side, and is rather peripheral to the central issue; that is, how to get people to seek meaningful medical care, instead of relying on getting rid of evil spirits or appeasing angry ancestors. For example, there was a non-profit organization who came through the area performing free eyes surgeries for those who had reversible blindness. A number of people, particularly children, did not take advantage of this because their local Daba told them that it was not an auspicious time for doing this. As a result, quite a few children who could have had their blindness cured will instead go through life without sight. While I try to remain sensitive to local culture, religion, etc., this is a problem that I personally have big issues with.
Hi wolfman,
very cool thread, and best of luck with the complexities you face. Some of the cultural questions and issues seem very similar to those faced by some of the tribes in the US Southwest. The Arizona village of Supai is only accessible by a 10 mile trail of foot/horse/mule -- and helicopter. The impact on business, culture and the people is fascinating to observe.
I'd agree completely -- except that the Mosuo have not yet had their culture decimated in the way that Native Americans have. A large part of my hope in this regard is to help them avoid that particular fate.
One of my favorite books is a book of poetry from Chinese women ('The Orchid boat')- who were mostly concubines or otherwise matriarchal society. I am curious if the Mosuo have a similar tradition of stories or poetry that has been documented?
First, I should clarify that "The Orchid Boat" is not written by women from a matriarchal culture (and the concubine system is completely patriarchal); it is, rather, a collection of poetry written by Chinese women from different times in China's history.

In regards to the Mosuo, as noted earlier, they have no written language, so everything is passed on orally. Certainly, they have stories and legends; and they love to sing, and have many beautiful songs. But documentation, without a written language, is extremely difficult. In the long term, I'd certainly like to do something like this, though.
 
...I'd agree completely -- except that the Mosuo have not yet had their culture decimated in the way that Native Americans have. A large part of my hope in this regard is to help them avoid that particular fate.
Humm, maybe. I see some parallels though. The Hulapai are very proud of some of their accomplishments, much pride is found in other tribes too. No, they don't wear war bonnets and stuff but their culture is definitely reflected in their business values and decisions. There are pockets of the old traditions, but also the new.

'Tradition' seems very fragile when the scope is widened to look at three generations. If the children do not remain or find value in the community, there will be change.
...First, I should clarify that "The Orchid Boat" is not written by women from a matriarchal culture (and the concubine system is completely patriarchal); it is, rather, a collection of poetry written by Chinese women from different times in China's history.
Yeah thanks, I know. That was probably too abstract an example. The concubines were well educated women and had a relatively high status - a unique creative island in a big sea.
In regards to the Mosuo, as noted earlier, they have no written language, so everything is passed on orally. Certainly, they have stories and legends; and they love to sing, and have many beautiful songs. But documentation, without a written language, is extremely difficult. In the long term, I'd certainly like to do something like this, though.
The Navajo (Dine') clans are matriarchal, they have a rich verbal tradition in song which is sadly vanishing. The local university (NAU) has a program where they go out and record the songs and what they mean, but the old singers are dying.

Enjoyed the thread. I thought the Alpaca idea was a good one. There are Alpaca and Llama farms in our area, but I don't personally know of any Native American owners.

The obvious problem with too much reliance on tourism is that it is very susceptible to downturns in the economy. So diversification = good. Tourism is also a bit insidious in that it takes as well as gives. You probably know far more than I.
 
The obvious problem with too much reliance on tourism is that it is very susceptible to downturns in the economy. So diversification = good. Tourism is also a bit insidious in that it takes as well as gives. You probably know far more than I.
I agree completely. Tourism is seen primarily as a short-term means of injecting cash into the community, which can then be used to develop other industries (such as the alpaca idea). In addition, tourism is much, much more harmful when it is in the control of 'outsiders' (who don't have any real investment in or concern about the local culture) than when it is under control of the actual people involved. Tourism is seen as a 'necessary evil', but one that can be reasonably controlled if the Mosuo themselves are able to be in charge of it.
 
I have just discovered this thread and have pretty much read all of it at one sitting, I found it so fascinating. So I wanted to add my voice to the chorus thanking you for sharing this with us.

You mentioned the Mosuo like singing and dancing, and I wondered if you could share what you know about their musical traditions? What instruments (if any) do they play? Are they the same instruments that are used in neighbouring cultures/completely different/related. What about the style of music itself? Anything you want to share really!
 
I have just discovered this thread and have pretty much read all of it at one sitting, I found it so fascinating. So I wanted to add my voice to the chorus thanking you for sharing this with us.

You mentioned the Mosuo like singing and dancing, and I wondered if you could share what you know about their musical traditions? What instruments (if any) do they play? Are they the same instruments that are used in neighbouring cultures/completely different/related. What about the style of music itself? Anything you want to share really!
A great question, and one that led me to do something I should have done a long, long time ago in this thread...check YouTube for Mosuo-related videos! Turns out there's a bunch of them, I've kinda' weeded out the best of them for you, and will post them here, with some commentary. You can find more videos by searching YouTube for "Mosuo" and "Lugu Lake", but I think the ones I've put here are pretty much the best ones. If you do find others you find interesting, or have questions about, feel free to post them here, and I'll add what commentary I can :-)

So, first, in regards to music, here are a few videos of Mosuo singing and dancing. There are really two different kinds of singing: one is done when walking/working, and mostly consists of men and women singing back and forth to each other (mostly flirtatious/courtship songs); the other is done when dancing around a fire, and tends to involve relatively little singing. There are also singing "contests" (sorry, no video of this that I can find) where men and women line up on opposite sides of the fire, and chant back and forth. The tune is always they same, but they must improvise the lines, basically making jokes about the other side; the "loser" is the side that cannot come up with something new in time, or that repeats something previously said.

The dancing is quite interesting; they will form a single-file line, holding hands, and walk in circles around a central fire. At first, the dance seems incredibly simplistic; but as they continue, the steps get more and more intricate, changed at the whim of whoever is leading the line. By the end of it, they'll be kicking feet in the air, doing intricate jigs, etc....all while standing so close together than one misstep could mess up the whole line.

So...the videos!

These first two videos are of dances done at the Mosuo Cultural Museum (which I've mentioned in several of my posts). It is a show put on for the tourists, but it still a fairly accurate representation of the typical dancing:

 
The next two videos are of women singing while rowing boats on Lugu Lake. This gives an idea not only of their music, but also some nice shots of the beauty of the lake. If you'll listen, you'll hear the expression "ma da mi" repeated quite often; this is Mosuo for "I love you", and is one of the most common refrains in all their songs.


And here, for your enjoyment, is a nice short video giving a 360 degree panoramic view of Luoshui, the main tourist area, and of Lugu Lake and surrounding mountains.
 
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Next, I was really pleased to find these two videos of the village of "Wenquan" (which means "hot springs" in Chinese, and has that name because of natural hot springs that exist in the area. The Mosuo name for the village, which I usually use, is Walabi). Walabi is the village I lived in the first time I went to visit the Mosuo, and is where my "adopted" Mosuo family lives; it is pretty much my "home" among the Mosuo. I know pretty well everyone that you see in the videos.

The first one shows the village itself, and people in the village. You will notice a few people have motorcycles or other vehicles; these are generally families who have established some sort of business in the tourist area, and have more money, but Walabi itself is not a tourist area, and is still a very 'typical' Mosuo village.

You will also notice people driving through rather deep water. This is actually quite common. Rains almost always produce new streams, and roads are washed out regularly. I've spent many a harrowing journey sitting astride a motorcycle as we barrel up and down twisting mountain paths, forcing our way across streams, etc.

This second video, a continuation of the first one, shows more of the typical daily scenes you'll see in and around Walabi, or any other 'typical' Mosuo village.
 
And finally, here's a fairly decent and informative video about the Mosuo. I'd consider most of the information here to be correct, with the proviso that it is really discussing only the tourist area of the Mosuo region. The comments are fairly relevant in regards to those working in the tourist area, but not so much so when discussing the majority of Mosuo who live in other areas.

One clarification, the video features a Mosuo woman stating that she rejects the traditional "walking marriage" because it ties the woman to the home, and only the men have the freedom to go outside, get education, get jobs, etc. Actually, this is something of a misrepresentation.

The oldest female child -- who will some day be expected to take over leadership of the family -- is generally expected to stay at home, and learn all about handling the family responsibilities. That aspect is true.

However, younger girls, as well as the boys, all have more 'freedom', and can pursue education, work, etc. However, when it comes to getting jobs in the 'outside' world, it is a pragmatic truth that men are more likely to get jobs (particularly labor jobs) than women are. So some families may put more money into promoting the opportunities of male children over female children. This is not an artifact of the culture, but of economic realities.

Although the commentator speaks English, all the interviews are in Mosuo or Mandarin, with no translation; my apologies for that, but you should still get a lot from it.

ETA: Ooops...this video can't be embedded here. Well, no problem...just click on the video image, and it will take you to YouTube, where you can watch the video.
 
Oh, and just to clarify -- none of these videos were made by me. I just found them on YouTube :) What did we do before YouTube?
 
Oh...keep finding more great videos! Why, oh why, did I not think of this sooner? Here's probably the best video thus far of Lugu Lake itself, showing the natural beauty of the area:
 
And another one...from the same guy who did the videos of Walabi (Wenquan) above, another video of him hiking through the mountain (non-tourist) areas, that give more shots of the scenery, and some of the local people/life.
 
Cool videos! I had one question on the second video from Walabi (the 7th one total). Towards the end, when there were about 30 seconds left, there were people walking down the street and one was carrying what looked like flags hanging from tree branches with leaves on them. What was that all about?
 
Cool videos! I had one question on the second video from Walabi (the 7th one total). Towards the end, when there were about 30 seconds left, there were people walking down the street and one was carrying what looked like flags hanging from tree branches with leaves on them. What was that all about?
That's the great thing about videos...they bring up so many other things that I would not have thought to cover, and new topics for discussion :-)

Yes, that is a tree branch; the 'flags' are Tibetan prayer flags (which are common throughout all Mosuo communities). A prayer is printed on each flag, with the idea that each time the flag flutters in the breeze, the prayer is sent to heaven. Beside Walabi, there is a small mountain with an altar on top; it is common for people to take offerings up to the altar, and to place new prayer flags there. So this video shows a family who are on their way to make prayers/offerings at that altar.

Prayer wheels are also quite common; this is a wheel that has a prayer printed around the circumference, and every time you spin the wheel, it is the same as saying a prayer (Tibetan Buddhism makes prayer very, very easy). Here's a picture of a woman with her prayer wheel; many of the older women habitually walk around spinning these all day.
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