Rolfe
Adult human female
Eta: oh, and the nice guy thing you're mocking? You're letting the mask slip again. Most guys are pretty chill, especially in the crisis departments, where they vett out the creeps really fast. Your general dislike and distaste for men keeps shining through, assuming a priori that they should be taken as monsters as a given.
I just noticed this ETA, and this is really perverse. I'm not mocking nice guys at all. I'm very appreciative of nice guys, and most guys are nice. I was observing that it seems very difficult to get some genuinely nice guys to realise the depths of perversion and depravity that are within some other men. Some do get it, but others, I think because they simply can't imagine feeling or behaving like that themselves, can't believe that any man can be so depraved. Women, for some reason, seem to understand it more easily.
This was in the context of some men having a rape fetish and getting off on listening to (or indeed reading) accounts of real-life rapes by the victims. This is a real thing. These men will try anything to get into the company of raped women who are opening up to group therapy and the like. It's particularly prevalent online, where it's easier to create a false persona, but men have been trying to get inside real-life rape support groups too. The only way to avoid that is to ensure that the entire operation is female-only.
Any man at all who approaches a rape crisis centre trying to get into the company of raped women is a huge red flag, whether or not he asserts trans status. Of course, asserting trans status makes it a hell of a lot easier to do. He can even take the organisation to court to have them forced to take him on.
There really are men like that. Whether there really is, somewhere, a trans-identifying man who doesn't have a sexual fetish for rape victims, but nevertheless has a burning ambition to work as a counsellor to help them, I don't know. But if there is such a man he needs to have it explained to him that this ambition is grossly inappropriate, and he should take his charitable instincts elsewhere. The women don't want him counselling them anyway. If he isn't a predator, he will understand this and back off.
Caveat. Of course men are sometimes raped too. There is also a need for support centres and crisis centres for them. But women should be permitted a male-free environment when they need it, not subjected to any man's self-important insistence on "helping" them.
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