Okay I've been thinking about this some more, and I think I have worked out what was bothering me about it. Apparently the original question involved sons and daughters, so here is my own example:
You have gone to see your daughter graduate from an all girls college. While at the graduation you start chatting to one of the other parents. She mentions that she has two children. Given that one is obviously a girl, what is the chance that the other is also a girl?
Then you ask if she has been to a graduation before. "No", she tells you, "it's my eldest who is graduating today." Now that you know her eldest child is a girl, what is the chance the other child is also a girl?
And finally, is this the same problem as the coins and as the original question?
You have gone to see your daughter graduate from an all girls college. While at the graduation you start chatting to one of the other parents. She mentions that she has two children. Given that one is obviously a girl, what is the chance that the other is also a girl?
Then you ask if she has been to a graduation before. "No", she tells you, "it's my eldest who is graduating today." Now that you know her eldest child is a girl, what is the chance the other child is also a girl?
And finally, is this the same problem as the coins and as the original question?