Ensuring children don't stumble on this stuff isn't happening.
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Sure we should be proscribing porn.
Well, proscribing porn isn't happening either, is it?
There's two things not happening, and we might try to make either happen --- or neither, or both --- in order to counteract the ill effects of porn as we see it.
I say we focus on the first thing, which in fact is, like I'd spelled out, three measures, in no particular order: one, focus on the safety of the actors; two, educate people in general, and children in particular, that porn is fiction, the same as movie stars fighting five men and coming out unscathed, or jumping from buildings and standing up unhurt, and that fiction is different than reality; and three, take steps to ensure, as best we can, that porn stays out of the reach of children.
You don't seem to agree. Instead, you insist on wanting to proscribe porn. Which I disagree with, as a matter of principle. It is draconian. It is puritanical nonsense. It is imposing one man's tastes, one man's prudery, on the rest of society. It is insupportable. I don't support your cause.
And, like I said, your objection that keeping porn away from children "isn't happening", applies just as much to proscribing porn as well. Banning porn "isn't happening" either.
The idea is to suggest, and if one cares enough then to advocate for, trying to make something happen that isn't at present happening. As best we can, even if not perfectly. I say we do that for the three measures I suggested above. And not to your idea, that we proscribe porn.
... It's fiction? Comparing it with stars jumping out of buildings isn't like for like. Porn actors are having real sex...
Haha, no, it is fiction.
It is fiction if you read about someone fighting five men and beating them, unarmed. It is fiction if you see an actor do that on screen, an actor who doesn't know the first thing about fighting. And it is fiction if you see a martial artist who might actually be able to pull off fighting five men single-handed, perform that role on screen --- and it's fiction even if they enacted it like the early Hong Kong movies, with a tad more realism in the performance of it than strictly necessary.
Likewise, it is fiction if there's ...physical intimacy, described in a book; and it is fiction if such is shown on screen by actors through symbolism; and it is fiction if it is shown by actors simulating the act; and it is fiction if it is done by actors actually going at it in graphical detail. It's all fiction. It's a performance, not reality.
Maybe that's what's so offputting to you about porn. That you seem to view it as reality --- as opposed to fiction, and to be enjoyed as fiction (or not, depending on one's tastes).
