Transwomen are not Women - Part 15

This contradicts your previous answer.
It doesn't.

Then that's how a person could figure out that she is not in fact a man.
Which, if she hasn't said anything, would require challenging her in some way.

So you're arguing for women, female women, to be challenged for going into the women's room.

I don't support that policy.
 
It doesn't.
Yes, it does. Either he should do what he wants, or he should do what "will cause less disruption and make [him] and everyone else safest." These are not at all the same.
Which, if she hasn't said anything, would require challenging her in some way.
It would require talking to her. That doesn't require challenging her.

It has been my experience that women don't generally object to talking to other women.
So you're arguing for women, female women, to be challenged for going into the women's room.
No. I'm saying that a woman who is wondering about this manish woman could simply talk to her, and thereby discover that she is not in fact a man.
I don't support that policy.
I don't support your straw man either.
 
Yes, it does. Either he should do what he wants, or he should do what "will cause less disruption and make [him] and everyone else safest." These are not at all the same.
You're ignoring the difference in agency. One is what I think she should do. But I have no authority over the question, so that's just advice. She's the one who has to actually make the decision.

It would require talking to her. That doesn't require challenging her.
If you're talking to her because you think she looks like a man and might not belong, you're challenging her. Maybe you'd think you're being subtle about it, but she will probably see through it.

No. I'm saying that a woman who is wondering about this manish woman could simply talk to her, and thereby discover that she is not in fact a man.
Yes. That's called "challenging her."

I don't support your straw man either.
It's not a straw man. It's what you're saying should happen.
 
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Apparently the new rule is that you can't tell what sex someone is just by looking at them, but you're supposed to immediately tell what sex they identify as just by looking at them so you can avoid mis-gendering them.
Nobody's making the latter demand.

And "you can't [always] tell what sex someone is just by looking at them" isn't a rule. It's just a fact about the world.
 
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You're ignoring the difference in agency. One is what I think she should do. But I have no authority over the question, so that's just advice. She's the one who has to actually make the decision.
I gave you that out already when I made the distinction between what he should do and what he will do. You doubled down on should being whatever he wants.
If you're talking to her because you think she looks like a man and might not belong, you're challenging her.
Then so the ◊◊◊◊ what? Do you think she's going to be upset if some woman says, "Nice weather we're having"? If you want to call that challenging her, then why is that a problem? It isn't.
Maybe you'd think you're being subtle about it, but she will probably see through it.
Maybe. And maybe she's mature enough to take it in stride and not get her panties in a twist like you apparently are on her behalf.
 
I gave you that out already when I made the distinction between what he should do and what he will do. You doubled down on should being whatever he wants.
That's not the correct distinction.

Since the decision is devolved to her as a matter of law, there's no other possible answer than "She should do whatever she feels is best."

Then so the ◊◊◊◊ what? Do you think she's going to be upset if some woman says, "Nice weather we're having"? If you want to call that challenging her, then why is that a problem? It isn't.
Because she will know what you're doing, and like I said, it bothers her.

Maybe. And maybe she's mature enough to take it in stride and not get her panties in a twist like you apparently are on her behalf.
Yeah. And maybe she just smiles and nods, because she knows what you're doing and she wants no part of it.
 
That's not the correct distinction.

Since the decision is devolved to her as a matter of law, there's no other possible answer than "She should do whatever she feels is best."
You have contradicted yourself again, since you clearly DID give a different possible answer as your first answer. And your latest answer is clearly wrong anyways. Your latest answer is only the correct answer to what Hill MAY do. It is not and never was a sensible answer to what Hill SHOULD do. It's a peculiar sort of immaturity to not understand the distinction between may and should.
Because she will know what you're doing, and like I said, it bothers her.
And the presence of Hill in the women's bathroom bothers other people.

But you don't care about that.
 
You have contradicted yourself again, since you clearly DID give a different possible answer as your first answer.
I'll say it again: what I think she should do, and what she thinks she should do, are two different things. And those are both "shoulds", not a should and a may.

It's a peculiar sort of immaturity to not understand the distinction between may and should.
I'm not the one having trouble with basic normative language, here.

And the presence of Hill in the women's bathroom bothers other people.
Then the presence of my acquaintance would also bother other people.

Do I care about that? No. Which is why this framing is off. This controversy cannot be reduced to a pseudo-utilitarian calculation that seeks to minimize bother.
 
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I'll say it again: what I think she should do, and what she thinks she should do, are two different things.
No ◊◊◊◊, Sherlock. But I asked you, not him. Which means the correct answer to my question is what you think he should do, not what he thinks he should do.
I'm not the one having trouble with basic normative language, here.
You absolutely are. At every single step.
Then the presence of my acquaintance would also bother other people.

Do I care about that? No. Which is why this framing is off.
Then why do you care about your acquaintance being bothered? Is it just because they are your acquaintance?
 
No ◊◊◊◊, Sherlock. But I asked you, not him. Which means the correct answer to my question is what you think he should do, not what he thinks he should do.
Then I already answered your question, and you're just raging about the fact that I gave you an additional pertinent observation. This is in no sense a "contradiction."

But let me put it to you this way: in addition to my opinion that she should do whatever is least disruptive, because that's probably what will make her safest, I also think people should generally obey the law. Which makes the content of the law immediately relevant to my answer. Ought implies can, as the man says. The law here in NYC is permissive with respect to her circumstances, so it's part of my answer as to what she should do--whatever she feels is best, because there are no restrictions in law (apart from behavior that would be illegal for either sex). Elsewhere, my answer might be different.

You absolutely are. At every single step.
I'm not. You just aren't being reasonable enough to understand.

Then why do you care about your acquaintance being bothered? Is it just because they are your acquaintance?
I don't, at least not from a perspective of policy. I'd be more worried about people being more than bothered.
 
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Then I already answered your question, and you're just raging about the fact that I gave you an additional pertinent observation.
You didn't give me additional pertinent observation, you contradicted yourself. And you're doing it again here:
But let me put it to you this way: in addition to my opinion that she should do whatever is least disruptive, because that's probably what will make her safest, I also think people should generally obey the law. Which makes the content of the law immediately relevant to my answer. The law here in NYC is permissive with respect to her circumstances, so it's part of my answer as to what she should do--whatever she feels is best, because there are no restrictions in law (apart from behavior that would be illegal for either sex). Elsewhere, my answer might be different.
What is least disruptive is not the same answer as whatever he feels is best. This isn't additional information, it's a contradiction. And it is precisely because the law allows either answer that the law is irrelevant to my question. The law is only relevant to the question of what he may do.
I'm not. You just aren't being reasonable enough to understand.
I'm not the one contradicting myself.
 
You didn't give me additional pertinent observation, you contradicted yourself. And you're doing it again here:
"I know you don't like doctors, but I think you should see a doctor. Ultimately, it's up to you" as a response to "What do you think I should I do about this back pain?" is not a contradiction, except to an idiot.

What is least disruptive is not the same answer as whatever he feels is best. This isn't additional information, it's a contradiction. And it is precisely because the law allows either answer that the law is irrelevant to my question. The law is only relevant to the question of what he may do.
Of course it's not the same answer. It's an answer to two different sets of obligations--those we have to each other, and those we have to the law.

If you don't think the law is relevant to this question, then I can only assume that you have paid no attention to this controversy. It matters that the law is permissive here, but not elsewhere.

I'm not the one contradicting myself.
But you are the one who thinks this is a contradiction, which is idiotic.
 
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"I know you don't like doctors, but I think you should see a doctor. Ultimately, it's up to you" as a response to "What do you think I should I do about this back pain?" is not a contradiction, except to an idiot.
But that's not what you actually said. What you said is more equivalent to, "You should see a doctor. Also, you should do whatever you feel like doing." And that is a contradiction. Only an idiot would recognize that "ultimately it's up to you" ISN'T an answer to the question of what you should do. It's part of a response, a way to disavow responsibility for the decision, and that's relevant to the interaction between you and someone you know. But Hill isn't part of this conversation, neither of us have any relationship with him, and there is no purpose in disavowing responsibility because no responsibility is assumed or implied. So the purpose that such a response (not answer) has in social situations does not exist here.
Of course it's not the same answer. It's an answer to two different sets of obligations--those we have to each other, and those we have to the law.
Again, I did not ask what Hill may do.
 
But that's not what you actually said.
It is what I actually said.

Again, I did not ask what Hill may do.
And this is why it's obvious that you don't know how to deal with normative language. Ought implies can--what you may do is directly relevant to what you should to do.
 
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