Rape Victims Don't Know They Were Raped

I suppose that you and I have encountered different people, my work brings me into contact with the more unfortunate of society, I have interviewed twenty women who reported that the local police refused to take thier report of rape. I can only guess at the level of validity of these reports.
Do not be so certain that you and I encounter people who are so very different from one another. In any event, I will not argue with your experience - it is what it is.

I agree that marital rape is a crime now, but if you speak with community educators about sexual assault, they may still report the same responses that they recieved in the seventies. I don't know, I had a very good friend who frequently spoke to high schools on the subject of rape from 1978 to 1983, in small twons she ofetn encountered very strong resistance to the idea of marital rape.
I may be very outdated, and would be thrilled to think that was the case.
My point is that our society has decided that marital rape is wrong, and we have laws in place that reflect that. Does everyone in our society share this perspective? No. But that does not mean that our society condones marital rape.

Yes I agree, but I still have heard people blame victims for exactly those things.

As have I, but these people are in my estimation very much in the minority.

And the rides I was discussing were not from strangers but aquantences in high schools.

I understand. For this reason my daughter will be thoroughly trained in self-defense before she goes to Junior High School.

I believe that there were a twenty reported case of drunk rape in the town where I live, I will have to get back to you on that.

What is the population of your town?

I am more concerned about thier roomates and friends not telling them to stop.

My "idiots and creeps" comment applies to them as well.


No I shant repudiate myself, but date rape is very common, and it is not sanctioned. The marital rape issue is open to debate,it is an unsubstantiated claim.

I am guilty of hyperbole no doubt. I still feel that my statements contain truth. Maybe I should increase my medication, and get more sleep. I may have assumed I was posting with Jedi Knight and got out of control.
Okay, date-rape is not sanctioned by society, although it may be fairly widespread. I submit that neither is marital rape sanctioned by society. And you have not provided any justification for your assertion that child rape is considered "good parenting" by our society.

Hyberbole indeed. But what part of what you said constitutes "truth"? No one denies that rape occurs. And I have not seen anyone here suggest that rape is not evil.
 
Originally posted by CJ
But tell me, what is real rape? You use the term above, so you obviously have some conception of what constitutes a "real" rape. I'd like to know what definition you are using, but if you'd rather not share it or only have a vaguely defined concept, that's okay.
I have only a vague definition. Off the top of my head, it would be something like "clearly, unwanted sex obtained by force or some serious threat." This would include all kinds of sex but not verbal or emotional coercion. There are lots of gray areas here but all definition will have them.

Note that the Brigham study, if it's typical of the area, has a very limited and specific definition of rape that is predicated around unwanted penetration by force or threat of force. It seems from your post you are concerned with definitions of rape that are overbroad, but the use of legal or legally-derived definitions in psychological research is designed to avoid just this pitfall.
We are speculating here without many facts. Perhaps it is a definition such as this which is similar to mine. You base your supposition that it is on your knowledge of psychological research. I doubt that a definition such as this would provide such a vast difference between the victim and researchers.

True. It would be nice to have more info; in the study itself they are certain to be clear about their definitions.
You give the benefit of the doubt to the researchers. I do not. Without more information, it is impossible to know who is correct. I respect but disagree with you. But we have no way to determine who is correct until we get access to the study.

BTW, if you have know of other studies with reasonable, specific definition of rape where the victims and the researcher have very rates of rape, I would be very interested. It would certainly support your view point.

CBL
 
I have only a vague definition. Off the top of my head, it would be something like "clearly, unwanted sex obtained by force or some serious threat." This would include all kinds of sex but not verbal or emotional coercion. There are lots of gray areas here but all definition will have them.
While verbal or emotional coercion is a pretty lame way to get someone to have sex with you, I agree that these things do not constitute rape. Some research would include it under a blanket term "sexual aggression," but when it does so the distinction between these acts and rape is made very clear. Like your definition, force or threat of force is typically the deciding factor.

We are speculating here without many facts. Perhaps it is a definition such as this which is similar to mine.
It's unfortunately true that newspapers don't provide for us the data we need to make good assessments of research, though I suppose it's not too reasonable of me to criticize a newspaper for not being an academic journal. As I mention above, I would suspect that Brigham et al. and you have very similar definitions for rape.

I doubt that a definition such as this would provide such a vast difference between the victim and researchers.
I know I'm making some assumptions here, but let's assume Brigham et al. are using a measure like the Sexual Experiences Survey, a very popular scal;e given to people to assess the consensual or nonconsensual nature of their sexual encounters. Participants filling out the SES are asked to note whether they had experienced specific behaviors; the word "rape" does not appear at all in the main part of the questionnaire.

The part that seems perplexing is that a woman is faced with a question very much like this: "How often has a man used physical force (such as cornering you, pinning you against a wall, grabbing you, holding you down, hitting you, or otherwise restraining your movement or physically hurting you) to make you have sexual intercourse when you did not want to?" I'd gather given your response above that any situation that meets this criteria qualifies as rape according to your definition. Let's say the participant indicates that this has happened once. At the end of the questionnaire, the participant sees a different question:" Have you ever been raped? If so, how many times?" What Brigham et al. (and others) have found is that a significant number of women will answer "no" to this question even though they have indicated that they had an experience which meets a pretty clear definition of rape. It's a puzzler; what are we to make of this situation where a woman has experienced something that meets legal definitions (or at the very least, reasonable and stringent definitions) of rape, but does not say she's been raped? Should one response be taken more seriously? Some researchers would say that yes, the behavioral response should be given more weight because in that case, the participant is simply matching an experience to a definition, which is arguably less problematic more than the "Have you ever been raped" question because rape is a word loaded with connotations and sub-text. First, though rape victims are by and large treated infinitely better in the America of 2006 than they were, say, 30 years ago, there is still a stigma to being a rape victim. The participant may fear to self-identify as a victim and have to accept that mantle. Second, there are still some people who believe a "real" rape is perpetrated by a stranger using a weapon as part of a surprise attack. While this has no statutory (or indeed, logical) basis, someone may not identify their bona fide rape experience as such because they knew the perpetrator. In brief, there's much less room for bias in answering the behavioral question.

What we see is that the rape victim is being totally honest in their filling out the questionnaire; they really had an experience that meets definitions of rape and they really don't label it as such. We also see that the authors of the study are being accurate in listing the rate for rape how they do (based on the behavioral questions), and they have also been so fortunate as to find another interesting question to address: why do some portion of women who have by definition been raped deny that this is so? Is their definition different? How is it different? Where did they learn it? Do they think only women who somehow deserve it get raped?

The discrepancy you see as some kind of ideological slight-of-hand to increase rape statistics is anything but. Rather, it's an observation that forms the basis of a fascinating and important research question: how do rape victims perceive their assault? Are they motivated to label it differently? Why? What purpose does it serve?

You give the benefit of the doubt to the researchers. I do not. Without more information, it is impossible to know who is correct. I respect but disagree with you. But we have no way to determine who is correct until we get access to the study.
Fair enough.

BTW, if you have know of other studies with reasonable, specific definition of rape where the victims and the researcher have very rates of rape, I would be very interested. It would certainly support your view point.
Hmm. All my files are at work, so I have nothing handy. I think there was a 1994 study by Kahn and colleagues and a 1996 one by...Layman? Gidycz? They discuss the phenomenon of unacknowledged rape victims, and at the very least should have a good reference page and some background in the introduction.
 
Do not be so certain that you and I encounter people who are so very different from one another. In any event, I will not argue with your experience - it is what it is.
I should have used maye rather than suppose in my statement, I take it to mean a level of doubt in my assumptions, which seems to be used differently by you.
My point is that our society has decided that marital rape is wrong, and we have laws in place that reflect that. Does everyone in our society share this perspective? No. But that does not mean that our society condones marital rape.
And again I am not using a legal definition of society, I am using a more cultural aggergate definition, of the collective behavior of individuals.
As have I, but these people are in my estimation very much in the minority.
It would seem that our estimations differ
I understand. For this reason my daughter will be thoroughly trained in self-defense before she goes to Junior High School.
I just preffered to teach by daughter some of the pressure techniques and then how to slap an ear, but I wish that the informal social network did not try to cover rape.
What is the population of your town?
Two towns , one sevety thousand, another tirtyfive and a college of 44,000, so larger that Springfield, taken togther.
My "idiots and creeps" comment applies to them as well.

Idiots, creeps and slimy perps are contibutors to the collective aggregate of individuals. The social definition of society is the one I use.
Okay, date-rape is not sanctioned by society, although it may be fairly widespread. I submit that neither is marital rape sanctioned by society. And you have not provided any justification for your assertion that child rape is considered "good parenting" by our society.

Hyberbole indeed. But what part of what you said constitutes "truth"? No one denies that rape occurs. And I have not seen anyone here suggest that rape is not evil.

I am condemned by my own hoist or petard.
 
We are speculating here without many facts. Perhaps it is a definition such as this which is similar to mine. You base your supposition that it is on your knowledge of psychological research. I doubt that a definition such as this would provide such a vast difference between the victim and researchers.



CBL

You should read what Mercutio wrote more carefully, the standard for social science surveys of rape is the legal deinition of rape.

The use of an objective standard is essential in conductiong science that judges behavior. The variable defintion of behaviors as 'rape' or not rape us very susupect, which is why the subjective definition that you propose, would be considered a very poor protocol for most rape surveys. Social science is already aware of the variability of word definitions.

And your assumption is incorrect, it is well established in very good research upon the reporting of rape that victims will not use the objective defintion, you can ask them if they were raped and they will say no. Then you ask them a number of very specific ojective defintions:

Was force used?
-Were there verbal threats?
-Were you restrained?
-Was access to the door or phone blocked?
Did you feel coerced?
Did you say no and the act continueed?
(These are short hand questions, survey questions are more carefully crafted to avoid the definition ambiguity.)

And then frequently the victim will state yes to a question which would indicate that the acts rose to the level of legal rape.
 
While verbal or emotional coercion is a pretty lame way to get someone to have sex with you, I agree that these things do not constitute rape. Some research would include it under a blanket term "sexual aggression," but when it does so the distinction between these acts and rape is made very clear. Like your definition, force or threat of force is typically the deciding factor.

This would seem to beg the queston:

What level of emotional or verbal coersions rises to the level of a threat?
 
I should have used maye rather than suppose in my statement, I take it to mean a level of doubt in my assumptions, which seems to be used differently by you.
What I meant to convey was that experience is what it is and that I do not doubt that your experience is what you have claimed. Just as my experience says that purchasing a lottery ticket is futile; others, who were fortunate enough to have won the lottery, would disagree. I hope that you did not interpret my comment as doubting your veracity - I did not and do not.

And again I am not using a legal definition of society, I am using a more cultural aggergate definition, of the collective behavior of individuals.
I am not certain what you mean by "legal definition of society". What I mean is that the laws enforced in a democracy are largely a reflection of the values and mores of the people that make up that democracy; they are a reflection of the society underlying that democracy. These laws come into existance as a result of the collective action of the individuals that make up our society.

The behavior of a minority subset of a society is not necessarily representative of the majority. To judge the majority by the actions of the minority cannot be counted upon to to provide a reasonable understanding of the majority. It seems from your comments that you equate the behaviors of the subset with the values of our society overall - this is not, I suggest, a reasonable tack to take.

It would seem that our estimations differ
Yes it would.

I just preffered to teach by daughter some of the pressure techniques and then how to slap an ear, but I wish that the informal social network did not try to cover rape.
There may well be "informal social network" that try to cover up rapes, but there is no evidence that I am aware of that such behavior is the norm in our society. There are "informal social networks" that cover up all sorts of crimes - these are called family and friends.

Two towns , one sevety thousand, another tirtyfive and a college of 44,000, so larger that Springfield, taken togther.
I have a problem with the police arefusing to take reports from women alleging rape. In the twenty or so cases of which you are aware is there any common thread that would indicate why it is that the police did not investigate?


Idiots, creeps and slimy perps are contibutors to the collective aggregate of individuals. The social definition of society is the one I use.
I agree that idiots, creeps, and slimy perps form a part of the melange that is our society, but I do not think that they define us. I gather that we do not agree on this.
 
What I meant to convey was that experience is what it is and that I do not doubt that your experience is what you have claimed. Just as my experience says that purchasing a lottery ticket is futile; others, who were fortunate enough to have won the lottery, would disagree. I hope that you did not interpret my comment as doubting your veracity - I did not and do not.
Not my impression at all, I meant that when I said that I suppose we are different people I had a level of doubt as to my statement.
I am not certain what you mean by "legal definition of society". What I mean is that the laws enforced in a democracy are largely a reflection of the values and mores of the people that make up that democracy; they are a reflection of the society underlying that democracy. These laws come into existance as a result of the collective action of the individuals that make up our society.
I mean that laws may be the formal network definition that are set by the formal structures which manifest the power and economics of a collective. Often however the behavior of individuals can have a very strong impact that is not the intenet of the law.

Take a related area of law enforcement: domestiv violence.(I will seriously try not to engage in hyperbole this time.)
There are laws in every state that are meant to protect the vidtims of domestic violence, if we start at the most extreme example of the effect of an idividual in the interaction, then let us choose the not common male who is a victim of physical domestic violence. When they tell family and friends they are likely to face ridicule, if they try to make a report the dispathcher may say that 'you don't really want me to call an officer off patrol for that do you', etc.. Then if we examine the bahavior of law enforcement in the more common situations, the scenario is writ upon a larger scale more frequently. There are rural areas and populations where the law enforcement officials are less likely to take reports of domestic violence. There are state's attorneys who are very likely to plea a domestic battery to a simple battery. In the county where I work the court, as exemplified by the state's attorney will not consider oreders of protection unless there is a police report that involves an allegation of physical violence. And this is in direct contradiction of the statute which states that the victim must simply have a reasonable fear of domestic violence and that there is evidence sufficient to issue an emergency order of protection.
These are examples of how law is affected to create a society that states on thing legaly and does another individualy.

Please do not get me wrong, I have great respect for all officers of the courts and the law. My job is needful of thier support and I feel that I could never do thier jobs. There are the majority of situations where people do behave responsibly and wisely often in the face of risk and loss of job. I am not faulting any one for thier choices in enforcing the law and I truely respect all officers of the law and courts.
The behavior of a minority subset of a society is not necessarily representative of the majority. To judge the majority by the actions of the minority cannot be counted upon to to provide a reasonable understanding of the majority. It seems from your comments that you equate the behaviors of the subset with the values of our society overall - this is not, I suggest, a reasonable tack to take.
I may be more aware of the failings of the system and the societal barriers that victims face. Or I could be exegerating the acts of the minority, if we dismiss out right turning the other way( to not see) and denial of victims as victims.
There may well be "informal social network" that try to cover up rapes, but there is no evidence that I am aware of that such behavior is the norm in our society. There are "informal social networks" that cover up all sorts of crimes - these are called family and friends.

You may be blessed to be involved solely in social networkd that don't tolerate victimization of victims. And given my past history of three years as a domestiv violence worker, I have exageratted ideas
I have a problem with the police arefusing to take reports from women alleging rape. In the twenty or so cases of which you are aware is there any common thread that would indicate why it is that the police did not investigate?
this was from a university study conducted by the office of student affairs of a small sample of the male and female students at the university, they reported that there were ten reported assaults of drunk people identified in the survey. I don't beleieve that they asked about the prevalence of a police reports.
I agree that idiots, creeps, and slimy perps form a part of the melange that is our society, but I do not think that they define us. I gather that we do not agree on this.

I don't believe that they define us, I belive that there are very subtle forces at play amongst all the members of society. I have heard people talk as though as thirteen year old girl who became involved in semi consensual sex with one of her father's friends discussed as though she was equally culable of making an informed choice. That kind of behavior is not limited to slime balls and thier friends.
 
Not my impression at all, I meant that when I said that I suppose we are different people I had a level of doubt as to my statement.
I am glad that I was misreading your comment. Common ground is firm ground, as my father was wont to say, and makes discussion far less difficult.

I mean that laws may be the formal network definition that are set by the formal structures which manifest the power and economics of a collective.
I understand perfectly.

Often however the behavior of individuals can have a very strong impact that is not the intenet of the law.

Take a related area of law enforcement: domestiv violence.(I will seriously try not to engage in hyperbole this time.)
There are laws in every state that are meant to protect the vidtims of domestic violence, if we start at the most extreme example of the effect of an idividual in the interaction, then let us choose the not common male who is a victim of physical domestic violence. When they tell family and friends they are likely to face ridicule, if they try to make a report the dispathcher may say that 'you don't really want me to call an officer off patrol for that do you', etc.. Then if we examine the bahavior of law enforcement in the more common situations, the scenario is writ upon a larger scale more frequently. There are rural areas and populations where the law enforcement officials are less likely to take reports of domestic violence. There are state's attorneys who are very likely to plea a domestic battery to a simple battery.
My experience has been that PAs are almost always willing to plea bargain if only to insure conviction and reduce case load. This is little different from civil cases that settle out of court - in other words, a business decision is made.

In the county where I work the court, as exemplified by the state's attorney will not consider oreders of protection unless there is a police report that involves an allegation of physical violence. And this is in direct contradiction of the statute which states that the victim must simply have a reasonable fear of domestic violence and that there is evidence sufficient to issue an emergency order of protection.
My understanding is that this occurs largely because of the difficulty in establishing whether or not there is "a reasonable fear of domestic violence". A police report at least gives something to present to the court, and provides a record of behavior. I don't see this as ignoring the problem, but as a "due process" issue. Otherwise every person involved in a child custody dispute, for example, could obtain a restraining order against his/her spouse that would effectively divorce the spouse from his/her children.

These are examples of how law is affected to create a society that states on thing legaly and does another individualy.
I don't think that laws are inacted to "create a society"; rather I think that they are inacted to codify a society's primary values.

Please do not get me wrong, I have great respect for all officers of the courts and the law. My job is needful of thier support and I feel that I could never do thier jobs. There are the majority of situations where people do behave responsibly and wisely often in the face of risk and loss of job. I am not faulting any one for thier choices in enforcing the law and I truely respect all officers of the law and courts.
I do not doubt that you have respect for the police and the courts. Nothing I have read that you have written suggests otherwise.

I may be more aware of the failings of the system and the societal barriers that victims face. Or I could be exegerating the acts of the minority, if we dismiss out right turning the other way( to not see) and denial of victims as victims.

You may be blessed to be involved solely in social networkd that don't tolerate victimization of victims. And given my past history of three years as a domestiv violence worker, I have exageratted ideas
I have recently (over the past couple of years) been involved - peripherally - in a domestic violence problem. The ex-wife, an old and dear friend, lives in constant fear of her ex-husband. Her house and car have been repeatedly vandalized, and she believes to a moral certainty that he is responsible. She also has good reason to believe that he has been in the house. When she approached the court with the request that he be restrained from coming near her the court asked her to provide evidence that she has a reasonable fear of him. She has no evidence beyond her word. The judge, while sypathetic, indicated that her word alone was no sufficient to limit the freedom of action of her ex-husband.

Lest there be any misunderstanding: I believe her to be correct. I think that her fears are reasonable. I think the man capable of causing her harm. But I also understand that he is protected by due process as am I. I don't like it, but I understand it.

this was from a university study conducted by the office of student affairs of a small sample of the male and female students at the university, they reported that there were ten reported assaults of drunk people identified in the survey. I don't beleieve that they asked about the prevalence of a police reports.
Okay.

I don't believe that they define us,
Good. We agree.

I belive that there are very subtle forces at play amongst all the members of society.
Okay. But credit the good as well as the bad.

I have heard people talk as though as thirteen year old girl who became involved in semi consensual sex with one of her father's friends discussed as though she was equally culable of making an informed choice. That kind of behavior is not limited to slime balls and thier friends.
What is "semi consensual sex"? Anyone who defends sex between a 13 year old girl and an adult qualifies in my mind as a slime ball.
 
My experience has been that PAs are almost always willing to plea bargain if only to insure conviction and reduce case load. This is little different from civil cases that settle out of court - in other words, a business decision is made.
I am in agreement, but I feel that when you have a crime that is potentialy a felony the second time it is charged, and you have repeated reductions to simple battery. There is something else at play, especialy when it is a SA who won'y accept pleas after you have pled not guilty.(True stories)
My understanding is that this occurs largely because of the difficulty in establishing whether or not there is "a reasonable fear of domestic violence". A police report at least gives something to present to the court, and provides a record of behavior. I don't see this as ignoring the problem, but as a "due process" issue. Otherwise every person involved in a child custody dispute, for example, could obtain a restraining order against his/her spouse that would effectively divorce the spouse from his/her children.
I am specificaly refering to emergency orders of protection, in Illinois the case is set for a plenary hearing and a plenary order can also be issued after the second hearing. The second hearing is solely evidentiary and the respodent has the oppotunity to tesify on thier behalf.
I believe that Illinois statute allows for verbal statements that are credible and from other witnesses to be allowed in a emergent order. There is no requirement of co-oboration by physical evidence. The law specificaly was designed to allow for the potential that verbal threats were the sole force used by the respondant and that there were no coresponding physical acts other than verbal violence.
It could be very likely that the SA is setting a higher standard, but this is also a county where victims often complain that the police will not take the report of domestic violence, sort of like the way it was a long time ago.

So while my impression is that there is such a high level of request for orders and the SA doesn't want to mess with them, it is just an impression. It is also the only county in our district where this is dome, because the law specificaly allows for allegations of verbal violence in issuing an emergency order. Judges do often deny emergent orders, and the plenary sets the usual standard of evidence.
I don't think that laws are inacted to "create a society"; rather I think that they are inacted to codify a society's primary values.
they also do regulate specific conduct that formaly defines social valus, they may or may not define the primary values as well, if we examine Roe vs. Wade, it would seem that there is some controversy between the formal code and the primary vales, al;though Brown vs. Board of Education would be a better example.
I have recently (over the past couple of years) been involved - peripherally - in a domestic violence problem. The ex-wife, an old and dear friend, lives in constant fear of her ex-husband. Her house and car have been repeatedly vandalized, and she believes to a moral certainty that he is responsible. She also has good reason to believe that he has been in the house. When she approached the court with the request that he be restrained from coming near her the court asked her to provide evidence that she has a reasonable fear of him. She has no evidence beyond her word. The judge, while sypathetic, indicated that her word alone was no sufficient to limit the freedom of action of her ex-husband.
I suggest that she set up digital cameras in the vincinity of her house and maybe hire a private detective to monitor her safety.

That is not the way the Illinois statute is written. But it is often interpreted, the assumption in the construction of the statute was that the limitations on the freedom of the respondant are minor in comparison to the potential harm that the plantiff faces.

There is a huge gap in the way that Orders are enforced as well, an order will state very clearly that at no times is the respondant to be within a certain set distance of the individual, police officers often make interesting interpretations regarding the intent of the respondant and refuse to enforce the order. This includes the property restrictions that can be in place because a judge has determined that there is a remedy of keeping the respondant from the house or place of employment.
Lest there be any misunderstanding: I believe her to be correct. I think that her fears are reasonable. I think the man capable of causing her harm. But I also understand that he is protected by due process as am I. I don't like it, but I understand it.
This seems to be a case that is more open to the evidentiary process, I am discussing cases where there is substantial evidence that the respondant has made credible threats in the precense of multiple witnesses and has a history of following through on the threats, all of which can be substantiated. But because there is no police report that alleges current physical harm done to the plantiff, the SA will refuse to allow the petition for the emergency OP.
Okay. But credit the good as well as the bad.
I do, there are just areas where a lot of people still blame the victim. If say they are still 20% or higher of the population, that creates a societal barrier to the victim.
What is "semi consensual sex"? Anyone who defends sex between a 13 year old girl and an adult qualifies in my mind as a slime ball.

This was at a dinner conversation I was at, one of my wife's friends lives in a small town and we were eating dinner with her grandmother, her grand mother's friend and the friends daughter, They were discussing a case where a thirteen year old had engaged in sex with an adult in thier late fifties. They weren't defending the behavior of the convicted, but they were talking as though the behavior of the thirteen year old was suspect.
These are all outstanding and rather nice people.

I say semi consensual just because the thirteen year old was alleged to have done the acts willingly, but we know the age of consent.
 
Originally posted by CJ
The discrepancy you see as some kind of ideological slight-of-hand to increase rape statistics is anything but. Rather, it's an observation that forms the basis of a fascinating and important research question: how do rape victims perceive their assault? Are they motivated to label it differently? Why? What purpose does it serve?
I expect to see a discrepancy but not a large one. A discrepancy of 50% would surprise me but I would not leap to an immediate conclusion. A discrepancy of 400% is an indication that something strange is going on. I cannot believe that there is no slight of hand going on.

Originally posted by Dancing David[
Was force used?
-Were there verbal threats?
-Were you restrained?
-Was access to the door or phone blocked?
Did you feel coerced?
Did you say no and the act continueed?
I realize that these questions were off the top of your head but these are examples of misleading questions. Feeling coerced (as opposed to clear threat) in no way implies rape. Voluntary restraints (e.g. willing bondage) do not constitute rape. No and continuation is a very iffy definition of rape i.e. it does not necessarily indicate rape.

CBL


CBL
 
I expect to see a discrepancy but not a large one. A discrepancy of 50% would surprise me but I would not leap to an immediate conclusion. A discrepancy of 400% is an indication that something strange is going on. I cannot believe that there is no slight of hand going on.

I realize that these questions were off the top of your head but these are examples of misleading questions. Feeling coerced (as opposed to clear threat) in no way implies rape. Voluntary restraints (e.g. willing bondage) do not constitute rape. No and continuation is a very iffy definition of rape i.e. it does not necessarily indicate rape.

CBL


CBL

Uh, if a person holds you down while they force non-consensual sex, as I said the question have to be fine tuned for clarity and usualy are asked a number of times in different forms for consistancy.

Also you have made a blanket defintion of coersion, that does not imply emtional pl;eading, but can include vieled threats , especialy if they are credible threats. Very dangerous arae again. Coersion implies a level of violence in the situation as opposed to persuasion.

You just skated onto the ice with the consent being withdrawn question:
Does consent given the day before count?
Does a consent given in a moment of lirtation count?
Does removing clothing count?
If the victim consents to vaginal/penis sex does that give consent ro anal or oral sex?

A very dangerous area and not iffy in terms of the law.
 
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How would you not know you were raped? Perhaps, afraid to admit a rape had taken place. Maybe to scared to say anything, or maybe even in denia, I can see. Sometimes the rapist is not violent but just someone who manipulates, drugs or draws the other person into having sex out some sort of fear. If a 13 year old girl has sex with a hot looking male teacher she finds attractive and he seduces her and lures her into a situation she feels too afraid to say no....that would be rape. She might not really feel like she was raped because she felt she found him attractive. Given the age and circumstances...that would be rape.
 
I do not mean to downplay the fact that about 2.5% percent of the students were raped. This is horrible. But by pretending the other women are too stupid to know if they were raped, this study trivialized the real rapes.

I've only read the opening post, so I don't know what responses have been made already; however, this does happen. I have a close friend, whom I trust, who went on a trip to Puerto Rico a couple of years ago (a virgin at the time) and, a couple of months later, was told that she was pregnant. She still has no recollection of the encounter, but assuming that she didn't abort the Second Coming, it seems quite probable that she was assaulted at some point on the trip.
 
Some time ago I did a post on the "one in four" figure commonly cited for the percentage of female college students who will be "raped" at some time during their (average of) 4-year stint in higher education.

Being in campus law enforcement, it was easy to figure that at my particular school, we should be having several hundred such assaults reported each couple of years. Instead, none. In the last seven years or so, we have had no sexual assaults reported whatever. The last one was a "date rape" situation where the young woman claimed "he got me drunk and had his way with me", while the young man said "we got drunk together and had consensual sex."
There was no prosecution.

Even considering the (still too high) percentage of unreported assaults, we should have had at least dozens of assaults reported during a typical school year.
My analysis from reading some of the flyers put out by the various feminist groups on campus, as well as articles appearing in the student newspaper, is that only by stretching the term "assault" to include "consensual sex that you subsequently regretted" could such a figure be obtained.
 

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