On the second, though, I would have said that if you accept some sort of god, whether or not it meets someone else's criteria, you're not really an atheist, even if your theist friends call you one.
I disagree. As I said--albeit perhaps not clearly enough--the (extremely provisional) acceptance of the existence of an
entity does not equate to the acceptance of the notion that this entity is a god. It's not just a matter of whether or not I, personally, consider the entity worthy of worship, but whether there is any evidence to support the notion that the entity in question can
and will punish me if I transgress its dictates.
By way of illustration:
I mean, if you were to decide that Jehovah actually exists as the bible says, but then say you can't worship such a botched-up half-assed excuse for a god, you have to reckon with the possibility that, God or not, he's going to treat you badly.
Let me state for the record that it is not my intention to make light of the Holocaust. But if Yahweh actually existed as described in the Old Testament, one might reasonably have expected Him to have mounted some kind of intervention when the Nazis sought to wipe out--not merely enslave, but eradicate--His chosen people, right? But famously "the skies did not darken over Auschwitz." Look, if the guy can't smite a few thousand assorted krauts and collaborators when His chosen people need him most, what's he going to do to
me? Besides, I'm 35, I've been an atheist since I first became aware of religion (at age 3, when the kid from the heavily Calvinist family next door told me about going to church, and after hearing her out I responded "So you go to this place and talk to some guy who isn't there? That's just
stupid!"), and somehow I haven't incurred the wrath of Yahweh yet. Or if I have, nobody's noticed.
Sure, "but what about the afterlife?" I hear you cry. Problem is, if the Bible is anything to go by, Yahweh isn't content to wait until you die of natural causes to exact retribution. He sends some plague, or a brute squad of Jews with swords, or you get stoned with stones, or you just burst open or get turned into a pillar of salt or *****. So, evidently, if the entity referred to as Yahweh did exist, He obviously falls well short of the descriptions given in the Bible. And having established that
some of those descriptions are bogus, why shouldn't we assume, absent evidence to the contrary, that
all of them are, up to and including the very existence of the deity itself? What, Yahweh will smite us for suggesting it? He should, but somehow I predict this will not be my last post.
The same applies to every theistic concept of god ever created: when it comes to the crunch, they don't perform as advertised.
At a minimum, this means they're not worth worshipping, but applying Occam's Razor, the simpler explanation for their failure to intervene on their followers' behalf is, very simply,
that they don't exist.
All too often, I've seen a theist challenge an atheist to prove the non-existence of
any kind of god, and when the atheist points out he can't prove a negative, the theist crows victory and claims his viewpoint is no less rational than the atheists's. Thing is, the theist tends to field a highly wishy-washy concept of god in the debate, which bears zero relation to the far more specific concept of god the theist actually believes (or professes to believe) in, said concept being demonstrably incompatible with reality. This is the sort of thing that gives rise to the formulation of the atheist position that "I may or may not disbelieve
every concept of god, but I sure as hell don't believe in
yours, all right?"